END THE CHILDISH GAMES

 It is an undeniable and bitter truth that war—regardless of its scale—inevitably leads to injury, death, and profound loss. This is precisely why international organizations exist: to mediate and prevent conflict before it begins.

​If we narrow the scope from global warfare down to a country, a society, or even a single family, the principle remains the same. Prevention is always superior to recovery. It is far better to stop a fight before it starts than to suffer the consequences and spend years trying to heal or find a solution.

​Unfortunately, there is a specific type of person or group that thrives on instability. Rather than resolving issues through civil dialogue, they intentionally create friction to force a situation into the hands of police, lawyers, or the courts.

​This behavior is problematic for several reasons:

• ​Weaponizing the System: They use legal and law enforcement resources as a personal tool for harassment rather than a path to justice.
• ​Toxic Environments: By purposefully creating an abusive atmosphere, they force others into a "fight" or "flight" response.
• ​The "Cowboy and Cop" Mentality: This behavior is fundamentally childish. It mimics a game of "cops and robbers," where those who profit from the chaos cast themselves in whatever role suits their narrative at the moment.

​Perhaps the most damaging aspect of this "game" is how it affects actual law enforcement and the justice system. While these bullies are busy playing out their manufactured dramas, they often actively question the integrity of real investigators.

​They use this noise as a smokescreen. By casting doubt on serious investigations, they hope to ensure that their own hidden mistakes, harassment, and toxic behavior remain undisclosed. It is a calculated effort to stay protected by the very systems they are manipulating.

INTERNAL WAR VS. EXTERNAL DEFENSE

 Although I live outside of Iran and cannot witness the day-to-day reality behind the international headlines, I believe that every political or social movement begins with a long-ignored issue. These problems often fester quietly within the system, unnoticed by high-level authorities. However, when an issue remains active but hidden for too long, it eventually erupts—spreading rapidly like an epidemic.

​This phenomenon is not limited to the Middle East or any specific region; it is a human reality that could happen anywhere, perhaps closer than we think.

​Unfortunately, when too much time passes and the severity of an issue is left unaddressed, it can spiral out of control. This leads to:

• ​Both authorities and the public face injury and hardship.

• ​The country suffers the deep scars of an internal "war" or domestic conflict.

• ​ Internal instability often weakens borders, inviting outside nations to intervene—some to offer genuine help, others to exploit the situation for their own benefit.

​In many ways, an internal fight is more dangerous than an external war. It creates a fundamental separation among citizens, causing them to turn their anger and power against one another instead of uniting against outside threats. Such movements have a profound impact on:

• ​The Economy: Infrastructure and markets are often the first to suffer.

• ​Societal Safety: The daily security of the people is compromised.

• ​Border Security: A divided nation is a vulnerable nation.

​Because I live abroad, I cannot sit in judgment of the Iranian movement. However, it is my hope that those involved consider every aspect of the long-term effects these movements will have on their lives and the future of their country.

DAY, NIGHT, AND THE MASK OF REALITY

 ​The cycle of day and night is one of life’s few constants. We understand that the sun allows us to see clearly, while the darkness of night requires us to find our own light. Both are essential, yet we have a deep-seated, instinctual fear of the dark simply because we cannot see what is happening around us. This natural fear is often exploited.

​In society, certain individuals and groups use the concepts of "dark" and "light" to target others. They manipulate these terms to label people as scary, evil, or "bright" and "good." Those who misuse these natural cycles are the same people who would metaphorically blindfold others to keep them in the dark.

​It is to their benefit that the public remains blind to the reality behind their masks.

​This manipulation often goes beyond simple metaphors and enters the territory of dangerous social labeling:

• ​Geopolitics: Using "day" and "night" to align people with specific countries or political ideologies. ​
• False Dichotomies: Using White to represent peace and Black to represent war, which misleads the public into believing a person's intent based on a label rather than their actions.
• ​Racism and Prejudice: These labels feed the fire of racism, convincing people that one race is superior or that another is a threat to be feared. It can even lead to the public supporting a guilty person or condemning an innocent one based solely on skin color, age, or "labels."

​Labels do not change facts. Calling a war-monger "peaceful" doesn't change the reality of their demands, just as labeling someone "dark" doesn't make them evil.

​We see this misuse everywhere: in the separation of men and women, in the "switching" of words to hide theft, and in the religious or moral labeling of "angels" versus "evils." These are often just tools used to insert wrong ideas into the public consciousness.

It is time to stop those who use these words as weapons. We must look past the labels of night and day, white and black, or young and old. To find the truth, we must remove the blindfolds and judge individuals by their reality, not the "colors" others use to describe them.

OFFICIAL DECLARATION OF INDEPENDENT AUTHORSHIP

 Since the publication of my first book, I have observed a persistent and troubling pattern. Every idea I share—whether in my books, on my blog, or in public comments—is met with the baseless assumption that I am acting on behalf of a specific group, person, or political ideology.

Critics and detractors often attempt to "trace" my thoughts back to imaginary influencers or even to the fictional characters within my own books. I have consistently and publicly stated that I work entirely independently. I am not under any social, political, or financial influence.

It has become clear that linking my work to outside parties is a tactic used to avoid addressing the actual issues I highlight. Instead of resolving the problems of negligence and ignorance I bring to light, it is easier for some to mislead the public by falsely associating my writing with "oppositions," "rioters," or "political agendas."

This sabotage has crossed a line, infiltrating my professional and personal life. Whether I am attending a business meeting or a social gathering—online or in person—there are immediate, false attempts to link my presence or my words to others, specifically my ex-husband.

I am clarifying once again: Nothing I write, file, or post originates from anyone but me. * Identity: I am Sam Smith—author, writer, and blogger.

• Source: My work is the direct result of the harassment, ignorance, and negligence I have faced for the last 20 years—and continue to face at this very moment.

• Independence: I am not, and will never be, under the influence of any external party.

I am calling upon the authorities to put an end to this abusive environment. This harassment has extended into my neighborhood, medical institutions, social gatherings, and beyond.

I understand that the truth can be bitter, but it is the responsibility of every writer to speak it. I demand the right to exist and work as an independent creator without being subjected to these constant, defamatory links to outside parties.

THE PRICE OF INTEGRITY

 ​It is a privilege to contribute to a company using your hard-earned knowledge and skills. However, as an engineer who faced years of discrimination and bullying—and who was forced to resign repeatedly to preserve my integrity—I stand firmly for justice and against toxic work environments.

​There are many who, perhaps due to a lack of awareness regarding work ethics and professional standards, judge those of us who choose to walk away. I often hear the "what if" scenario: “If you hadn't resigned, you would be much wealthier today.”

​While it is true that I received a high salary and held a position of responsibility that I truly loved, that wealth would have come at a soul-crushing price. I was expected to:

• ​Become part of a corrupt system.
• ​Endure mental and emotional stress in an abusive environment.
• ​Remain silent in the face of discrepancies, isolation, and stereotyping.
• ​Accept systemic discrimination and racism.

​Those who follow my articles, blog, and books know that I am not the type of person to remain silent under such circumstances.

​The most telling part of this journey is that even 15 years after leaving those environments, there are still attempts to cover up system failures, corruption, and negligence. They continue to spread misinformation, suggesting to the public and authorities that my objections were not legitimate or that the fault was mine.

​The answer is clear and loud: NO. I was a professional, ethical employee who refused to be complicit in a poisoned work environment. I refused to stay silent about racism and discrimination. Today, I am still standing for my principles and my beliefs, and I do so with my head held high. 

To truly understand the depth of the unnecessary pressure and systemic abuse I endured within these poisoned workplaces, I suggest you read my book, "Can We Talk?". It is the true story of my life and a testament to why I chose my principles over a corrupt system.

 

THE DEATH OF RECONCILIATION

It is a powerful political metaphor ,"There was a group of people who find a politician and lift him high upon their shoulders. With loud voices and no logic, they swear a solemn oath: "If this man is not elected, we shall all die by noon today!" They don’t know his policies or his heart; they only know the fervor of the moment. But as the sun climbs and it becomes clear he will not win, their "loyalty" turns to venom. The very hands that held him high now reach up to pull him down. The same voices that swore to die for him now shout that he is the one who must die". Because they have no real knowledge—only a shallow, shifting passion—they change their minds as easily as the wind moves.

This same dangerous ignorance plays out in the separation or divorce. Individuals who were never part of the marriage suddenly act as judge, jury, and law-maker. Without knowing the truth of what happened behind closed doors, they blindly take the one spouse`s side. They fill the air with gossip, bad-mouthing  fueling a fire they didn't start.

Then, the "London time" shifts. When they realize the wife or husband were at fault, or the story wasn't what they imagined or assumed , they don't apologize. Instead, they turn their gossip on the other side. They jump from one side of the boat to the other, uncaring of who they sink in the process.

In this "gang show," everyone loses:

• The unsupported side is hurt by the verbal abuse, the false judgments, and the unfair control of the crowd.

• The supported side is ruined by those who pretend to be her "supporters" but are actually blocking any path to reconciliation.

A marriage is a delicate thing. Even when it is broken, there might remain a tiny potential for a return, or at least a peaceful path where a partner in fault is considered with grace. But the intervention of these outsiders kills that potential. They rush into a situation that has nothing to do with them, intervening so loudly and so blindly that they turn a private struggle into a public hell.

By the time these "judges" are done, they haven't saved anyone—they have only ensured that the relationship can never, ever come back.

HOW BULLIES MANIPULATE THEIR VICTIM'S REALITY

 This psychological phenomenon, when used for positive growth, is known as Mental Priming or Implementation Intentions. It suggests that when the human brain vividly plans a sequence of events, the neurological pathways for those actions are strengthened, making the transition from thought to reality much more likely.

​However, when this power is harnessed by bullies and systemic abusers, it becomes a form of Coercive Engineering. In this dark application, an abuser manipulates your environment to force your mind into a "planning trap," where you are coerced into making decisions that benefit the abuser while destroying your own well-being.

​In a healthy state, you plan for your dreams. In an abusive environment, bullies use environmental stressors to force you to plan for their plans and benefits.

• ​Inserted Ideology: By using "wrong advertising" (smear campaigns) or public shaming, bullies plant seeds of doubt and fear in public mind.
• ​The Reactionary Plan: Victom begins to obsessively plan how to escape, how to defend himrself, or how to react. The bully has successfully hijackes victim cognitive resources, forcing him to spend his mental energy on their agenda.

​Abusers often use "proxies"—people or systems that should be neutral—to tighten the trap.

• Using doctors to gaslight victim or deny care. Then the system protects itself by claiming a "shortage of doctors," leaving victim without a family physician for years as a "punishment" for his reaction.
• ​Using verbal abuse or coordinated neighborhood hostility to make victim living situation impossible, forcing he finds a place to plan a move they can benefit from his efforts. 

​The most dangerous part of this cycle is the use of the legal system as a secondary weapon. Bullies rely on the principle of law Ignorance .

​The result is an environment where the victim is mentally and emotionally exhausted.

In the end, the bully gets what they wanted while the victim is left suffering in a hostile environment, often blamed by the very systems they turned to for help.