THE SINGLE STIGMA

 One of the most significant social issues in North America today, particularly in Canada, is the contradictory pressure surrounding romantic relationships. We see a strange phenomenon: those in relationships are often desperate to get out, while those who are single are desperate to get in. Even more troubling is the number of individuals who remain in unhappy partnerships simply to avoid the labels of "single," "divorced," or "separated."

​There is a pervasive, unfair assumption that if a person—especially a woman—is divorced, separated, or has never been in a serious relationship, there must be a fundamental flaw in her character. This "wrong culture" suggests that:

• ​Couples are "Successful": Regardless of how miserable or toxic their private life is, their status protects them from judgment.
• ​Singles are "Broken": Even if they are thriving, happy, and independent, society views them as a problem to be solved.

​This insecurity often leads to social exclusion. Couples, driven by a fear of losing their partner or a lack of trust, frequently exclude single individuals from gatherings. It’s as if the mere presence of a single person is a threat to the stability of their own relationship. This creates a society that feels like an imbalanced scale, where one side is held out of reach and the other is weighed down by social expectations.

​We hide behind a thousand excuses to justify why relationships fail or why we won't give someone a chance:

• ​External Factors: Money, health, education, and job status.
• ​Demographics: Race, culture, language,look and age.

​Yet, we see rich couples who cannot stand one another and poor couples who struggle daily. The reality is that true connection comes down to type and chemistry, not a checklist of social credentials.

​This is a social problem that everyone sees, but most choose to ignore. Speaking out against these norms often feels like a "crime" that invites harsh judgment. However, it is time for public education and a cultural shift. We must learn that being single is not a failure, and being in a relationship is not a trophy.

It is time to stop judging and start valuing individual happiness over societal status, ending the marginalization of singles fueled by our own fear of failure.

THE NARRATIVE OF MODERN SACRIFICE IN TOXIC DYNAMICS

 The transition from overt harassment to a calculated performance of kindness is not a sign of reform. It is a sophisticated psychological maneuver where the bully pivots to the role of a nice cop. For those who have endured two decades of injustice within toxic work environments and personal relationships, this sudden shift is a tactical phase of the cycle. It is designed to complete a total reversal of roles, where the perpetrator is rebranded as the reasonable party and the victim is cast as the disturbed antagonist.

This technique relies on the total exhaustion of the target. After twenty years of systemic violation, the bully capitalizes on a person's vulnerability by introducing small variations in behavior. They play nice just enough to make the victim feel unstable for maintaining their defenses. It is a deliberate effort to make the victim forget their history, effectively silencing the narrative of how a successful business and family woman was systematically dismantled.

The power dynamic in these scenarios is reinforced by a perceived immunity. When bullies possess wealth and status, they operate under the assumption that they are allowed to violate the rights of others. In this landscape, the justice system does not merely fail to intervene; it often ignores the evidence and rewards the bullies, granting them further social or professional standing. This institutional silence provides cover for the aggressor, ensuring that the gaslighting and injustice never truly end.

A particularly invasive element of this long-term campaign is the manipulation of identity to maintain control. Bullies frequently cross the line by infantilizing the victim, pretending an adult woman is a child who requires them to make decisions for her. Conversely, they may flip this script entirely, demanding the victim take on the burden of a provider who must solve the problems of the bullies' own children and resolve their future crises.

This creates a parasitic relationship where the victim is treated like a slave or a resource. The bully expects the target to live at their level and follow their lifestyle while simultaneously forcing the target to find resolutions for the bully’s financial, health, and relationship problems. By framing the victim as responsible for everyone else’s wealth and well-being, the abusers successfully mask their control as a form of social or familial obligation.

At its core, this dynamic mirrors a sacrificial narrative. The victim is treated as an entity meant to be offered up for the benefit or the testing of others, reminiscent of the story of Esmaiel and Ebrahim. In this warped worldview, the bullies cast themselves as agents of a higher test, believing they have the right to sacrifice the victim’s life, success, and mental health as a demonstration of their own power or as a solution to their own grievances.

Ultimately, this psychological warfare is intended to force a state of total submission. By making the victim’s living situation miserable, the abusers hope to force her to forget the decades of physical and emotional abuse. They want to see the target fall, hoping she will eventually beg for the very people who destroyed her life to return to it. This cycle of taking a person down is how they maintain their sense of power and avoid the loss of control they fear most.

YOUR DELUSION IS NOT MY REALITY

 Every writer possesses a wild imagination; it is the engine that drives us to create worlds of crime, romance, or fantasy. But there is a dark side to being a creator—not from within, but from the assumptions of others. For over 15 years, I have lived under a microscope of "guesswork" where every action I take is twisted to fit an abusive narrative.

For these individuals, my life is not my own; it is a script they are trying to direct. They have populated my world with "characters" labeled by numbers (1, 2, 3, 4...).

• The Accusations: If I buy something, it’s a "clue." If I watch a movie, I’m "reporting" to someone. Even being sick is treated as a calculated move in their imaginary game.

• The Numbered Ghosts: Numbers 1 and 2 seem to be their favorites. They’ve invented "exes" and "contacts" associated with these digits, insisting I am in constant communication with people who do not exist in my reality.

If these thoughts stayed in their heads, it would be manageable. Instead, it has evolved into active harassment:

1. Demand for Action: They expect me to host parties for these imaginary people or "find" them in the real world.

2. Invasion of Privacy: They assume these characters live in my home or communicate with me through the TV.

3. Erasure of Truth: Despite my clear statements that my book characters are fiction, they insist they are real people. They’ve even fabricated "living" parents or siblings moving to Canada, claiming every move I make is for them.

This nonsense has persisted since long before I started writing, but my career has unfortunately given them fresh fuel. Most distressingly, this "fan fiction" of my life has bled into legal matters, where their baseless guesses are treated with a seriousness they don't deserve.

It is a bizarre irony: I write fiction for a living, yet I am the one fighting to stay grounded in facts while others try to force me to live inside their broken fantasies.

A RESPONSE TO RECENT UNETHICAL BELITTLING CAMPAIGNS AND THE "YEAH, IT IS YOU"

 ​It is a common challenge for political writers to have their personal beliefs or fictional characters scrutinized. However, I have recently encountered a persistent and coordinated effort to blur these lines in a way that is both irrational and defamatory.

​1. Fiction vs. Reality

​I have stated this repeatedly: my characters are works of fiction. Attempting to find "clues" about my private life within the pages of a book is illogical. My creative output does not serve as a diary, and my characters do not represent my personal choices or business dealings.

​2. Addressing the "Yeah, That's You" Narrative

​I have noticed a recurring pattern where individuals attempt to belittle my interests, businesses, and personal milestones by claiming they are reflections of my fictional work. This "childish advertising" and aggressive questioning of my professionalism or financial status is not just unprofessional—it is a form of harassment.

• ​To be clear: My personal life and my business ventures outside of writing are entirely independent of my books or my political opinions.
• ​The "Truth": If these groups are searching for a "lost truth," they will not find it in my private life. My family, friends, and professional associates know my reality; the projections of strangers are irrelevant.

​3. Final Warning on Interference

​The attempt to interfere with my professional business through defamation and "personality questioning" is a cheap tactic used by those who have nothing of value to offer. These actions are unethical and, in many cases, illegal.

​I will not be intimidated by those who use my creativity as a weapon to attack my character. Moving forward, I will continue to focus on my professional growth, unbothered by the "zero-value" opinions of those living in a world of their own invention.

BEYOND THE PAGES OF DAYLON: A CALL FOR INTEGRITY IN THE FACE OF PERSONAL ATTACKS

 The world is fraught with hundreds of hidden and obvious socio-political challenges. For authors, journalists, and filmmakers, one of the highest callings is to highlight these issues to capture the attention of those in power. While many works are celebrated with awards for shedding light on these dark corners, there is always a duality of response: appreciation from the public and pushback from those who feel exposed.

Both healthy appreciation and constructive criticism motivate creators to refine their craft. However, a more sinister element exists—individuals and organizations that profit from tobacco, alcohol, drugs, and guns—who work tirelessly to obscure the trauma linked to their industries.

I want to be clear: I am not calling for a blanket ban on these things. Social drinking, smoking, the medicinal use of drugs, and the protective use of firearms all have their place in specific contexts. My concern lies with the systemic abuse of these elements and the fallout it creates.

Since the publication of my book, Daylon, I have faced a coordinated effort to silence my voice. Rather than engaging with the book’s themes, certain entities have resorted to:

• Defamation: Linking the issues of addiction and violence to my personal life, my family, and my country of origin.

• False Assumptions: Claiming that writing about these tragedies must mean I have a personal history with them.

• Sabotage: Using insults and personal attacks to distract from the "cliché" or superficial subjects they produce.

While there is a market for "cliché" entertainment—and I enjoy it myself for relaxation—it should never come at the cost of slandering those who choose to write about deeper, more uncomfortable truths. No organization should be allowed to use defamation as a shield for their profits.

I am calling upon:

• Movie producers and scriptwriters

• Magazines and book reviewers

• Publishers and literary critics

I ask you to stand against this corrupt approach. Do not allow the sabotage of literature for the sake of corporate profit. We must protect the integrity of our creative community and ensure that those who dare to highlight the world’s flaws are not punished for their bravery.

TRADING ONE LOSS FOR ANOTHER

 There is a fine line between teaching children the value of their circumstances and using those circumstances to trap them. While we often limit resources to help the next generation understand the worth of freedom, this approach is frequently pushed to a toxic extreme. When being grateful is used to justify injustice, it ceases to be a virtue and becomes a tool of oppression.

We often encounter individuals who claim we have more than we should, using our past successes as an excuse to diminish our current suffering. Even worse is the group that actively strips away your opportunities or your hard-earned efforts, only to tell you that you have no right to be angry or sad about what was taken.

This logic is as hollow as it is cruel. It is like a justice system that, upon hearing a parent’s plea for their murdered child, responds by taking their remaining child away—demanding they feel thankful for what is left rather than seeking justice for what was lost.

I have faced this manipulation for years. When I resigned from a harassing work environment to protect my well-being, I was met with a blacklist and told I should have been grateful for the job I had. This is a ridiculous double standard: you are told to accept abuse as the price for your position, and if you demand dignity, they attempt to ruin your future to prove you should have stayed silent.

This constant comparison is a tactic to force the adoption of, and submission to, harassment and bullying. It is an attempt to make the victim believe they deserve the abuse because of what they once possessed.

What these individuals fail to realize is that they are building a culture of silence. By protecting bullies and punishing those who stand up for themselves, they are eroding the foundations of justice for everyone. They believe they are safe behind their comparisons, but a culture that fosters injustice eventually turns on everyone—including those who helped build it.

True gratitude cannot exist where there is no justice.

NOT YOUR BUSINESS

 It is staggering how some individuals persist in spying on you, desperate to find a shred of regret following a separation or divorce. They employ a toolkit of deception: tricking you, spying, delaying your milestones, and sabotaging your relationships with family and friends. They insert themselves into your business and, after years of mental and emotional abuse, somehow expect to be welcomed back with open arms.

Individuals who operate this way do not just deserve to live without the loved ones they drove away; they require professional help to diagnose the delusions and deception driving their behavior.

Relationships are private decisions made between two people. It is beyond interference—it is heretical—to observe outsiders jumping into the middle of a separation to perform for one side or sabotage the other. These people often convince themselves they are "doing a favor" or helping you return to your "previous life," when in reality, they are simply extending the cycle of abuse.

They operate on the arrogant assumption that you are desperate to return to a past you consciously chose to leave. This reaches a level of absurdity where every positive step you take for yourself—moving, self-care, buying something new, or dressing up—is misinterpreted as a signal that you are "dying" to see your ex again.

I have personally faced this harassment for nearly 15 years. Even after all this time, every move I make is met with the assumption that I am desperate for my ex or "couldn't find anyone like him." To those harboring these thoughts, I have four things to say:

1. Mind Your Business: It is not your place to involve yourself in the private dynamics of a relationship that ended over a decade ago.

2. The Timeline of Truth: If there were any desire to reunite, it would have happened years ago. It does not take 15 years to realize a mistake.

3. The Double Standard: If I were to interfere in your personal life the way you do mine, you would scream and play the victim. Yet, you feel entitled to follow me and interfere with my life 15 years later.

4. The Truth About New Relationships: You wonder why I haven't entered a new relationship? It is because every person I met seemed to be on a "mission" to make me regret my separation. They played games—acting like "bad boys" or behaving like children—to manipulate my emotions.

It became clear that this interference extended into every corner of my life, from stores to medical services. No one should have to navigate a relationship that is being puppet-mastered by men trying to prove their exes "regret" leaving them.

The most unsettling part is that while my ex may not have approached me directly, there has been a persistent effort behind the scenes to prove a narrative: that the woman is the one begging to return. It is hard to believe that 15 years later, my life is still being disrupted by men playing the "nice guy" role while trying to prove their spouses were at fault.

Final Thought: To those obsessed with this narrative: see a professional. Explore the root of your obsession and the need to prove you were "the best" while painting your former partner as the villain. True healing comes from moving on, not from 15 years of trying to force a regret that doesn't exist.