THE SHADOW POWER OF SILENCE: RETHINKING DIGITAL VISIBILITY

 The old expression "do not be scared of those who are loud, be scared of those who are quiet" has taken on a chilling new meaning in the digital era. Historically, this proverb suggested that loud people vent their frustrations openly, while quiet people might be calculating their next move. Today, this social dynamic has evolved into a dangerous power imbalance involving public presence, cyber harassment, and underground activities.

In our current culture, having an active online profile is often treated as an invitation for scrutiny. When a person is public, sharing their thoughts and information, they become a soft target. Because their lives are documented and accessible, they are frequently subjected to harassment, abuse, or coordinated cyberattacks.

There is a disturbing logic at play here: many believe that because someone is "loud" or visible, they are fair game. This transparency is often mistaken for a lack of power, making the individual appear vulnerable to those who wish to cause harm from the safety of the shadows.

On the flip side, we are seeing the rise of a culture that equates a lack of digital presence with hidden strength or "underground" authority. By remaining off the grid and staying quiet, certain individuals or groups cultivate an aura of mystery that commands fear.

As you have noted, some use this lack of a media profile as a deliberate cover. While many stay offline for simple privacy, a more dangerous segment uses this total anonymity to facilitate illegal activities. Because they have no footprint, they are difficult to track, making them the silent "center of fear" in many communities. They understand the cultural bias that the quietest person in the room is the most dangerous, and they use that perception to operate without accountability.

This divide creates a toxic environment. It suggests that if you choose to participate in public life, you must accept being a target, while those who hide away are granted a form of "untouchable" status. This culture rewards those who operate in the dark and punishes those who are honest and open.

When groups deliberately use their lack of profile to shield illegal or harmful behavior, they are exploiting a gap in how we understand power. The "quiet ones" are not always just being private; sometimes, they are utilizing the fear of the unknown to maintain control and avoid the consequences of their actions.

DEMOCRACY DEMANDS DIALOGUE: A RESPONSE TO MY CRITICS

As a Canadian-Iranian writer who has spent 20 years fighting for the right to speak my mind, I believe it is time to address the wave of verbal threats, sarcasm, and linguistic manipulation I received following my last post.

My "offense" was simple: I urged journalists to report on the situation in Iran with accuracy and neutrality, without taking sides. For this, I have been met with hostility from those who claim to want freedom for Iran, yet refuse to tolerate a dissenting opinion.

If we are truly striving for democracy, we must understand its fundamental requirement: the existence of opposition. * Dictatorship thrives on a single, forced narrative and the silencing of "others."

 * Democracy thrives on a variety of voices, even—and especially—the ones we disagree with.

My Position as an Independent Writer

I want to be very clear to those attempting to pressure me:

 * I will not apologize: I will not alter my beliefs to make you happy, nor will I change my tone to be liked.

 * Independence is my foundation: My thoughts are not for sale, and they are not subject to the approval of a mob.

 * Respect my boundaries: Threatening my personal life or trying to interfere with my privacy does not prove your point; it only proves that you have not yet learned the basic tenets of the freedom you claim to seek.

 "Freedom of speech is unnecessary if it only applies to the voices we agree with. It is meant specifically to protect the right to be different."

Instead of spending your energy trying to silence me, I invite you to learn how to be open to ideas that do not match your own. That is the only way we will ever build a society that is truly free.

HOW TWO DECADES OF SYSTEMIC ABUSE TRYING TO SHUT ME UP

 As many of you are aware, I began writing after enduring a prolonged period in a toxic environment marked by systemic injustice. My goal has always been to shed light on social, economic, and political issues that are either overlooked or intentionally ignored.

However, from the moment I began sharing my voice, my private life became a target. For twenty years, I have lived under a microscope. My health and medical records, my financial information, my relationships, and my family status have all been weaponized against me in the public eye.

The harassment I face is not just digital; it is pervasive. I have experienced:

• Surveillance: Constant monitoring of my daily habits—what I eat, wear, and say—often echoed back to me immediately as a intimidation tactic.

• Cyber-Attacks: Systematic hacking of my computers and private data.

• Domestic Interference: The inability to even watch a movie or listen to music in my own home without facing "feedback" or retaliation from these bullies.

• Character Assassination: The spreading of rumors in every community I enter to turn people against me before I even arrive.

Most devastatingly, these bullies have targeted my family. They use my daughters and my ex-husband as "front-line" tools, attempting to create a rift between us through mirroring and manipulation. By painting me as the problem and utilizing narcissistic tactics, they aim to isolate me from those I love most.

I have not been silent. I have filed hundreds of complaints with organizations across Canada—from local authorities to the highest levels of government, including Human Rights commissions, Public Safety Canada, and Cyber Security agencies and courts . Despite these efforts, the abuse has not only continued but escalated.

This twenty-year campaign of emotional harassment and privacy invasion has one goal: to shut me up. They want to prevent me from disclosing the truth about their abuse and the injustices I have witnessed.

I am posting this today to inform the public of what has been planned and executed against me for two decades. I am asking for the world to see the reality of the situation I live in and the lengths to which bullies will go to suppress the truth.

THE SINGLE STIGMA

 One of the most significant social issues in North America today, particularly in Canada, is the contradictory pressure surrounding romantic relationships. We see a strange phenomenon: those in relationships are often desperate to get out, while those who are single are desperate to get in. Even more troubling is the number of individuals who remain in unhappy partnerships simply to avoid the labels of "single," "divorced," or "separated."

​There is a pervasive, unfair assumption that if a person—especially a woman—is divorced, separated, or has never been in a serious relationship, there must be a fundamental flaw in her character. This "wrong culture" suggests that:

• ​Couples are "Successful": Regardless of how miserable or toxic their private life is, their status protects them from judgment.
• ​Singles are "Broken": Even if they are thriving, happy, and independent, society views them as a problem to be solved.

​This insecurity often leads to social exclusion. Couples, driven by a fear of losing their partner or a lack of trust, frequently exclude single individuals from gatherings. It’s as if the mere presence of a single person is a threat to the stability of their own relationship. This creates a society that feels like an imbalanced scale, where one side is held out of reach and the other is weighed down by social expectations.

​We hide behind a thousand excuses to justify why relationships fail or why we won't give someone a chance:

• ​External Factors: Money, health, education, and job status.
• ​Demographics: Race, culture, language,look and age.

​Yet, we see rich couples who cannot stand one another and poor couples who struggle daily. The reality is that true connection comes down to type and chemistry, not a checklist of social credentials.

​This is a social problem that everyone sees, but most choose to ignore. Speaking out against these norms often feels like a "crime" that invites harsh judgment. However, it is time for public education and a cultural shift. We must learn that being single is not a failure, and being in a relationship is not a trophy.

It is time to stop judging and start valuing individual happiness over societal status, ending the marginalization of singles fueled by our own fear of failure.

THE NARRATIVE OF MODERN SACRIFICE IN TOXIC DYNAMICS

 The transition from overt harassment to a calculated performance of kindness is not a sign of reform. It is a sophisticated psychological maneuver where the bully pivots to the role of a nice cop. For those who have endured two decades of injustice within toxic work environments and personal relationships, this sudden shift is a tactical phase of the cycle. It is designed to complete a total reversal of roles, where the perpetrator is rebranded as the reasonable party and the victim is cast as the disturbed antagonist.

This technique relies on the total exhaustion of the target. After twenty years of systemic violation, the bully capitalizes on a person's vulnerability by introducing small variations in behavior. They play nice just enough to make the victim feel unstable for maintaining their defenses. It is a deliberate effort to make the victim forget their history, effectively silencing the narrative of how a successful business and family woman was systematically dismantled.

The power dynamic in these scenarios is reinforced by a perceived immunity. When bullies possess wealth and status, they operate under the assumption that they are allowed to violate the rights of others. In this landscape, the justice system does not merely fail to intervene; it often ignores the evidence and rewards the bullies, granting them further social or professional standing. This institutional silence provides cover for the aggressor, ensuring that the gaslighting and injustice never truly end.

A particularly invasive element of this long-term campaign is the manipulation of identity to maintain control. Bullies frequently cross the line by infantilizing the victim, pretending an adult woman is a child who requires them to make decisions for her. Conversely, they may flip this script entirely, demanding the victim take on the burden of a provider who must solve the problems of the bullies' own children and resolve their future crises.

This creates a parasitic relationship where the victim is treated like a slave or a resource. The bully expects the target to live at their level and follow their lifestyle while simultaneously forcing the target to find resolutions for the bully’s financial, health, and relationship problems. By framing the victim as responsible for everyone else’s wealth and well-being, the abusers successfully mask their control as a form of social or familial obligation.

At its core, this dynamic mirrors a sacrificial narrative. The victim is treated as an entity meant to be offered up for the benefit or the testing of others, reminiscent of the story of Esmaiel and Ebrahim. In this warped worldview, the bullies cast themselves as agents of a higher test, believing they have the right to sacrifice the victim’s life, success, and mental health as a demonstration of their own power or as a solution to their own grievances.

Ultimately, this psychological warfare is intended to force a state of total submission. By making the victim’s living situation miserable, the abusers hope to force her to forget the decades of physical and emotional abuse. They want to see the target fall, hoping she will eventually beg for the very people who destroyed her life to return to it. This cycle of taking a person down is how they maintain their sense of power and avoid the loss of control they fear most.

YOUR DELUSION IS NOT MY REALITY

 Every writer possesses a wild imagination; it is the engine that drives us to create worlds of crime, romance, or fantasy. But there is a dark side to being a creator—not from within, but from the assumptions of others. For over 15 years, I have lived under a microscope of "guesswork" where every action I take is twisted to fit an abusive narrative.

For these individuals, my life is not my own; it is a script they are trying to direct. They have populated my world with "characters" labeled by numbers (1, 2, 3, 4...).

• The Accusations: If I buy something, it’s a "clue." If I watch a movie, I’m "reporting" to someone. Even being sick is treated as a calculated move in their imaginary game.

• The Numbered Ghosts: Numbers 1 and 2 seem to be their favorites. They’ve invented "exes" and "contacts" associated with these digits, insisting I am in constant communication with people who do not exist in my reality.

If these thoughts stayed in their heads, it would be manageable. Instead, it has evolved into active harassment:

1. Demand for Action: They expect me to host parties for these imaginary people or "find" them in the real world.

2. Invasion of Privacy: They assume these characters live in my home or communicate with me through the TV.

3. Erasure of Truth: Despite my clear statements that my book characters are fiction, they insist they are real people. They’ve even fabricated "living" parents or siblings moving to Canada, claiming every move I make is for them.

This nonsense has persisted since long before I started writing, but my career has unfortunately given them fresh fuel. Most distressingly, this "fan fiction" of my life has bled into legal matters, where their baseless guesses are treated with a seriousness they don't deserve.

It is a bizarre irony: I write fiction for a living, yet I am the one fighting to stay grounded in facts while others try to force me to live inside their broken fantasies.

A RESPONSE TO RECENT UNETHICAL BELITTLING CAMPAIGNS AND THE "YEAH, IT IS YOU"

 ​It is a common challenge for political writers to have their personal beliefs or fictional characters scrutinized. However, I have recently encountered a persistent and coordinated effort to blur these lines in a way that is both irrational and defamatory.

​1. Fiction vs. Reality

​I have stated this repeatedly: my characters are works of fiction. Attempting to find "clues" about my private life within the pages of a book is illogical. My creative output does not serve as a diary, and my characters do not represent my personal choices or business dealings.

​2. Addressing the "Yeah, That's You" Narrative

​I have noticed a recurring pattern where individuals attempt to belittle my interests, businesses, and personal milestones by claiming they are reflections of my fictional work. This "childish advertising" and aggressive questioning of my professionalism or financial status is not just unprofessional—it is a form of harassment.

• ​To be clear: My personal life and my business ventures outside of writing are entirely independent of my books or my political opinions.
• ​The "Truth": If these groups are searching for a "lost truth," they will not find it in my private life. My family, friends, and professional associates know my reality; the projections of strangers are irrelevant.

​3. Final Warning on Interference

​The attempt to interfere with my professional business through defamation and "personality questioning" is a cheap tactic used by those who have nothing of value to offer. These actions are unethical and, in many cases, illegal.

​I will not be intimidated by those who use my creativity as a weapon to attack my character. Moving forward, I will continue to focus on my professional growth, unbothered by the "zero-value" opinions of those living in a world of their own invention.