A RESPONSE TO NONSTOP HARASSMENT

 It has come to my attention that a significant amount of energy is being spent by strangers—people I do not know and who have no place in my private life—to speculate on my relationships. This has moved beyond simple gossip; the constant creation of theories and the linking of my every move to a past or current partner has become a form of emotional and mental abuse.

To clarify once and for all:

 * Regarding my Ex-Husband: We have no interest or plans to reunite. We have both decided that separate lives are in our best interest, and we are both living better for it.

 * Current Status: I am not currently in a relationship, nor do I have any plans to enter one. My focus remains entirely on my professional life and my writing.

It is clear that these attacks on my personal life are a tactic to stop me from posting my political opinions. To those who try to threaten me with "Do not tell," or who respond to my social posts and books by attacking my character: Stop this abusive approach.

I am an independent writer. I will continue to write and say whatever I believe needs to be said. Your attempts to create a toxic environment—including the "echoing voices" and threats in my own home—only prove that what I am saying contains a truth you are desperate to cover up.

This pattern of abuse has unfortunately extended into my neighborhood, the healthcare system, telecommunications, and even legal structures.

 * If you do not like my writing, simply do not read it. Leave it for those who value the work and need an outsider eyes for improving society and countries. 

 * Those who are open to critics and listen to an Independent voice , stop this unpleasant threatening. My life is not a targeted project, and my voice will not be silenced by abusers gossip.

CONDOLENCES TO THE PEOPLE OF IRAN

 To the people of Iran, and to all those mourning the loss of loved ones, and fellow citizens:

I wish to offer my deepest and most sincere condolences. The loss of those who stood up for their convictions and their dignity is a profound tragedy that resonates far beyond borders. Their courage and their stories are held in solemn remembrance.

May the families find strength in their shared memory, and may the collective grief of the nation find a path toward healing and solace. My thoughts are with every individual carrying the weight of this loss.

OFFICIAL CLARIFICATION: I AM SAM SMITH

 Just a quick "identity check" for those who are new here! I’ve heard a few rumors that I have a twin or that a man is behind my books. While I'm flattered by the mystery, the truth is much simpler:  I am the sole voice behind the name Sam Smith.

"Sam Smith" is the pen name I use for all my writing. Whether you know me by my real name or my pen name, please know that I am a solo, independent author. "Every word, plot twist, and character comes directly from me—no twins, no ghostwriters, and no committee."

Furthermore, I want to address the unpleasant and incorrect assumptions being made about my personal life. Any move I make—whether related to people or projects—is my own. I live for myself, and my personal life is not connected to any specific group or individual. I kindly ask that you respect my independence as both a person and a creator.

THE SHADOW POWER OF SILENCE: RETHINKING DIGITAL VISIBILITY

 The old expression "do not be scared of those who are loud, be scared of those who are quiet" has taken on a chilling new meaning in the digital era. Historically, this proverb suggested that loud people vent their frustrations openly, while quiet people might be calculating their next move. Today, this social dynamic has evolved into a dangerous power imbalance involving public presence, cyber harassment, and underground activities.

In our current culture, having an active online profile is often treated as an invitation for scrutiny. When a person is public, sharing their thoughts and information, they become a soft target. Because their lives are documented and accessible, they are frequently subjected to harassment, abuse, or coordinated cyberattacks.

There is a disturbing logic at play here: many believe that because someone is "loud" or visible, they are fair game. This transparency is often mistaken for a lack of power, making the individual appear vulnerable to those who wish to cause harm from the safety of the shadows.

On the flip side, we are seeing the rise of a culture that equates a lack of digital presence with hidden strength or "underground" authority. By remaining off the grid and staying quiet, certain individuals or groups cultivate an aura of mystery that commands fear.

As you have noted, some use this lack of a media profile as a deliberate cover. While many stay offline for simple privacy, a more dangerous segment uses this total anonymity to facilitate illegal activities. Because they have no footprint, they are difficult to track, making them the silent "center of fear" in many communities. They understand the cultural bias that the quietest person in the room is the most dangerous, and they use that perception to operate without accountability.

This divide creates a toxic environment. It suggests that if you choose to participate in public life, you must accept being a target, while those who hide away are granted a form of "untouchable" status. This culture rewards those who operate in the dark and punishes those who are honest and open.

When groups deliberately use their lack of profile to shield illegal or harmful behavior, they are exploiting a gap in how we understand power. The "quiet ones" are not always just being private; sometimes, they are utilizing the fear of the unknown to maintain control and avoid the consequences of their actions.

DEMOCRACY DEMANDS DIALOGUE: A RESPONSE TO MY CRITICS

As a Canadian-Iranian writer who has spent 20 years fighting for the right to speak my mind, I believe it is time to address the wave of verbal threats, sarcasm, and linguistic manipulation I received following my last post.

My "offense" was simple: I urged journalists to report on the situation in Iran with accuracy and neutrality, without taking sides. For this, I have been met with hostility from those who claim to want freedom for Iran, yet refuse to tolerate a dissenting opinion.

If we are truly striving for democracy, we must understand its fundamental requirement: the existence of opposition. * Dictatorship thrives on a single, forced narrative and the silencing of "others."

 * Democracy thrives on a variety of voices, even—and especially—the ones we disagree with.

My Position as an Independent Writer

I want to be very clear to those attempting to pressure me:

 * I will not apologize: I will not alter my beliefs to make you happy, nor will I change my tone to be liked.

 * Independence is my foundation: My thoughts are not for sale, and they are not subject to the approval of a mob.

 * Respect my boundaries: Threatening my personal life or trying to interfere with my privacy does not prove your point; it only proves that you have not yet learned the basic tenets of the freedom you claim to seek.

 "Freedom of speech is unnecessary if it only applies to the voices we agree with. It is meant specifically to protect the right to be different."

Instead of spending your energy trying to silence me, I invite you to learn how to be open to ideas that do not match your own. That is the only way we will ever build a society that is truly free.

HOW TWO DECADES OF SYSTEMIC ABUSE TRYING TO SHUT ME UP

 As many of you are aware, I began writing after enduring a prolonged period in a toxic environment marked by systemic injustice. My goal has always been to shed light on social, economic, and political issues that are either overlooked or intentionally ignored.

However, from the moment I began sharing my voice, my private life became a target. For twenty years, I have lived under a microscope. My health and medical records, my financial information, my relationships, and my family status have all been weaponized against me in the public eye.

The harassment I face is not just digital; it is pervasive. I have experienced:

• Surveillance: Constant monitoring of my daily habits—what I eat, wear, and say—often echoed back to me immediately as a intimidation tactic.

• Cyber-Attacks: Systematic hacking of my computers and private data.

• Domestic Interference: The inability to even watch a movie or listen to music in my own home without facing "feedback" or retaliation from these bullies.

• Character Assassination: The spreading of rumors in every community I enter to turn people against me before I even arrive.

Most devastatingly, these bullies have targeted my family. They use my daughters and my ex-husband as "front-line" tools, attempting to create a rift between us through mirroring and manipulation. By painting me as the problem and utilizing narcissistic tactics, they aim to isolate me from those I love most.

I have not been silent. I have filed hundreds of complaints with organizations across Canada—from local authorities to the highest levels of government, including Human Rights commissions, Public Safety Canada, and Cyber Security agencies and courts . Despite these efforts, the abuse has not only continued but escalated.

This twenty-year campaign of emotional harassment and privacy invasion has one goal: to shut me up. They want to prevent me from disclosing the truth about their abuse and the injustices I have witnessed.

I am posting this today to inform the public of what has been planned and executed against me for two decades. I am asking for the world to see the reality of the situation I live in and the lengths to which bullies will go to suppress the truth.

THE SINGLE STIGMA

 One of the most significant social issues in North America today, particularly in Canada, is the contradictory pressure surrounding romantic relationships. We see a strange phenomenon: those in relationships are often desperate to get out, while those who are single are desperate to get in. Even more troubling is the number of individuals who remain in unhappy partnerships simply to avoid the labels of "single," "divorced," or "separated."

​There is a pervasive, unfair assumption that if a person—especially a woman—is divorced, separated, or has never been in a serious relationship, there must be a fundamental flaw in her character. This "wrong culture" suggests that:

• ​Couples are "Successful": Regardless of how miserable or toxic their private life is, their status protects them from judgment.
• ​Singles are "Broken": Even if they are thriving, happy, and independent, society views them as a problem to be solved.

​This insecurity often leads to social exclusion. Couples, driven by a fear of losing their partner or a lack of trust, frequently exclude single individuals from gatherings. It’s as if the mere presence of a single person is a threat to the stability of their own relationship. This creates a society that feels like an imbalanced scale, where one side is held out of reach and the other is weighed down by social expectations.

​We hide behind a thousand excuses to justify why relationships fail or why we won't give someone a chance:

• ​External Factors: Money, health, education, and job status.
• ​Demographics: Race, culture, language,look and age.

​Yet, we see rich couples who cannot stand one another and poor couples who struggle daily. The reality is that true connection comes down to type and chemistry, not a checklist of social credentials.

​This is a social problem that everyone sees, but most choose to ignore. Speaking out against these norms often feels like a "crime" that invites harsh judgment. However, it is time for public education and a cultural shift. We must learn that being single is not a failure, and being in a relationship is not a trophy.

It is time to stop judging and start valuing individual happiness over societal status, ending the marginalization of singles fueled by our own fear of failure.

THE NARRATIVE OF MODERN SACRIFICE IN TOXIC DYNAMICS

 The transition from overt harassment to a calculated performance of kindness is not a sign of reform. It is a sophisticated psychological maneuver where the bully pivots to the role of a nice cop. For those who have endured two decades of injustice within toxic work environments and personal relationships, this sudden shift is a tactical phase of the cycle. It is designed to complete a total reversal of roles, where the perpetrator is rebranded as the reasonable party and the victim is cast as the disturbed antagonist.

This technique relies on the total exhaustion of the target. After twenty years of systemic violation, the bully capitalizes on a person's vulnerability by introducing small variations in behavior. They play nice just enough to make the victim feel unstable for maintaining their defenses. It is a deliberate effort to make the victim forget their history, effectively silencing the narrative of how a successful business and family woman was systematically dismantled.

The power dynamic in these scenarios is reinforced by a perceived immunity. When bullies possess wealth and status, they operate under the assumption that they are allowed to violate the rights of others. In this landscape, the justice system does not merely fail to intervene; it often ignores the evidence and rewards the bullies, granting them further social or professional standing. This institutional silence provides cover for the aggressor, ensuring that the gaslighting and injustice never truly end.

A particularly invasive element of this long-term campaign is the manipulation of identity to maintain control. Bullies frequently cross the line by infantilizing the victim, pretending an adult woman is a child who requires them to make decisions for her. Conversely, they may flip this script entirely, demanding the victim take on the burden of a provider who must solve the problems of the bullies' own children and resolve their future crises.

This creates a parasitic relationship where the victim is treated like a slave or a resource. The bully expects the target to live at their level and follow their lifestyle while simultaneously forcing the target to find resolutions for the bully’s financial, health, and relationship problems. By framing the victim as responsible for everyone else’s wealth and well-being, the abusers successfully mask their control as a form of social or familial obligation.

At its core, this dynamic mirrors a sacrificial narrative. The victim is treated as an entity meant to be offered up for the benefit or the testing of others, reminiscent of the story of Esmaiel and Ebrahim. In this warped worldview, the bullies cast themselves as agents of a higher test, believing they have the right to sacrifice the victim’s life, success, and mental health as a demonstration of their own power or as a solution to their own grievances.

Ultimately, this psychological warfare is intended to force a state of total submission. By making the victim’s living situation miserable, the abusers hope to force her to forget the decades of physical and emotional abuse. They want to see the target fall, hoping she will eventually beg for the very people who destroyed her life to return to it. This cycle of taking a person down is how they maintain their sense of power and avoid the loss of control they fear most.

YOUR DELUSION IS NOT MY REALITY

 Every writer possesses a wild imagination; it is the engine that drives us to create worlds of crime, romance, or fantasy. But there is a dark side to being a creator—not from within, but from the assumptions of others. For over 15 years, I have lived under a microscope of "guesswork" where every action I take is twisted to fit an abusive narrative.

For these individuals, my life is not my own; it is a script they are trying to direct. They have populated my world with "characters" labeled by numbers (1, 2, 3, 4...).

• The Accusations: If I buy something, it’s a "clue." If I watch a movie, I’m "reporting" to someone. Even being sick is treated as a calculated move in their imaginary game.

• The Numbered Ghosts: Numbers 1 and 2 seem to be their favorites. They’ve invented "exes" and "contacts" associated with these digits, insisting I am in constant communication with people who do not exist in my reality.

If these thoughts stayed in their heads, it would be manageable. Instead, it has evolved into active harassment:

1. Demand for Action: They expect me to host parties for these imaginary people or "find" them in the real world.

2. Invasion of Privacy: They assume these characters live in my home or communicate with me through the TV.

3. Erasure of Truth: Despite my clear statements that my book characters are fiction, they insist they are real people. They’ve even fabricated "living" parents or siblings moving to Canada, claiming every move I make is for them.

This nonsense has persisted since long before I started writing, but my career has unfortunately given them fresh fuel. Most distressingly, this "fan fiction" of my life has bled into legal matters, where their baseless guesses are treated with a seriousness they don't deserve.

It is a bizarre irony: I write fiction for a living, yet I am the one fighting to stay grounded in facts while others try to force me to live inside their broken fantasies.

A RESPONSE TO RECENT UNETHICAL BELITTLING CAMPAIGNS AND THE "YEAH, IT IS YOU"

 ​It is a common challenge for political writers to have their personal beliefs or fictional characters scrutinized. However, I have recently encountered a persistent and coordinated effort to blur these lines in a way that is both irrational and defamatory.

​1. Fiction vs. Reality

​I have stated this repeatedly: my characters are works of fiction. Attempting to find "clues" about my private life within the pages of a book is illogical. My creative output does not serve as a diary, and my characters do not represent my personal choices or business dealings.

​2. Addressing the "Yeah, That's You" Narrative

​I have noticed a recurring pattern where individuals attempt to belittle my interests, businesses, and personal milestones by claiming they are reflections of my fictional work. This "childish advertising" and aggressive questioning of my professionalism or financial status is not just unprofessional—it is a form of harassment.

• ​To be clear: My personal life and my business ventures outside of writing are entirely independent of my books or my political opinions.
• ​The "Truth": If these groups are searching for a "lost truth," they will not find it in my private life. My family, friends, and professional associates know my reality; the projections of strangers are irrelevant.

​3. Final Warning on Interference

​The attempt to interfere with my professional business through defamation and "personality questioning" is a cheap tactic used by those who have nothing of value to offer. These actions are unethical and, in many cases, illegal.

​I will not be intimidated by those who use my creativity as a weapon to attack my character. Moving forward, I will continue to focus on my professional growth, unbothered by the "zero-value" opinions of those living in a world of their own invention.

BEYOND THE PAGES OF DAYLON: A CALL FOR INTEGRITY IN THE FACE OF PERSONAL ATTACKS

 The world is fraught with hundreds of hidden and obvious socio-political challenges. For authors, journalists, and filmmakers, one of the highest callings is to highlight these issues to capture the attention of those in power. While many works are celebrated with awards for shedding light on these dark corners, there is always a duality of response: appreciation from the public and pushback from those who feel exposed.

Both healthy appreciation and constructive criticism motivate creators to refine their craft. However, a more sinister element exists—individuals and organizations that profit from tobacco, alcohol, drugs, and guns—who work tirelessly to obscure the trauma linked to their industries.

I want to be clear: I am not calling for a blanket ban on these things. Social drinking, smoking, the medicinal use of drugs, and the protective use of firearms all have their place in specific contexts. My concern lies with the systemic abuse of these elements and the fallout it creates.

Since the publication of my book, Daylon, I have faced a coordinated effort to silence my voice. Rather than engaging with the book’s themes, certain entities have resorted to:

• Defamation: Linking the issues of addiction and violence to my personal life, my family, and my country of origin.

• False Assumptions: Claiming that writing about these tragedies must mean I have a personal history with them.

• Sabotage: Using insults and personal attacks to distract from the "cliché" or superficial subjects they produce.

While there is a market for "cliché" entertainment—and I enjoy it myself for relaxation—it should never come at the cost of slandering those who choose to write about deeper, more uncomfortable truths. No organization should be allowed to use defamation as a shield for their profits.

I am calling upon:

• Movie producers and scriptwriters

• Magazines and book reviewers

• Publishers and literary critics

I ask you to stand against this corrupt approach. Do not allow the sabotage of literature for the sake of corporate profit. We must protect the integrity of our creative community and ensure that those who dare to highlight the world’s flaws are not punished for their bravery.

TRADING ONE LOSS FOR ANOTHER

 There is a fine line between teaching children the value of their circumstances and using those circumstances to trap them. While we often limit resources to help the next generation understand the worth of freedom, this approach is frequently pushed to a toxic extreme. When being grateful is used to justify injustice, it ceases to be a virtue and becomes a tool of oppression.

We often encounter individuals who claim we have more than we should, using our past successes as an excuse to diminish our current suffering. Even worse is the group that actively strips away your opportunities or your hard-earned efforts, only to tell you that you have no right to be angry or sad about what was taken.

This logic is as hollow as it is cruel. It is like a justice system that, upon hearing a parent’s plea for their murdered child, responds by taking their remaining child away—demanding they feel thankful for what is left rather than seeking justice for what was lost.

I have faced this manipulation for years. When I resigned from a harassing work environment to protect my well-being, I was met with a blacklist and told I should have been grateful for the job I had. This is a ridiculous double standard: you are told to accept abuse as the price for your position, and if you demand dignity, they attempt to ruin your future to prove you should have stayed silent.

This constant comparison is a tactic to force the adoption of, and submission to, harassment and bullying. It is an attempt to make the victim believe they deserve the abuse because of what they once possessed.

What these individuals fail to realize is that they are building a culture of silence. By protecting bullies and punishing those who stand up for themselves, they are eroding the foundations of justice for everyone. They believe they are safe behind their comparisons, but a culture that fosters injustice eventually turns on everyone—including those who helped build it.

True gratitude cannot exist where there is no justice.

NOT YOUR BUSINESS

 It is staggering how some individuals persist in spying on you, desperate to find a shred of regret following a separation or divorce. They employ a toolkit of deception: tricking you, spying, delaying your milestones, and sabotaging your relationships with family and friends. They insert themselves into your business and, after years of mental and emotional abuse, somehow expect to be welcomed back with open arms.

Individuals who operate this way do not just deserve to live without the loved ones they drove away; they require professional help to diagnose the delusions and deception driving their behavior.

Relationships are private decisions made between two people. It is beyond interference—it is heretical—to observe outsiders jumping into the middle of a separation to perform for one side or sabotage the other. These people often convince themselves they are "doing a favor" or helping you return to your "previous life," when in reality, they are simply extending the cycle of abuse.

They operate on the arrogant assumption that you are desperate to return to a past you consciously chose to leave. This reaches a level of absurdity where every positive step you take for yourself—moving, self-care, buying something new, or dressing up—is misinterpreted as a signal that you are "dying" to see your ex again.

I have personally faced this harassment for nearly 15 years. Even after all this time, every move I make is met with the assumption that I am desperate for my ex or "couldn't find anyone like him." To those harboring these thoughts, I have four things to say:

1. Mind Your Business: It is not your place to involve yourself in the private dynamics of a relationship that ended over a decade ago.

2. The Timeline of Truth: If there were any desire to reunite, it would have happened years ago. It does not take 15 years to realize a mistake.

3. The Double Standard: If I were to interfere in your personal life the way you do mine, you would scream and play the victim. Yet, you feel entitled to follow me and interfere with my life 15 years later.

4. The Truth About New Relationships: You wonder why I haven't entered a new relationship? It is because every person I met seemed to be on a "mission" to make me regret my separation. They played games—acting like "bad boys" or behaving like children—to manipulate my emotions.

It became clear that this interference extended into every corner of my life, from stores to medical services. No one should have to navigate a relationship that is being puppet-mastered by men trying to prove their exes "regret" leaving them.

The most unsettling part is that while my ex may not have approached me directly, there has been a persistent effort behind the scenes to prove a narrative: that the woman is the one begging to return. It is hard to believe that 15 years later, my life is still being disrupted by men playing the "nice guy" role while trying to prove their spouses were at fault.

Final Thought: To those obsessed with this narrative: see a professional. Explore the root of your obsession and the need to prove you were "the best" while painting your former partner as the villain. True healing comes from moving on, not from 15 years of trying to force a regret that doesn't exist.

 

 

THE FRONT-ROW JUNGLE: THE ILLUSION AND EROSION OF IDENTITY

 ​Navigating a social environment where you can only see the "front row of trees"—with everything behind them hidden—is a form of profound psychological harassment. In this method, strangers or bad actors step into the roles of your family members, acting as if they are your children, siblings, or spouse.

• ​Privacy Invasion: By mimicking your loved ones, they bridge the gap into your most personal spaces, making your private life feel unsafe.
• ​Character Assassination: They target your loved ones by exaggerating their weaknesses, mocking their habits, or harshly criticizing their behavior through performance.
• ​Identity Displacement: The goal is often to "take you down" by distorting your perception of those you trust most.

​The motivations behind this behavior are often murky. Those who employ these tactics may be suffering from:

• ​Severe Psychological Disorders: Underlying conditions that distort their perception of reality.
• ​Unresolved Childhood Trauma: Using "roleplay" to process or project their own past pain.

• ​Social Anxiety: An extreme disconnect from their own identity, leading them to try and "become" someone else.

• Compensatory Posturing. Artificially downplaying the difficulty of work or obscuring sources (the 'man behind the curtain' effect) to shield the ego from past failures and justify their value.

​Regardless of the cause, this behavior is a sign of deep distress that requires professional intervention and treatment.

​This trend doesn't just hurt individuals; it erodes the fabric of society, business, and culture. When this method is accepted—particularly by younger generations—people begin to lose their real identities. It creates a world where every person you approach is "acting," causing a total loss of authenticity.

It is better that before we accept to be part of this harassment, we think how it will impact ourselves in both the short and long term.

WHOSE VOICE IS IT?

 Telecommunications and media are the most vital tools in modern society. They exist to connect the public through professional, accurate reporting. In times of crisis, this responsibility becomes a matter of life and death. History shows us that when external resources cover internal news, they have the power to change minds and influence major decisions. This is exactly why even the smallest piece of misinformation can lead to a massive disaster.

Currently, we are seeing a flood of news, videos, and images from Iran. Despite the internet being blocked and phone lines being cut, we continue to observe reports of violence and destruction. However, there is a troubling trend in how this is being covered. International media is heavily highlighting the previous Iranian flag—the symbol of those seeking a return to the monarchy.

As a Canadian-Iranian writer who believes in freedom and respect for national symbols, I am deeply concerned. It appears that instead of staying neutral, many journalists are taking sides. By exaggerating the presence of the "kingdom" supporters, they are distracting the world from the real, hidden issues behind the Iranian people's anger.

I do not wish to belittle the suffering of those who were forced into exile after the revolution. Their pain is real. However, I do not believe that in 2026, the majority of people wish to live in a country where a leader is chosen simply because of their father’s legacy.

• In the modern world, even presidents are limited to two terms for a logical reason.

• Political groups must look back at their own history, evaluate their successes and failures, and understand that the world has moved forward.

The current propaganda regarding a return to the monarchy and the insults directed at the official Iranian flag are far from the standards of accountability in journalism.

• When the media supports or ignores the burning and tearing of a national flag, it invites a cycle of hatred that will eventually return to those same countries.

• A flag is a sign of a country’s worth; when its value is lowered, the security of all national symbols is put at risk.

We must ask ourselves: Would you allow citizens of other countries to vote in your domestic elections? The answer is no. For that same reason, only the citizens living within a land have the right to decide who runs it. While it is natural for the diaspora to be concerned, we must be honest: with the communication systems shut down, we do not have the full story.

My Plea to Journalists: Please be careful. These coverages are extremely sensitive. They can lead to further killing, attacks, and even war. At best, they create a grudge against countries that tried to take advantage of a crisis to support specific opposition groups.

I ask you to stand with free speech, show respect to the flag, and remain silent if you are not fully aware of the real story.

WHY A WOMAN MUST BE DESPERATE TO BE A MOTHER OR WIFE

For too long, society has operated under a distorted definition of what it means to be a parent in the later stages of life. While we claim to value parents, a toxic cultural script has emerged: one that suggests a mother or father must be desperate to be worthy of their title.

​Let us be clear: there is absolutely nothing wrong with a mother needing her children. There is dignity and love in the bond where a parent relies on their children for day-to-day living, or where a child steps in during times of sickness and frailty. That vulnerability is a natural part of the human experience.

​However, being a mother is not limited to that definition. A woman does not lose her status as a mother simply because she is independent, and self-sufficient.

​In many circles across North America today, an independent mother—especially a businesswoman —is often met with a strange form of loyalty testing. If she isn't in a hospital bed or demanding her children’s constant intervention, society starts to cast stones.

​Accusations often arise that she isn't a real mother because she doesn't need her kids. There is sabotage in labeling her autonomy as coldness or suggesting she is crossing the line by maintaining her own life. Some go as far as to isolate her, attempting to shame her into a state of helplessness just so she fits the traditional image of an elderly parent.

​It is 2026. We should be celebrating the fact that many parents are entering their later years with the tools to remain active in business and society. Yet, the public imagination still prioritizes the image of the suffering parent.

​Why must we wait for pain to show value? When did being a mother turn into a requirement to be demanding, sick, or desperate? I have personally observed that this demand for desperation usually extends beyond motherhood; it bleeds into the role of a wife. There is an unspoken rule that to be considered a good wife, you must be seen relying entirely on your husband. If you are a woman who stands on her own feet, you are often viewed with suspicion or judged for not performing the good wife .

​We need a public education shift that honors the full spectrum of aging. We must honor the vulnerable by supporting those who rely on their families for daily survival, but we must also respect the independent by celebrating the mother and wife who runs a business, travels, and manages her own affairs.

​A Call for Change

​Isn’t it time we stop observing parents only through the lens of their needs and start seeing them for their contributions? Whether a mother is lying in a hospital bed or sitting in a boardroom, her value remains the same. Her motherhood is not a status that is activated only when she becomes a burden; it is a lifelong identity that should be honored in both her strength and her struggle.

​The Bottom Line: We must stop equating motherhood and womanhood with misery. True respect means supporting a person’s right to be cared for when they are weak, but also their right to be powerful and independent when they are able.

BULLIES IN HEAVEN, THE MASK OF GOD

 The concept of the afterlife remains one of the most polarizing topics in human history. Most of us are taught from a young age that there is a heaven and a hell waiting for us after death, serving as a warning to refrain from bad deeds. 

However, there are many others who believe there is no other world beyond this one and that everything simply ends when our time of life is over. Between these views exists another group who believes that heaven and hell are found right here in this world; they argue that if you do good or bad, it returns to you while you are still alive.

Unfortunately, within these belief systems, there are individuals who pretend to be religious while playing the role of God or justice. They cross sacred boundaries by digging into your private life, even going so far as listening to your private calls or watching you in your home.

These individuals pretend to be gods who know everything you do just so they can judge whether your actions are good or bad. They may even make assumptions about you based on your childhood or younger age, following you everywhere to judge if what you say, do, watch, listen to, or communicate is right or wrong.

These groups frequently cross the line and then take it upon themselves to punish you for their own personal judgments. For example, if you write a book they do not like, or if you watch a movie or listen to music that goes against their specific taste, they seek retribution. 

They may even target you for being angry or swearing in the privacy of your own home, or for filing a complaint in response to bullies. In a disturbing display of power, they may use dentists, doctors, and hospitals or even court to make you suffer, or they simply choose to ignore your sickness. In some cases, they even make you to pay bullies against your reaction to their abuse. Their primary excuse for this behavior is the claim that they believe in God and obey Him while you do not.

In this atmosphere of mess and harassment, it is often unclear who is truly responsible. It is hard to tell if judges who are called gods are involved, if religious extremists are trying to force you to ignore abuse by leaving it in God's hands, or if bullies are simply playing these roles for their own gain. 

In either case, it is the absolute responsibility of the justice system to clear itself from corruption. The system must stop these bullies and punish the professionals who are involved in this malpractice to ensure that no one is allowed to use faith as a mask for systematic abuse.

BEFORE AND AFTER GAME

 Life is often punctuated by profound incidents—car accidents, natural disasters like earthquakes or volcanoes, the death of a loved one, or the pain of divorce—that fundamentally alter our existence. These events are shaped by a complex interplay of our environment, the judgment of others, and our brain's primal psychological drive to survive.

While society and support organizations typically aim to help survivors cope, there is a darker, more destructive response that occasionally emerges: the "Before and After" game.

In many cases, instead of offering empathy, people create a judgmental environment by constantly comparing the victim’s current state to who they were before the incident. This behavior is deeply damaging because:

 * Erasure of Identity: By insisting the "before" life no longer belongs to the victim, observers isolate the survivor from their own history.

 * Victim Blaming: Judgmental people often begin to question why the disaster happened to that specific person, eventually suggesting there was something "wrong" with the victim to have "attracted" such misfortune.

 * Impossible Expectations: There is often a cruel expectation for the victim to "get back to who they were," ignoring the reality that deep trauma fundamentally changes a person’s chemistry and outlook.

The Consequences of Social Pressure

When a survivor is denied moral and emotional support and is instead met with constant scrutiny, the results can be catastrophic:

 * Mental Health Collapse: The pressure can lead to extreme isolation or, in tragic cases, thoughts of self-harm.

 * A Breakdown in Justice: If the legal or social justice systems join in this "comparison game" rather than addressing the harm, the victim may lose faith in society and feel forced to take matters into their own hands.

 * The Birth of Resentment: By trying to force a victim back into their past self through isolation and shame, the "players" of this game don’t realize they are actually fostering a permanent sense of hatred and a desire for revenge.

The journey of a survivor is already paved with unpredictability and pain. To add the weight of social judgment—blaming someone for an illness, a natural disaster, or a loss they could not control—is a form of secondary abuse. True support requires acknowledging that a person cannot simply "return" to the past; they must be allowed to heal into their new reality without being haunted by the ghost of who they used to be.

To wrap up, we must confront a harsh reality: the secondary victimization that occurs after a tragedy is often as damaging as the initial act.

​Whether it stems from judgmental commentary by strangers who never knew the victim, the systemic ignorance of a rigid justice system, or the manipulative "games" played by friends and family—the impact is the same. Comparing traumas or shifting blame onto the person who suffered is not just a social failing; it is a form of psychological abuse.

​It is time for our legal frameworks to stop being passive observers or unwitting participants in this cycle. The law should serve as a shield against this "after-game," criminalizing the harassment and character assassination that so often follows a victim. Instead of joining the fray, the system must evolve to dismantle this unpleasant process, ensuring that the pursuit of justice does not become a second site of trauma.

NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR

 It is necessary for me to address a persistent and disruptive misinterpretation of my work. For some time now, my posts, books, blogs, and magazine contributions have been subjected to baseless scrutiny by individuals and investigators who claim my writing is targeted toward a specific, "mysterious" person.

I want to be unequivocally clear: I am a professional writer. My work focuses on social and political themes, intended for public discourse and professional engagement.

While any reader is free to interpret literature or articles through their own lens, the current assumptions being circulated are no longer just matters of opinion—they are interfering with my personal and professional life.

 * No Hidden Agendas: My writing is not a tool for "searching" for someone, nor is it a cry to be "found."

 * No Mystery: The people who need to know my location already do. Similarly, the people I communicate with in my personal life are not "mysterious" figures; they are known to me through normal, transparent channels.

 * Professional Integrity: Assuming that my writing contains 'coded' or hidden messages for a specific person is a form of sabotage. It is a deliberate attempt to distract readers and prevent them from engaging with the actual political and social messages I intend to deliver.

 Final Note: I am asking for an end to these abusive assumptions. My purpose as a writer is to engage with the world on a professional level, not to participate in a fictional narrative created by others.

END THE CHILDISH GAMES

 It is an undeniable and bitter truth that war—regardless of its scale—inevitably leads to injury, death, and profound loss. This is precisely why international organizations exist: to mediate and prevent conflict before it begins.

​If we narrow the scope from global warfare down to a country, a society, or even a single family, the principle remains the same. Prevention is always superior to recovery. It is far better to stop a fight before it starts than to suffer the consequences and spend years trying to heal or find a solution.

​Unfortunately, there is a specific type of person or group that thrives on instability. Rather than resolving issues through civil dialogue, they intentionally create friction to force a situation into the hands of police, lawyers, or the courts.

​This behavior is problematic for several reasons:

• ​Weaponizing the System: They use legal and law enforcement resources as a personal tool for harassment rather than a path to justice.
• ​Toxic Environments: By purposefully creating an abusive atmosphere, they force others into a "fight" or "flight" response.
• ​The "Cowboy and Cop" Mentality: This behavior is fundamentally childish. It mimics a game of "cops and robbers," where those who profit from the chaos cast themselves in whatever role suits their narrative at the moment.

​Perhaps the most damaging aspect of this "game" is how it affects actual law enforcement and the justice system. While these bullies are busy playing out their manufactured dramas, they often actively question the integrity of real investigators.

​They use this noise as a smokescreen. By casting doubt on serious investigations, they hope to ensure that their own hidden mistakes, harassment, and toxic behavior remain undisclosed. It is a calculated effort to stay protected by the very systems they are manipulating.