TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE !

I have noticed, once again, certain individuals attempting to weaponize my articles against me. They falsely claim that their wrongdoing and harassment are somehow a reflection of my family, my ex-partner, or my siblings. Let me be entirely clear: you are an abuser. You are following my children, my family, and me simply to cover up your past or future harassment.

If anyone related to me had actually done what you claim, and you were not just fabricating stories to cover your own false acts, you would at least be able to provide an exact location, time, and situation. As I have explained before, everything must be defined by its specific context.

To give you an example: If you try to copy someone’s happiness by watching how they behave at a wedding, and then you mimic those exact actions and feelings at a funeral, you aren't covering up your mistakes. Instead, the host of the funeral is just left confused as to why you are laughing and celebrating. In that exact same way, I have been left confused for years by your unusual and unacceptable behavior.

Another unbelievable tactic I have witnessed is these individuals searching for anything they can find in my past to justify their unauthorized intrusion into my private life, crossing the line over and over again. I have explained countless times that my books are creations of my own thoughts and that my characters are not real. I have explicitly told these groups to stop their investigations, assumptions, guesses, and predictions. Yet, it seems they are too deeply entrenched in their abusive mindsets to understand that reality is not dictated by their theories. The true reality is that their behavior is disturbing, abusive, and an invasion of privacy.

I do not know why they are so obsessed with my personal life, but it clearly stems from my work as a writer. By shedding light on issues they prefer to keep hidden, I have made myself a target for those trying to find something damaging in my own life.

Let me emphasize this: Addressing public issues is completely different from digging into someone’s private life. My work as a writer and journalist aims to expose unresolved societal issues, which is my job. Your actions, on the other hand, are unethical and illegal.

Furthermore, you aren't even uncovering actual secrets; you are simply inventing abusive, insulting theories and targeting me for years based on them. You claim my daughters, my ex, or my family did something—or, in some cases, you invent a mysterious person to blame or admire for my efforts . I have constantly corrected you, telling you that your assumptions are entirely wrong. Perhaps it is your own family that has committed these acts, and you are projecting and seeking revenge on me just to feel better about yourselves. I have recommended many times that you seek professional help; this constant following, copying, assuming, guessing, testing, and accusing is not curing your pathology, yet you continue to do it.

A final word: If there were actually anything wrong in my past, you surely would have found it by now. You have spent the last 15 years digging into my life, testing every breath I take, and accusing me with every step I take. The fact that you have found nothing proves that your theories are entirely baseless. Hey perhaps I am too good to be true !

RIGHT OR LEFT

 For a long time now, I have noticed a constant, unreasonable conflict driven by so-called "right" and "left" groups. I have no idea how the people who created and have been advertising these labels for the last 15 years actually define them. It seems some individuals simply believe they are "in the right," and anyone else is just "left over."

In this manipulative game of definitions, both sides seem to think that using me as a punching bag will somehow solve their problems.

To that, the answer is simple: **"You should break yourself, not the mirror."**

A mirror is only a reflection; it is not the reality. What is real is who you are inside—no matter if you call yourself right, left, cold, hot, heavy, thin, black, white, or anything else. Projecting onto others is a clear dysfunction within you. No one else can fix it, and no one can "cure" you the way you might wish, except yourself.

No one is responsible for your life except you. Stop looking to someone else to hand you a job, money, progress, or success. Take accountability for yourself.

THE 2026 WORLD CUP IS HERE, SO WHY AM I WATCHING A DIGITAL GAME?

 It is amazing and truly an honour for Canada to be a host of the 2026 World Cup. I was so excited to watch the first Canadian game on June 12 without having to walk to the stadium. I checked TV, radio, and other media, but there was no sign of the football match, which in North America is called soccer.

After half an hour of searching, I found a YouTube video labeled “live streaming: Canada vs. Bosnia.” I watched for five minutes with excitement, but from the beginning something felt wrong. The video showed Canada winning 1–0, yet the technicality of play seemed unusuall for a World Cup match. I’m no expert, but as a football fan who has watched many games, I realized this couldn’t be real. Looking closer, I saw it was actually a digital game simulation.

My question is: as a host of this worldwide event, shouldn’t I be able to just walk into the Tim Hortons across my street and watch the live game on their TV or screen?

TRUE LOVE DOES NOT TAKE HOSTAGES

 It is an undeniable fact that every country wishes to retain its citizens—especially those who are smart, skilled, and productive—to help the nation grow and prosper. Consequently, many countries that lose their brightest minds to immigration are understandably unhappy about it.

A similar dynamic exists within families. Many parents, driven by deep affection, wish to keep their children close or even live with them, even well into adulthood. While the underlying emotion behind this mentality is understandable, it often fails to consider what the adult children actually want and plan for their own lives.

Those who decide to move abroad or leave their parents' home to live independently are making choices for their own future. Every major life decision comes with consequences, both good and bad. What is entirely unacceptable, however, is when authorities or parents attempt to impose limitations, exercise control, or deliberately make life difficult for those who have chosen to leave. This controlling approach is what creates deep-seated problems, makes a person’s life miserable, and forces them to fight back. Ironically, the very approach that is labeled as "love" gradually degrades into dislike and hatred.

This brings to mind a famous quote: "If you love someone, let them go. If they return, they were always yours; if they don't, they never were." This is the true definition of love. Holding onto your children, citizens, or anyone else simply to satisfy your own emotional needs isn't love—it is keeping them hostage for your own comfort. True lovers are those selflessly willing to let their loved ones go, giving them the freedom to live the lives they choose.

STEALING A PERSONA TO COVER AN EMPTY IDENTITY

As a writer, you expect audiences to read your work, reflect on it, and perhaps find a piece of themselves within the pages. What you do not expect is for individuals to steal your fictional worlds, slip into them like costumes, and attempt to drag you into a chaotic, manufactured reality. For years, I have witnessed a bizarre and exhausting phenomenon: people taking my fiction—specifically my book *"Waiting Eyes on the Road"* and * Without *—attempting to play out its characters in real life, weaponizing my own creativity against me.

They constantly switch back and forth between two entirely different identities: one moment acting as a struggling, marginalized immigrant or a poor individual, and the next moment pretending to be an original, established Canadian or rich person. This fluid, chaotic shape-shifting—using my book's themes as a playground—is the ultimate sign of having no real identity. They don't know who they are, so they look to my text to tell them who to be today.

This behavior raises critical questions about copyright, human psychology, and the desperate lengths to which some will go to escape their own reality.

The first, most practical question is logistical: how do individuals who have never legally purchased my books become so intimately aware of their contents? In the digital age, copyright infringement and unauthorized sharing run rampant. Whether through public previews, digital scraping, or illicit private sharing, these groups bypass legal boundaries to access my work without authorization.

But the deeper question is not how they read it—it is why they are so utterly obsessed with it. Why are my fiction books so important to them that they are willing to completely abandon their own lives to play-act inside mine?

The answer lies in a profound crisis of identity.

As the old adage goes, a person who truly knows who they are has no desire to pretend to be someone else. Someone secure in their own skin never tries to force themselves into the role of a book hero, nor do they desperately pretend to be a "suffering character" to garner unearned sympathy.

When people lack a genuine sense of self, they "rent" identities from fiction. They desperately want to be fiction because being real is too painful. They have built a reality full of mistakes, deception, or a lack of personal achievement. They believe that if they play a character convincingly enough, the world will forget who they actually are. They use a stolen script because real life requires accountability, and a fictional script allows them to control the narrative. By casting themselves as the victim or the protagonist, they try to force the author into the role of the villain—be it an abusive mother-in-law, an ex-husband, or a bitter ex-lover.

This desperate need for control doesn't stop at the plotlines of a book; it spills over into an obsession with my real-world finances. For years, I have noticed these same groups hyper-focusing on and criticizing my financial status. They alternate rapidly between two extremes: either insisting that I am poor, or claiming that I am incredibly wealthy, and then shifting their behavior to fight against whichever imaginary version of me they’ve created.

They walk around me constantly demanding that I shouldn't have done this or that, projecting their own financial anxieties onto my life. They claim my actions are "signs of being rich," while simultaneously demanding jobs and money from me. In an attempt to suppress my reality, they threaten me, saying, *"Don't say you have money," "Don't say you can afford this,"* or *"Don't say you can do this or that,"* simply because they cannot do it themselves.

Another group assumes that anything I say or do is directly related to my book characters. Regardless of the fact that these are works of fiction, they use these stolen characters as reality, questioning my every step as if I somehow became a criminal just by writing those books. They invent wild theories about my life—imagining that maybe I am an addict, a politician, or extremely wealthy, or that I escaped from my family or be this or that.

One fact that amuses me most is that even businesses are involved in this play-act. Their communication completely changes, shifting as if they have known me from the past, have some mysterious connection to higher powers, or are even spies from other countries. This wild fiction-playing has been spinning completely out of hand for years.

It is utterly ridiculous to witness. They are terrified of my writing, terrified of my independence, and terrified of the truth. Because they cannot elevate themselves, they try to pull me down, using my own words as weapons to police my budget, my lifestyle, and my success. Some individuals crossing the line control my finances by interference in my daily life preventing I close my deals or travel or even step out of my proprty constantly looking for my books characters in my life .

The tragedy of their behavior is that it is a trap of their own design. You cannot build a stable life on stolen text, borrowed identities, and financial envy. They think covering the truth with lies and playing a character can make others feel sorry for them or force me into submission.

But reality cannot be erased by theatrical roles. The harder they try to manipulate the narrative through lies, intellectual property theft, cheating, and fighting against the author, the deeper they drown in the false dirt they have created for themselves.

As a writer, my identity is secure, and the worlds I create belong to me. They can try to play dress-up in my characters' clothes , but at the end of the day, they are still the ones wandering around in the dark, desperately looking for a costume to wear.

BEYOND THE WALL: THE BLAME GAME OF INTEGRATION

 We have all read in history books about the momentous day the Berlin Wall fell, and how East and West Germany merged into a unified nation. Initially, there was euphoria; people had fought desperately for this moment. Yet, as history later revealed, the initial wave of happiness eventually gave way to complex regrets.

When two worlds merge—even those sharing the same land and heritage—they are suddenly forced to confront deep economic, political, and cultural divides. At first, the excitement of change masks these fractures. But once the novelty wears off, a competitive game of "show me yours, and I'll show you mine" begins. Both sides face off, trying to prove they were the "better half," while insisting that every new problem is entirely the other side’s fault.

I don’t mean to dwell purely on the history of Berlin. Rather, I want to highlight a frustrating phenomenon that I, as an immigrant, have faced for decades.I noticed anywhere I work, go, or do, if I point out an issue, those who caused the problem immediately try to turn the tables and blame immigrants, and even announce it in my face: "they are yours, or it is you." Yet, anything professional, ethical, appropriate, and efficient happening, they immediately take credit for it as a "they are ours, it is me" scenario.

It is  clear many who originally championed "breaking the wall" now secretly regret the realities of integration. They want to fiercely protect their old cultural bubbles and maintain their previous financial status, all while exploiting their new political rights to control the narrative. They want the benefits of a borderless world, but refuse the shared accountability that comes with it.

Looking back, perhaps the wall should never have been broken in that manner. It might have been better to leave the boundaries intact, giving everyone a clear, permanent choice: stay on your side, or stay on mine. Because when you tear down a wall without opening your mind, you simply build a new, invisible barrier made of scapegoating and resentment.

THE DICTATORSHIP OF TWISTED RESPECT

 We have all heard the timeless advice: "Treat people the way you want to be treated." It is a noble principle meant to encourage professionalism, ethics in business, and committed, unconditional love in relationships. It is supposed to build mutual respect.

Unfortunately, this standard is increasingly being twisted by some individuals into a tool for control, abuse, and harassment.

Instead of inspiring kindness, the statement is being misused to justify toxic behaviors and retaliation:

• In Professional Environments: If you choose to quit a job for your own growth, it is used to justify blacklisting or having other companies abruptly "quit" on you.

• In Family Dynamics: If you train your children behave , it is twisted so that they treat you like a child—expecting you to obey them rather than showing you parental respect or your partner mirroring you .

• In Personal Choices: If you exercise your freedom of choice—whether it is disliking a store, a movie, a song, a neighborhood, or a property—they actively retaliate against your tastes. They force unrelated consequences into completely irrelevant events just because you didn't conform.

This behavior has absolutely nothing to do with love or respect. Instead, it creates an abusive, dictatorial environment designed to force you into living exactly how they want you to live, liking only what they approve of. The moment you exercise your own free will or use your personal options, you suddenly find yourself under attack and facing harassment everywhere you turn.

It raises a deeply troubling question about our society: Are we living in a world where the very best advice is being weaponized against our personal choices?