FROM MY LIBRARY TO YOURS

 

MY FAMILY IS NOT YOUR SHIELD: STOP THE FALSE PRETENSES AND VERBAL ABUSE

 For the past 15 years, I have been subjected to relentless verbal abuse and harassment wherever I go. The perpetrators have targeted me by misusing the characters from my book, and they cowardly cover up their mental and verbal assaults by pretending the abuse is coming from my family or my ex-husband. Because I know my family deeply, and because I lived with my ex-husband long enough to know his character, I know with absolute certainty that they would never say the horrific things these bullies claim they are saying.

This situation perfectly illustrates a well-known idiom: "It is done in your name, but to someone else’s favor." These individuals mask their own malice and shift the blame by falsely linking their abuse to the people closest to me. They use the manipulative excuse, "There is no solution for what you and your family created," which is nothing more than a psychological tactic designed to maintain control and justify their bullying.

For 15 years, I have repeatedly turned to the justice system, pleading for them to intervene and stop this targeted harassment. Yet, they have completely neglected to control this abuse. I have been under constant attack for absolutely no reason, while the perpetrators continue to hide behind the false pretense that they are speaking on behalf of my family, friends, or ex-husband.

This relentless campaign is a direct, retaliatory critique of my book, "Can We Talk"—which is a true story documenting misconduct, racism, and abuse within workplaces and by certain service providers. Unfortunately, the justice system has not only failed to stop this ongoing harassment, but by consistently ignoring my complaints, they have signaled to these abusers that their actions carry absolutely no consequences.

WHEN CRITIQUE TURNS INTO "MONKEY BUSINESS"

 When a writer writes a book, they create characters and take them on a unique journey. It is obvious that not every character will have an acceptable personality, just as no single book is meant for every reader.

However, what is entirely unacceptable is when certain individuals read your book and, out of disapproval or critique, choose to follow the author everywhere. They engage in "monkey business" by sarcastically mimicking her words, her posture, and her actions. I refer you to this article about monkey business to better understand the shallow and immature behavior of these critics—behavior that I, as a writer, personally have been facing for a decade.

https://grammarist.com/idiom/monkey-business/

TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE !

I have noticed, once again, certain individuals attempting to weaponize my articles against me. They falsely claim that their wrongdoing and harassment are somehow a reflection of my family, my ex-partner, or my siblings. Let me be entirely clear: you are an abuser. You are following my children, my family, and me simply to cover up your past or future harassment.

If anyone related to me had actually done what you claim, and you were not just fabricating stories to cover your own false acts, you would at least be able to provide an exact location, time, and situation. As I have explained before, everything must be defined by its specific context.

To give you an example: If you try to copy someone’s happiness by watching how they behave at a wedding, and then you mimic those exact actions and feelings at a funeral, you aren't covering up your mistakes. Instead, the host of the funeral is just left confused as to why you are laughing and celebrating. In that exact same way, I have been left confused for years by your unusual and unacceptable behavior.

Another unbelievable tactic I have witnessed is these individuals searching for anything they can find in my past to justify their unauthorized intrusion into my private life, crossing the line over and over again. I have explained countless times that my books are creations of my own thoughts and that my characters are not real. I have explicitly told these groups to stop their investigations, assumptions, guesses, and predictions. Yet, it seems they are too deeply entrenched in their abusive mindsets to understand that reality is not dictated by their theories. The true reality is that their behavior is disturbing, abusive, and an invasion of privacy.

I do not know why they are so obsessed with my personal life, but it clearly stems from my work as a writer. By shedding light on issues they prefer to keep hidden, I have made myself a target for those trying to find something damaging in my own life.

Let me emphasize this: Addressing public issues is completely different from digging into someone’s private life. My work as a writer and journalist aims to expose unresolved societal issues, which is my job. Your actions, on the other hand, are unethical and illegal.

Furthermore, you aren't even uncovering actual secrets; you are simply inventing abusive, insulting theories and targeting me for years based on them. You claim my daughters, my ex, or my family did something—or, in some cases, you invent a mysterious person to blame or admire for my efforts . I have constantly corrected you, telling you that your assumptions are entirely wrong. Perhaps it is your own family that has committed these acts, and you are projecting and seeking revenge on me just to feel better about yourselves. I have recommended many times that you seek professional help; this constant following, copying, assuming, guessing, testing, and accusing is not curing your pathology, yet you continue to do it.

A final word: If there were actually anything wrong in my past, you surely would have found it by now. You have spent the last 15 years digging into my life, testing every breath I take, and accusing me with every step I take. The fact that you have found nothing proves that your theories are entirely baseless. Hey perhaps I am too good to be true !

RIGHT OR LEFT

 For a long time now, I have noticed a constant, unreasonable conflict driven by so-called "right" and "left" groups. I have no idea how the people who created and have been advertising these labels for the last 15 years actually define them. It seems some individuals simply believe they are "in the right," and anyone else is just "left over."

In this manipulative game of definitions, both sides seem to think that using me as a punching bag will somehow solve their problems.

To that, the answer is simple: **"You should break yourself, not the mirror."**

A mirror is only a reflection; it is not the reality. What is real is who you are inside—no matter if you call yourself right, left, cold, hot, heavy, thin, black, white, or anything else. Projecting onto others is a clear dysfunction within you. No one else can fix it, and no one can "cure" you the way you might wish, except yourself.

No one is responsible for your life except you. Stop looking to someone else to hand you a job, money, progress, or success. Take accountability for yourself.

THE 2026 WORLD CUP IS HERE, SO WHY AM I WATCHING A DIGITAL GAME?

 It is amazing and truly an honour for Canada to be a host of the 2026 World Cup. I was so excited to watch the first Canadian game on June 12 without having to walk to the stadium. I checked TV, radio, and other media, but there was no sign of the football match, which in North America is called soccer.

After half an hour of searching, I found a YouTube video labeled “live streaming: Canada vs. Bosnia.” I watched for five minutes with excitement, but from the beginning something felt wrong. The video showed Canada winning 1–0, yet the technicality of play seemed unusuall for a World Cup match. I’m no expert, but as a football fan who has watched many games, I realized this couldn’t be real. Looking closer, I saw it was actually a digital game simulation.

My question is: as a host of this worldwide event, shouldn’t I be able to just walk into the Tim Hortons across my street and watch the live game on their TV or screen?

TRUE LOVE DOES NOT TAKE HOSTAGES

 It is an undeniable fact that every country wishes to retain its citizens—especially those who are smart, skilled, and productive—to help the nation grow and prosper. Consequently, many countries that lose their brightest minds to immigration are understandably unhappy about it.

A similar dynamic exists within families. Many parents, driven by deep affection, wish to keep their children close or even live with them, even well into adulthood. While the underlying emotion behind this mentality is understandable, it often fails to consider what the adult children actually want and plan for their own lives.

Those who decide to move abroad or leave their parents' home to live independently are making choices for their own future. Every major life decision comes with consequences, both good and bad. What is entirely unacceptable, however, is when authorities or parents attempt to impose limitations, exercise control, or deliberately make life difficult for those who have chosen to leave. This controlling approach is what creates deep-seated problems, makes a person’s life miserable, and forces them to fight back. Ironically, the very approach that is labeled as "love" gradually degrades into dislike and hatred.

This brings to mind a famous quote: "If you love someone, let them go. If they return, they were always yours; if they don't, they never were." This is the true definition of love. Holding onto your children, citizens, or anyone else simply to satisfy your own emotional needs isn't love—it is keeping them hostage for your own comfort. True lovers are those selflessly willing to let their loved ones go, giving them the freedom to live the lives they choose.