BEYOND THE WALL: THE BLAME GAME OF INTEGRATION

 We have all read in history books about the momentous day the Berlin Wall fell, and how East and West Germany merged into a unified nation. Initially, there was euphoria; people had fought desperately for this moment. Yet, as history later revealed, the initial wave of happiness eventually gave way to complex regrets.

When two worlds merge—even those sharing the same land and heritage—they are suddenly forced to confront deep economic, political, and cultural divides. At first, the excitement of change masks these fractures. But once the novelty wears off, a competitive game of "show me yours, and I'll show you mine" begins. Both sides face off, trying to prove they were the "better half," while insisting that every new problem is entirely the other side’s fault.

I don’t mean to dwell purely on the history of Berlin. Rather, I want to highlight a frustrating phenomenon that I, as an immigrant, have faced for decades.I noticed anywhere I work, go, or do, if I point out an issue, those who caused the problem immediately try to turn the tables and blame immigrants, and even announce it in my face: "they are yours, or it is you." Yet, anything professional, ethical, appropriate, and efficient happening, they immediately take credit for it as a "they are ours, it is me" scenario.

It is  clear many who originally championed "breaking the wall" now secretly regret the realities of integration. They want to fiercely protect their old cultural bubbles and maintain their previous financial status, all while exploiting their new political rights to control the narrative. They want the benefits of a borderless world, but refuse the shared accountability that comes with it.

Looking back, perhaps the wall should never have been broken in that manner. It might have been better to leave the boundaries intact, giving everyone a clear, permanent choice: stay on your side, or stay on mine. Because when you tear down a wall without opening your mind, you simply build a new, invisible barrier made of scapegoating and resentment.

THE DICTATORSHIP OF TWISTED RESPECT

 We have all heard the timeless advice: "Treat people the way you want to be treated." It is a noble principle meant to encourage professionalism, ethics in business, and committed, unconditional love in relationships. It is supposed to build mutual respect.

Unfortunately, this standard is increasingly being twisted by some individuals into a tool for control, abuse, and harassment.

Instead of inspiring kindness, the statement is being misused to justify toxic behaviors and retaliation:

• In Professional Environments: If you choose to quit a job for your own growth, it is used to justify blacklisting or having other companies abruptly "quit" on you.

• In Family Dynamics: If you train your children behave , it is twisted so that they treat you like a child—expecting you to obey them rather than showing you parental respect or your partner mirroring you .

• In Personal Choices: If you exercise your freedom of choice—whether it is disliking a store, a movie, a song, a neighborhood, or a property—they actively retaliate against your tastes. They force unrelated consequences into completely irrelevant events just because you didn't conform.

This behavior has absolutely nothing to do with love or respect. Instead, it creates an abusive, dictatorial environment designed to force you into living exactly how they want you to live, liking only what they approve of. The moment you exercise your own free will or use your personal options, you suddenly find yourself under attack and facing harassment everywhere you turn.

It raises a deeply troubling question about our society: Are we living in a world where the very best advice is being weaponized against our personal choices?

STOP USING AN IMAGINARY HERO TO MASK YOUR BULLYING

 Love is not something you can buy or sell. When people place conditions on loving you—saying things like, *"If you are who you truly are, we can't love you,"* or *"If you want our love, you must do whatever we want"*—that is not love. That is control and a desire for power.

The worst approach is when people constantly compare you to someone else 24/7, trying to force you into a competition, or threatening to replace you. The answer to this behavior is simple: **They do not love you; they love having a person under their control.** They want a puppet to achieve what they couldn't achieve themselves, or to act out the things they couldn't do.

For a long time, I have noticed an "advertisement" around me trying to make me believe there is a powerful force watching and controlling me, expecting me to behave exactly as it likes. Deep down, I know there is no one there. They are desperately trying to prove this force exists, and even though I do not care what they want me to believe, these distressing thoughts are nonstop.

Through bullying, verbal abuse, harassment, and defamation, they have created a powerful, rich "statue" based on my own book characters. They insist this abusive, imaginary person is everywhere—following me, controlling me, and disapproving of what I say and do.

It seems they are trying to set up a role model for their children without putting in the actual effort. Instead, they bully and scare someone else to teach their kids.

This reminds me of a video I saw on a social media reel:

A mother was trying to feed her child, but the child refused to eat. The mother then tried to feed her husband. When he pretended to refuse, the mother slapped him, and he quickly ate his food. The child, watching this and fearing he would be hit next, quickly ate his food too.

Bullies who claim to be parents—specifically mothers—have been using these exact tactics for years to control their children, spouses, and teenagers. They have tried to control me by pretending these harassments come either from my ex-husband or from their imaginary hero. For a long time, they even tried to pull my daughters into this abuse, pretending that my daughters were the ones who didn't want me doing this or that.

The Reality Behind the Harassment

While these bullies attempt to create harassment through verbal abuse, financial pressure, false advertising, defamation, and control, the reality is different. They are a bunch of puppets being used for political and economic purposes.

It is entirely unclear why they think bullying me will help them achieve their political goals. It seems they use parents and these puppets simply to make me shut up, hoping I will not talk about what they have done and what they continue to do.

SYSTEMIC CORRUPTION, MEDICAL MALPRACTICE, AND UNETHICAL EXPERIMENTATION

 Medical science was created to help patients and improve all aspects of life, including health. However, it can be incredibly dangerous and abusive if used the wrong way. A clear example of this is the story of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde—where a normal doctor experimenting with a drug changes him.

​I personally am a victim of these types of experimental tests and drugs without my permission. One erased my memories, and for years they tried to replace them with lies and inaccurate memories. Another made me suffer from pain and left me practically disabled for ten years until I stopped taking them. They used me like an animal to test their experiments and drugs, and my complaints and objections only came back with more harassment, abuse, and pain.

​When human rights let a telecommunication system do 24/7 wrong advertising, trying to make a lie version of me to the public—even using hospitals, doctors, police, and the legal system—who can defend my violated rights for 20 years?

PROUD TO BE PART OF THE TEAM

 

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY

 * **To the Sole Providers:** To the mothers who raised their children alone, carrying the weight of two worlds on their shoulders without complaint.

 * **To the Forsaken:** To the mothers living in nursing homes, feeling the sting of betrayal from the very children they nurtured, yet still holding love in their hearts.

 * **To the Misunderstood:** To those who faced disrespect in exchange for their unconditional love, and to those who were left behind or passed away in loneliness.

 * **To the Sacrificed:** To the women who gave up their dreams and lives for their loved ones, only to be met with ingratitude.

 * **To the Judged:** To the moms who endure the cold stares of strangers and the accusations of a public that doesn't know their story or their struggle.

**To the Warriors of Spirit**

"A mother’s strength isn’t just in what she does, but in what she survives with her grace intact."

 * **To the Advocates:** To the strong mothers who stand tall for their rights and refuse to be silenced.

 * **To the Unfazed:** To those who ignore the labels society tries to pin on them and choose to live their lives with freedom and authenticity.

 * **To the Patient Observers:** To the moms who let the "gossip mouths" talk their nonsense, knowing that their truth is theirs alone, and quietly wait for gossips' turn.

**Happy Mother’s Day.** Your strength is seen, your sacrifices are noted, and your worth is immeasurable. Today, we celebrate the unbreakable spirit of every mother who has endured, survived, and continued to love.

MY HOME & MY CREATIONS ARE NOT YOUR HARASSMENT TOOLS

I want to make one thing very clear: do not bring family disputes or personal grievances into my home. I am not responsible for the dynamics between mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws, nor am I a party to any conflicts involving your sons.

It has come to my attention that a group is using one of the characters from my books—a mother-in-law who is suspicious of her daughter-in-law’s past—to fuel their own theories and behaviors. It is deeply concerning that individuals who have not even purchased my work seem to know every word and are now misusing these characters for their own ends.

There is a clear pattern here. Whenever I post and tag the relevant authorities, the immediate reaction from these groups confirms their involvement in these ongoing issues. This interference in both my business and my personal life, characterized by nonstop harassment and the creation of baseless theories, must end.

My creative work is not a script for your personal performances or harassment. I am calling for an end to the theft of my characters and the persistent intrusion into my life.