THE ILLUSION OF " YOU DID"

 It's common to encounter individuals who constantly compare their lives to others. This behavior often extends beyond healthy competition, evolving into intense jealousy. When these individuals feel they can't achieve the same level of success or happiness, they may resort to spreading rumors and engaging in abusive tactics.

A common manipulative approach involves using the phrase "You did," falsely asserting that their harmful actions are a direct consequence of your past behavior. They might accuse you of various malicious rumors, often ones that are socially unacceptable, in an attempt to turn public opinion against you and "win" a perceived battle.

It's important to recognize that this type of behavior—bothering, accusing, and harassing others—is a deliberate attempt to deflect blame from their own actions. They try to link their destructive conduct to their victim, rather than addressing their own issues. Individuals who engage in such patterns of harassment and baseless accusations often require professional help to understand and change their harmful coping mechanisms.