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THE HIDDEN PRICE OF JEALOUSY

 Competing with others to prove your worth is a game you will never win.

If you are truly at peace with who you are and content with the life you lead, there is zero need to compare your life, your belongings, your relationships, or anything else to someone else’s.

When you live in a constant state of comparison and contest, you might manage to gain similar things or build a similar facade, but it will never bring you genuine happiness. The standards will always move. There will always be someone richer, someone better-looking, someone with a higher-status job, or someone with better health and greater wealth.

If you spend your whole life locked in jealousy and competition, you waste precious energy trying to outdo others—energy that could have been spent enjoying what you already have or improving your life on your own terms.

This hidden competition is deeply unhealthy. It harms your peace of mind, and it strains your relationships with the very people you are trying to outshine.

Stop and think before you act: Are you living your life for yourself, or are you just living it to compete with her?

A FAIR DEAL OR NO DEAL

As a Canadian writer following the trade negotiations between the United States and Canada, I believe Prime Minister Mark Carney’s decision to end the negotiations is ultimately in Canada’s best interest. While walking away will inevitably place short-term pressure on Canadian businesses facing new tariffs, maintaining a firm stance is crucial for our long-term economic independence.

​From a protectionist standpoint, President Trump’s strategy of applying steep tariffs to foreign imports is designed to serve his nation's interests. By imposing high taxes on imported goods, his administration aims to direct internal businesses to produce, trade, and purchase domestic products—driving consumers toward American goods because heavily taxed imports struggle to compete on price.

​When it comes to Canada, the U.S. undoubtedly relies on our critical resources. However, as Prime Minister Carney recognized, the current U.S. approach seeks access to these vital supplies at minimal cost or under threat of total ban. By leaving the negotiations to protect Canadian resources, Prime Minister Carney’s "good deal or no deal" approach is the right boundary to draw for Canada.

​Both leaders are doing their best to protect their citizens, but the fundamental difference lies in their execution: the U.S. is doing it at Canada's expense, whereas Canada is acting defensively to protect its national resources.

​Personally, I believe the U.S., by putting too much pressure on Americans, is taking a risk, while having a fair deal with Canada is in its benefit—and Canada should fight for a good deal or no deal.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH: CLARIFYING THE FACTS AND BOUNDARIES

 Good morning. You know me from my articles on this website and my books.

Today, I am posting this article to put an end to rumors that have been spread everywhere for the last 15 years. The mental and emotional harassment became so bad that I moved to another city, but I notice that even here, those rumors are everywhere.

Certain individuals, in an effort to cover up their nonstop harassment, are using my book characters—mostly from my book Waiting Eyes on the Road—by spreading 24/7 rumors assuming that I am waiting for my book character, that he is real and supporting me, or that he even pays me money. This rumor is too ridiculous to even answer, but since harassers are following me even to my new city and my new home, I have to disclose their abusive assumptions.

Another rumor they are spreading is that I am dying to take my ex back, which is absolutely not true. As I have mentioned many times in my previous posts, we are two adults and have no need for a third party to tell or direct us to reunite or stay separated. If those abusers must know, there is no plan for reuniting.

Another rumor I have noticed is that I regret my separation and that I feel every step I take after it is a mistake. Again, if you must know, I lived with my husband for decades, and while we have many memories, regret is not one of them. We have two daughters together, and separation does not change the facts that we lived a long time together and love our daughters.

A fourth rumor is that some individuals are following me everywhere to criticize my choices, pretending my book characters left me for whatever habit I have. That is, again, too ridiculous to answer, but this emotional abuse is nonstop, and I have to clarify.

For the hundredth and final time: all my books are fictional. I created my characters; they are not real, with the exception of my book Can We Talk, which is my true story.

I am asking for the hundredth time: stop this nonsense and stay out of my personal life.

ALBERT EINSTEIN AND THE RELATIVITY OF HUMAN LIFE

 I was studying Albert Einstein's theories of relativity and comparing them to our daily lives. Einstein said, "There is no such thing as absolute rest in the universe; you can only ever measure your speed compared to something else." It is an incredibly valuable theory. We have all experienced sitting in an airplane feeling no motion at all, or riding a bicycle and feeling a rushing sense of speed. These are perfect everyday examples of relativity. [1, 2, 3]

What drove me to review his theories was noticing how certain individuals behave. Some people believe they are incredibly fast, wealthy, healthy, or whatever other positive adjective they like to tag themselves with. The worst part is that they try to rub it in other people's faces to feel superior. On the flip side, there are many people who look up from a lower position, compare their lives to these individuals, and claim they should be living that exact same way—even believing they have a right to criticize you for not having what you have.

I want to be very clear here: everything is relative. You might be incredibly wealthy compared to one group of people, yet considered completely average—or even poor—by another group. To see this in action, you only need to look at billionaires. They are billionaires, so of course they are wealthy. However, when you compare them to other billionaires, some of them are not even considered rich anymore.

The exact same logic applies to being poor or living in poverty. Some individuals are considered poor compared to an average person. Others might actually be richer than the average person, but because they compare themselves strictly to the upper class, they view themselves as poor.

This brings me right back to Einstein's theory. There is no such thing as an "absolute" standard for anything. It is not just about speed; it applies to wealth, health, education, and smartness. Everything is relative. 

How about we just live our own lives? If we feel richer, healthier, happier, younger or wealthier, we should simply enjoy our life without rubbing it in someone else's face. On the other hand, if we feel poor, sick, slow, old or sad, instead of bothering others and interrupting their lives, we should focus on improving our own circumstances. After all, no one else is responsible for our life except ourselves.

THE COST OF SPEAKING TRUTH TO POWER

 As many of you know, my writing focuses on social and political issues. My motivation is twofold: first, I have personally experienced and suffered from these problems; second, I want to bring them to the attention of those in power so they can take action and fix them.

Unfortunately, instead of addressing the actual issues, many individuals have taken to following me everywhere, digging into my private life, and harassing my family—all under the absurd guise of "shedding light" on my situation. Worse yet, radio and television channels are using deceptive advertising and coverage to actively encourage the public to criticize and target me.

What is completely ridiculous is that a person's private life is their own territory. Whether I am fat or thin, rich or poor, living alone or in a relationship, healthy or sick, and a hundred other personal matters—it is nobody’s business but my own. My personal choices belong solely to me and do not infringe on anyone else. Democracy means having the freedom to live as you choose as long as you do not harm or interfere with others. Yet, for the last 15 years, media platforms and individuals have targeted my personal choices and privacy to criticize me 24/7.

It appears that certain political figures are using these media outlets and individuals to orchestrate this nonsense, aiming to intimidate writers and prevent us from exposing real issues.

I ask them directly: Is not the fundamental purpose of an opposition in any political system to highlight problems so they can be fixed? If so, why are you using the broadcast system, media, and the public to stalk me everywhere—even inside my own home—to report on my personal life?

Whether I am in a relationship or divorced, whether I have money or not, these personal details have zero impact on the public, the country, or society. Your political failures and negligence, however, do.

FROM MY LIBRARY TO YOURS