THE UNSPOKEN CONFLICT

 Every nation possesses its own unique blend of pride, challenges, and population dynamics—the good, the bad, and the ugly. These factors require leaders to manage their countries based on specific cultural heritage, legal frameworks, societal status, and religious influences. As I wrote in my book, Listen to Shoes:

"How come something is right to do on this side of the world, but is wrong on the other side of the world?"

This is a fundamental reality. You cannot expect people to live exactly as they do on the other side of the globe. Expecting universal social norms is as impractical as expecting driving laws or criminal codes to be identical in every jurisdiction. You might be asking, "What? I can’t be expected to obey the rules of the other side of the world while I'm here." You are right; that is a legitimate concern.

Every country has its own culture, laws, and socially accepted behaviors. Even daily habits, like eating supper at 6:00 PM versus late at night, vary wildly. I am shedding light on this because I have noticed a "hidden war" currently taking place between different races, cultures, and legal systems. Each side tries to prove the other is wrong, fueled by the belief that their way is superior. This conflict is a waste of time because neither side will fundamentally change their heritage just to satisfy the expectations of the other. Sadly, we are witnessing hundreds of conflicts born from these unrealistic expectations.

As a resident of Canada—a nation built on immigration—I have personally observed a significant issue. Some individuals move here and, even after three or four decades, continue to live entirely within the culture of their country of origin. This is perfectly acceptable within their private lives; however, problems arise when they cross the line to criticize, humiliate, or belittle others for behaviors they don't consider "normal."

For example, in Canada, it is common for teenagers to start dating at an early age. In other parts of the world, this is not only socially unacceptable but sometimes considered a crime. When these two worldviews collide without mutual respect, friction is inevitable.

Having lived and worked on "both sides" of the world, my suggestion for resolving this conflict is simple: Keep your private life, beliefs, and expectations personal. Freedom means you are allowed to live however you choose, provided you do not interfere with the lives of others. The problem is not how you live; the problem starts the moment you expect others to live according to your personal standards.

When you live in any country as a citizen, you agree to follow specific rules and laws—this is non-negotiable, whether you like them or not. However, your personal life remains your choice. The key to harmony is simple: Live your truth, but do not force it upon others.