IS YOUR SPOUSE'S PAST STILL PRESENT?

 When a couple gets married and starts a new life together, it's normal to want their spouse to cut ties with a former partner. This sense of belonging is a fundamental part of marriage. A deep love for your spouse often means you don't want to share them with anyone else.

​Most married men and women naturally create distance from their past lives and exes. Yet, some people still want to be liked by their exes, which can create significant problems. Meanwhile, a different group of people goes a step further by trying to damage their partner's ex by belittling, bad-mouthing, and even flaunting their new relationship to show they came out on top. In this emotional battle, they cross a line. They monitor the ex's life and constantly criticize them, especially if the ex remains single after the breakup. They might spread rumors that the ex can't keep a relationship, all in an effort to make sure their spouse will never go back.

​It is heartbreaking to see how jealousy and a lack of self-esteem can ruin lives. The solution is simple: after a breakup, stay away from each other's lives. Stop trying to be "modern" by maintaining a friendship with an ex, especially when it causes pain for your partner.