WHY WE ONLY FIGHT THE PARTS OF RACISM THAT FEEL COMFORTABLE

 The history of human discrimination is long and complex, rooted in centuries of rigid social hierarchies. While modern legal frameworks are now designed to protect individuals from harassment based on race, physical appearance, or age, the application of these protections often feels inconsistent. To dismantle these systems, we must first understand the psychological and societal mechanisms that sustain them.

Harassment often stems from deep-seated psychological triggers within the aggressor rather than any action taken by the victim. By examining these triggers, we can see how personal history and cognitive biases shape discriminatory behavior.

1. The Projection of Insecurity

Frequently, those who target others for their "posture," "body shape," or "race" are manifesting an internal fear or a desperate need for control. When an individual feels inadequate or threatened by their own perceived shortcomings, they may project that negativity onto others. By demeaning someone else’s physical presence, the harasser attempts to stabilize their own fragile sense of superiority.

2. Childhood Development and "Othering"

Psychologists often note that exclusionary behaviors can be traced back to early environments. If a child grows up in a household or community where "othering"—the act of treating a group as intrinsically different or alien—is modeled as a defense mechanism, they are likely to carry those patterns into adulthood. In these cases, harassment isn't just a choice; it is a learned response to the unknown or the "different."

3. The Cognitive Bias: Halo and Horn Effects

Society often reacts disproportionately to physical appearance . ​While modern society has made strides in labeling certain forms of discrimination as unacceptable, a significant blind spot remains. We are witnessing a peculiar phenomenon where harassment based on "better" or "stronger" physical traits—or specific racial identities—is frequently ignored or, in some cases, even encouraged by media and advertising.

The most concerning aspect of this trend is how it has been absorbed as an acceptable behavior. While the law is designed to prevent harassment, there is a systemic ignorance regarding those targeted for traits that are "not in human control," such as genetics, skin color, or a naturally strong constitution.

Isn't it time we actually manage and stop racism in every single dimension? We cannot continue to only address the parts that are convenient or comfortable for us to notice. Real change doesn't happen when we pick and choose; it happens when we confront the systemic, the subtle, and the institutionalized bias that we’ve ignored for too long.

THE MOTIVES BEHIND THE "ANTI-DIGITAL" HARASSMENT CAMPAIGN

There is a coordinated group actively monitoring comments and new posts to immediately launch fresh accusations. They employ a tactic of mimicking legal warnings—treating every word as if it will be "used against you in a court of law"—but they transform this into a "sport court" dynamic, acting like hostile in-laws who twist every statement.

However i personally has been experiencing this harassment forvyears but I tested by a simple comment acknowledging that police are responsive 24/7, including holidays and after midnight which is a fact .

Bullies immediately weaponized the statement, claiming it meant the writer was "against" doctors, lawyers, or other professions. They use negative inference to create a "no-win" situation for the author.

This abusive spying and harassment has been in place for 15 years, with the primary goal of preventing online posts and digital production. The perpetrators often present themselves as:

 * Manual laborers or those who work with their hands.

 * Athletic or physical workers.

 * Those in non-office environments.

* A group against AI

While these groups currently performing they are fighting against AI to protect their jobs from being replaced, this is a recent excuse.

 This pattern of harassment and digital suppression existed for over a decade before AI became a mainstream concern. In their minds, attacking a writer's post is a "fight against AI," but their history proves the harassment is actually rooted in a long-standing desire to stifle online and digital work as well as independence work.

For years, I was subjected to constant, 24/7 unpleasantness and threats targeting my weight, body shape, and even my grocery choices. I often wondered what was behind this relentless intrusion into my private life.

​It has become clear that these groups have a specific bias against authors and writers who work independently and digitally. They prefer creators to be dependent on a system they can control, rather than standing alone based on the merit of their own digital work.

​The mystery of their motivation is now solved: they are operating as "in-laws" within their own self-styled "sport court." They have brought the messy, abusive, and toxic dynamics of a family conflict into the professional and digital space.

They treat the writer like an unwanted relative, using personal insults and "in-law" style interrogation to create a hostile environment.To use the "worst messy abusive acts" to break the writer's spirit and stop their digital production.

THE SHADOW OF STATUS

I often look back to my younger years when I was first searching for a job. Even then, I noticed a strange, recurring pattern: if you already had a job, you were in high demand. But if you were unemployed, you were often dismissed as "unqualified" before anyone even glanced at your resume or sat you down for an interview.

As time went on, I realized this pattern wasn't restricted to the workplace—it bled into our personal lives, too.

In relationships, the logic was just as flawed. If someone was already in a partnership—even a toxic or unhappy one—they were viewed as a "success." Others suddenly found them more attractive or worthy. Yet, if a woman was single, she was often cast as a "failure" by default. At the time, we didn't fully grasp how unfair this environment was. We just lived in it.

It wasn't until I started writing and observing the world with more intention that I saw how deep these assumptions run. This unfair judgment follows us through every stage of life:

 * The Professional: You are only as good as your current title.

 * The Personal: Your worth is tied to your relationship status.

 * The Retired: Once you stop working, society treats you as if you’ve committed a crime—suddenly, you are seen as "unqualified" for life itself.

There is a coldness in how society treats those it deems "extra." People treat the elderly as if they occupy an "unpleasant status," forgetting the most basic law of time: Life moves faster than we realize. Those who judge others for being jobless, single, or old are ignoring their own future. Tomorrow, they will be the ones without the job, the ones outside of the relationship, or the ones facing the quiet of retirement. We are all just one sunset away from being the person we once looked down upon.

"We judge others by their current status, forgetting that status is a temporary shadow cast by time."

PERSONHOOD OVER GENDER

 In every industry—from the construction site to the courtroom—we are surrounded by a vocabulary of the past. We hear terms like manpower, foreman, and man-hours. While many dismiss these as "just words," they are actually the lingering echoes of a world that once decided men were the sole architects of business and society.

​We are finally witnessing a shift. In progressive circles, "manpower" is becoming person-power, "foreman" is becoming supervisor, and "man-hours" are becoming person-hours. This isn't just about being "correct"; it’s about acknowledging that expertise does not have a gender.

​However, we are also facing a fierce "pushback." There are still those who insist that being a man is synonymous with power and supervision. In my own journey through law, medicine, and finance, I have seen men in critical positions use their gender as an excuse to "teach a woman a lesson," or worse, to sabotage her work because they believe power is a male birthright.

​For years, I wondered where this desperate need for dominance came from. I eventually realized that this mentality starts long before a man enters an office. It begins in the home.

​In many societies, women still live in male-dominated environments where marriage is treated like a hierarchy rather than a partnership. When a man is raised to believe he must be the "boss" of his home without question, he naturally tries to control the women in his professional life under the guise of "manpower."

​The most frustrating part of this journey has been the judgment I faced after my separation. I encountered a "shallow group" of people—both men and women—who tried to evaluate my life based on the absence of a man. To them, a woman living without a man is "weak," "needy," or "desperate."

​Even more insulting is the "Mystery Man" myth: the idea that if a woman is successful, her accomplishments must secretly be credited to a man behind the scenes. This is a deliberate attempt to prove that women are incapable of holding power on their own.

​The interference these groups try to run in our lives—the constant questioning of our strength and the credit given to men for our hard work—is more than just an annoyance. It is a form of harassment.

​We are not "needy" because we are alone; we are powerful because we have chosen to define ourselves. It is time we retire the vocabulary of the past and start recognizing power for what it truly is: a matter of character and skill, not a gendered legacy.

BEYOND THE BETRAYAL: WHY I REFUSE TO LEAVE

 Thank you for your thoughtful questions and for engaging so deeply with my story in my book ( Can we talk ). Many of you have asked if, given the hardships I’ve faced, I regret moving to Canada. It is a complex question that deserves a clear answer.

​In my book, I shared the pain of trusting my ex-husband’s promise of a shared future, only to be told that if I couldn't find work, I should return to Iran alone. To be left behind after years of building a life—especially during a period of illness and job loss—was a profound betrayal of that initial trust.

​However, it is important to distinguish between the regret of a personal relationship and my commitment to my life here. While I have faced long-term discrimination and a toxic environment that authorities have yet to fully address, I am not willing to leave.

​I have spent decades in Canada. This is where I have stood up for my rights and where I continue to demand the dignity and professional respect I deserve. My journey is no longer about the person who brought me here; it is about the person I have become while staying here. I am staying to see my fight for justice through and to ensure that the time I have invested in this country is honored.

​I hope this clarifies my perspective and helps you understand the strength behind my decision to stay.

A RESPONSE TO NONSTOP HARASSMENT

 It has come to my attention that a significant amount of energy is being spent by strangers—people I do not know and who have no place in my private life—to speculate on my relationships. This has moved beyond simple gossip; the constant creation of theories and the linking of my every move to a past or current partner has become a form of emotional and mental abuse.

To clarify once and for all:

 * Regarding my Ex-Husband: We have no interest or plans to reunite. We have both decided that separate lives are in our best interest, and we are both living better for it.

 * Current Status: I am not currently in a relationship, nor do I have any plans to enter one. My focus remains entirely on my professional life and my writing.

It is clear that these attacks on my personal life are a tactic to stop me from posting my political opinions. To those who try to threaten me with "Do not tell," or who respond to my social posts and books by attacking my character: Stop this abusive approach.

I am an independent writer. I will continue to write and say whatever I believe needs to be said. Your attempts to create a toxic environment—including the "echoing voices" and threats in my own home—only prove that what I am saying contains a truth you are desperate to cover up.

This pattern of abuse has unfortunately extended into my neighborhood, the healthcare system, telecommunications, and even legal structures.

 * If you do not like my writing, simply do not read it. Leave it for those who value the work and need an outsider eyes for improving society and countries. 

 * Those who are open to critics and listen to an Independent voice , stop this unpleasant threatening. My life is not a targeted project, and my voice will not be silenced by abusers gossip.

CONDOLENCES TO THE PEOPLE OF IRAN

 To the people of Iran, and to all those mourning the loss of loved ones, and fellow citizens:

I wish to offer my deepest and most sincere condolences. The loss of those who stood up for their convictions and their dignity is a profound tragedy that resonates far beyond borders. Their courage and their stories are held in solemn remembrance.

May the families find strength in their shared memory, and may the collective grief of the nation find a path toward healing and solace. My thoughts are with every individual carrying the weight of this loss.

OFFICIAL CLARIFICATION: I AM SAM SMITH

 Just a quick "identity check" for those who are new here! I’ve heard a few rumors that I have a twin or that a man is behind my books. While I'm flattered by the mystery, the truth is much simpler:  I am the sole voice behind the name Sam Smith.

"Sam Smith" is the pen name I use for all my writing. Whether you know me by my real name or my pen name, please know that I am a solo, independent author. "Every word, plot twist, and character comes directly from me—no twins, no ghostwriters, and no committee."

Furthermore, I want to address the unpleasant and incorrect assumptions being made about my personal life. Any move I make—whether related to people or projects—is my own. I live for myself, and my personal life is not connected to any specific group or individual. I kindly ask that you respect my independence as both a person and a creator.

THE SHADOW POWER OF SILENCE: RETHINKING DIGITAL VISIBILITY

 The old expression "do not be scared of those who are loud, be scared of those who are quiet" has taken on a chilling new meaning in the digital era. Historically, this proverb suggested that loud people vent their frustrations openly, while quiet people might be calculating their next move. Today, this social dynamic has evolved into a dangerous power imbalance involving public presence, cyber harassment, and underground activities.

In our current culture, having an active online profile is often treated as an invitation for scrutiny. When a person is public, sharing their thoughts and information, they become a soft target. Because their lives are documented and accessible, they are frequently subjected to harassment, abuse, or coordinated cyberattacks.

There is a disturbing logic at play here: many believe that because someone is "loud" or visible, they are fair game. This transparency is often mistaken for a lack of power, making the individual appear vulnerable to those who wish to cause harm from the safety of the shadows.

On the flip side, we are seeing the rise of a culture that equates a lack of digital presence with hidden strength or "underground" authority. By remaining off the grid and staying quiet, certain individuals or groups cultivate an aura of mystery that commands fear.

As you have noted, some use this lack of a media profile as a deliberate cover. While many stay offline for simple privacy, a more dangerous segment uses this total anonymity to facilitate illegal activities. Because they have no footprint, they are difficult to track, making them the silent "center of fear" in many communities. They understand the cultural bias that the quietest person in the room is the most dangerous, and they use that perception to operate without accountability.

This divide creates a toxic environment. It suggests that if you choose to participate in public life, you must accept being a target, while those who hide away are granted a form of "untouchable" status. This culture rewards those who operate in the dark and punishes those who are honest and open.

When groups deliberately use their lack of profile to shield illegal or harmful behavior, they are exploiting a gap in how we understand power. The "quiet ones" are not always just being private; sometimes, they are utilizing the fear of the unknown to maintain control and avoid the consequences of their actions.

DEMOCRACY DEMANDS DIALOGUE: A RESPONSE TO MY CRITICS

As a Canadian-Iranian writer who has spent 20 years fighting for the right to speak my mind, I believe it is time to address the wave of verbal threats, sarcasm, and linguistic manipulation I received following my last post.

My "offense" was simple: I urged journalists to report on the situation in Iran with accuracy and neutrality, without taking sides. For this, I have been met with hostility from those who claim to want freedom for Iran, yet refuse to tolerate a dissenting opinion.

If we are truly striving for democracy, we must understand its fundamental requirement: the existence of opposition. * Dictatorship thrives on a single, forced narrative and the silencing of "others."

 * Democracy thrives on a variety of voices, even—and especially—the ones we disagree with.

My Position as an Independent Writer

I want to be very clear to those attempting to pressure me:

 * I will not apologize: I will not alter my beliefs to make you happy, nor will I change my tone to be liked.

 * Independence is my foundation: My thoughts are not for sale, and they are not subject to the approval of a mob.

 * Respect my boundaries: Threatening my personal life or trying to interfere with my privacy does not prove your point; it only proves that you have not yet learned the basic tenets of the freedom you claim to seek.

 "Freedom of speech is unnecessary if it only applies to the voices we agree with. It is meant specifically to protect the right to be different."

Instead of spending your energy trying to silence me, I invite you to learn how to be open to ideas that do not match your own. That is the only way we will ever build a society that is truly free.

HOW TWO DECADES OF SYSTEMIC ABUSE TRYING TO SHUT ME UP

 As many of you are aware, I began writing after enduring a prolonged period in a toxic environment marked by systemic injustice. My goal has always been to shed light on social, economic, and political issues that are either overlooked or intentionally ignored.

However, from the moment I began sharing my voice, my private life became a target. For twenty years, I have lived under a microscope. My health and medical records, my financial information, my relationships, and my family status have all been weaponized against me in the public eye.

The harassment I face is not just digital; it is pervasive. I have experienced:

• Surveillance: Constant monitoring of my daily habits—what I eat, wear, and say—often echoed back to me immediately as a intimidation tactic.

• Cyber-Attacks: Systematic hacking of my computers and private data.

• Domestic Interference: The inability to even watch a movie or listen to music in my own home without facing "feedback" or retaliation from these bullies.

• Character Assassination: The spreading of rumors in every community I enter to turn people against me before I even arrive.

Most devastatingly, these bullies have targeted my family. They use my daughters and my ex-husband as "front-line" tools, attempting to create a rift between us through mirroring and manipulation. By painting me as the problem and utilizing narcissistic tactics, they aim to isolate me from those I love most.

I have not been silent. I have filed hundreds of complaints with organizations across Canada—from local authorities to the highest levels of government, including Human Rights commissions, Public Safety Canada, and Cyber Security agencies and courts . Despite these efforts, the abuse has not only continued but escalated.

This twenty-year campaign of emotional harassment and privacy invasion has one goal: to shut me up. They want to prevent me from disclosing the truth about their abuse and the injustices I have witnessed.

I am posting this today to inform the public of what has been planned and executed against me for two decades. I am asking for the world to see the reality of the situation I live in and the lengths to which bullies will go to suppress the truth.

THE SINGLE STIGMA

 One of the most significant social issues in North America today, particularly in Canada, is the contradictory pressure surrounding romantic relationships. We see a strange phenomenon: those in relationships are often desperate to get out, while those who are single are desperate to get in. Even more troubling is the number of individuals who remain in unhappy partnerships simply to avoid the labels of "single," "divorced," or "separated."

​There is a pervasive, unfair assumption that if a person—especially a woman—is divorced, separated, or has never been in a serious relationship, there must be a fundamental flaw in her character. This "wrong culture" suggests that:

• ​Couples are "Successful": Regardless of how miserable or toxic their private life is, their status protects them from judgment.
• ​Singles are "Broken": Even if they are thriving, happy, and independent, society views them as a problem to be solved.

​This insecurity often leads to social exclusion. Couples, driven by a fear of losing their partner or a lack of trust, frequently exclude single individuals from gatherings. It’s as if the mere presence of a single person is a threat to the stability of their own relationship. This creates a society that feels like an imbalanced scale, where one side is held out of reach and the other is weighed down by social expectations.

​We hide behind a thousand excuses to justify why relationships fail or why we won't give someone a chance:

• ​External Factors: Money, health, education, and job status.
• ​Demographics: Race, culture, language,look and age.

​Yet, we see rich couples who cannot stand one another and poor couples who struggle daily. The reality is that true connection comes down to type and chemistry, not a checklist of social credentials.

​This is a social problem that everyone sees, but most choose to ignore. Speaking out against these norms often feels like a "crime" that invites harsh judgment. However, it is time for public education and a cultural shift. We must learn that being single is not a failure, and being in a relationship is not a trophy.

It is time to stop judging and start valuing individual happiness over societal status, ending the marginalization of singles fueled by our own fear of failure.

THE NARRATIVE OF MODERN SACRIFICE IN TOXIC DYNAMICS

 The transition from overt harassment to a calculated performance of kindness is not a sign of reform. It is a sophisticated psychological maneuver where the bully pivots to the role of a nice cop. For those who have endured two decades of injustice within toxic work environments and personal relationships, this sudden shift is a tactical phase of the cycle. It is designed to complete a total reversal of roles, where the perpetrator is rebranded as the reasonable party and the victim is cast as the disturbed antagonist.

This technique relies on the total exhaustion of the target. After twenty years of systemic violation, the bully capitalizes on a person's vulnerability by introducing small variations in behavior. They play nice just enough to make the victim feel unstable for maintaining their defenses. It is a deliberate effort to make the victim forget their history, effectively silencing the narrative of how a successful business and family woman was systematically dismantled.

The power dynamic in these scenarios is reinforced by a perceived immunity. When bullies possess wealth and status, they operate under the assumption that they are allowed to violate the rights of others. In this landscape, the justice system does not merely fail to intervene; it often ignores the evidence and rewards the bullies, granting them further social or professional standing. This institutional silence provides cover for the aggressor, ensuring that the gaslighting and injustice never truly end.

A particularly invasive element of this long-term campaign is the manipulation of identity to maintain control. Bullies frequently cross the line by infantilizing the victim, pretending an adult woman is a child who requires them to make decisions for her. Conversely, they may flip this script entirely, demanding the victim take on the burden of a provider who must solve the problems of the bullies' own children and resolve their future crises.

This creates a parasitic relationship where the victim is treated like a slave or a resource. The bully expects the target to live at their level and follow their lifestyle while simultaneously forcing the target to find resolutions for the bully’s financial, health, and relationship problems. By framing the victim as responsible for everyone else’s wealth and well-being, the abusers successfully mask their control as a form of social or familial obligation.

At its core, this dynamic mirrors a sacrificial narrative. The victim is treated as an entity meant to be offered up for the benefit or the testing of others, reminiscent of the story of Esmaiel and Ebrahim. In this warped worldview, the bullies cast themselves as agents of a higher test, believing they have the right to sacrifice the victim’s life, success, and mental health as a demonstration of their own power or as a solution to their own grievances.

Ultimately, this psychological warfare is intended to force a state of total submission. By making the victim’s living situation miserable, the abusers hope to force her to forget the decades of physical and emotional abuse. They want to see the target fall, hoping she will eventually beg for the very people who destroyed her life to return to it. This cycle of taking a person down is how they maintain their sense of power and avoid the loss of control they fear most.

YOUR DELUSION IS NOT MY REALITY

 Every writer possesses a wild imagination; it is the engine that drives us to create worlds of crime, romance, or fantasy. But there is a dark side to being a creator—not from within, but from the assumptions of others. For over 15 years, I have lived under a microscope of "guesswork" where every action I take is twisted to fit an abusive narrative.

For these individuals, my life is not my own; it is a script they are trying to direct. They have populated my world with "characters" labeled by numbers (1, 2, 3, 4...).

• The Accusations: If I buy something, it’s a "clue." If I watch a movie, I’m "reporting" to someone. Even being sick is treated as a calculated move in their imaginary game.

• The Numbered Ghosts: Numbers 1 and 2 seem to be their favorites. They’ve invented "exes" and "contacts" associated with these digits, insisting I am in constant communication with people who do not exist in my reality.

If these thoughts stayed in their heads, it would be manageable. Instead, it has evolved into active harassment:

1. Demand for Action: They expect me to host parties for these imaginary people or "find" them in the real world.

2. Invasion of Privacy: They assume these characters live in my home or communicate with me through the TV.

3. Erasure of Truth: Despite my clear statements that my book characters are fiction, they insist they are real people. They’ve even fabricated "living" parents or siblings moving to Canada, claiming every move I make is for them.

This nonsense has persisted since long before I started writing, but my career has unfortunately given them fresh fuel. Most distressingly, this "fan fiction" of my life has bled into legal matters, where their baseless guesses are treated with a seriousness they don't deserve.

It is a bizarre irony: I write fiction for a living, yet I am the one fighting to stay grounded in facts while others try to force me to live inside their broken fantasies.

A RESPONSE TO RECENT UNETHICAL BELITTLING CAMPAIGNS AND THE "YEAH, IT IS YOU"

 ​It is a common challenge for political writers to have their personal beliefs or fictional characters scrutinized. However, I have recently encountered a persistent and coordinated effort to blur these lines in a way that is both irrational and defamatory.

​1. Fiction vs. Reality

​I have stated this repeatedly: my characters are works of fiction. Attempting to find "clues" about my private life within the pages of a book is illogical. My creative output does not serve as a diary, and my characters do not represent my personal choices or business dealings.

​2. Addressing the "Yeah, That's You" Narrative

​I have noticed a recurring pattern where individuals attempt to belittle my interests, businesses, and personal milestones by claiming they are reflections of my fictional work. This "childish advertising" and aggressive questioning of my professionalism or financial status is not just unprofessional—it is a form of harassment.

• ​To be clear: My personal life and my business ventures outside of writing are entirely independent of my books or my political opinions.
• ​The "Truth": If these groups are searching for a "lost truth," they will not find it in my private life. My family, friends, and professional associates know my reality; the projections of strangers are irrelevant.

​3. Final Warning on Interference

​The attempt to interfere with my professional business through defamation and "personality questioning" is a cheap tactic used by those who have nothing of value to offer. These actions are unethical and, in many cases, illegal.

​I will not be intimidated by those who use my creativity as a weapon to attack my character. Moving forward, I will continue to focus on my professional growth, unbothered by the "zero-value" opinions of those living in a world of their own invention.

BEYOND THE PAGES OF DAYLON: A CALL FOR INTEGRITY IN THE FACE OF PERSONAL ATTACKS

 The world is fraught with hundreds of hidden and obvious socio-political challenges. For authors, journalists, and filmmakers, one of the highest callings is to highlight these issues to capture the attention of those in power. While many works are celebrated with awards for shedding light on these dark corners, there is always a duality of response: appreciation from the public and pushback from those who feel exposed.

Both healthy appreciation and constructive criticism motivate creators to refine their craft. However, a more sinister element exists—individuals and organizations that profit from tobacco, alcohol, drugs, and guns—who work tirelessly to obscure the trauma linked to their industries.

I want to be clear: I am not calling for a blanket ban on these things. Social drinking, smoking, the medicinal use of drugs, and the protective use of firearms all have their place in specific contexts. My concern lies with the systemic abuse of these elements and the fallout it creates.

Since the publication of my book, Daylon, I have faced a coordinated effort to silence my voice. Rather than engaging with the book’s themes, certain entities have resorted to:

• Defamation: Linking the issues of addiction and violence to my personal life, my family, and my country of origin.

• False Assumptions: Claiming that writing about these tragedies must mean I have a personal history with them.

• Sabotage: Using insults and personal attacks to distract from the "cliché" or superficial subjects they produce.

While there is a market for "cliché" entertainment—and I enjoy it myself for relaxation—it should never come at the cost of slandering those who choose to write about deeper, more uncomfortable truths. No organization should be allowed to use defamation as a shield for their profits.

I am calling upon:

• Movie producers and scriptwriters

• Magazines and book reviewers

• Publishers and literary critics

I ask you to stand against this corrupt approach. Do not allow the sabotage of literature for the sake of corporate profit. We must protect the integrity of our creative community and ensure that those who dare to highlight the world’s flaws are not punished for their bravery.

TRADING ONE LOSS FOR ANOTHER

 There is a fine line between teaching children the value of their circumstances and using those circumstances to trap them. While we often limit resources to help the next generation understand the worth of freedom, this approach is frequently pushed to a toxic extreme. When being grateful is used to justify injustice, it ceases to be a virtue and becomes a tool of oppression.

We often encounter individuals who claim we have more than we should, using our past successes as an excuse to diminish our current suffering. Even worse is the group that actively strips away your opportunities or your hard-earned efforts, only to tell you that you have no right to be angry or sad about what was taken.

This logic is as hollow as it is cruel. It is like a justice system that, upon hearing a parent’s plea for their murdered child, responds by taking their remaining child away—demanding they feel thankful for what is left rather than seeking justice for what was lost.

I have faced this manipulation for years. When I resigned from a harassing work environment to protect my well-being, I was met with a blacklist and told I should have been grateful for the job I had. This is a ridiculous double standard: you are told to accept abuse as the price for your position, and if you demand dignity, they attempt to ruin your future to prove you should have stayed silent.

This constant comparison is a tactic to force the adoption of, and submission to, harassment and bullying. It is an attempt to make the victim believe they deserve the abuse because of what they once possessed.

What these individuals fail to realize is that they are building a culture of silence. By protecting bullies and punishing those who stand up for themselves, they are eroding the foundations of justice for everyone. They believe they are safe behind their comparisons, but a culture that fosters injustice eventually turns on everyone—including those who helped build it.

True gratitude cannot exist where there is no justice.

NOT YOUR BUSINESS

 It is staggering how some individuals persist in spying on you, desperate to find a shred of regret following a separation or divorce. They employ a toolkit of deception: tricking you, spying, delaying your milestones, and sabotaging your relationships with family and friends. They insert themselves into your business and, after years of mental and emotional abuse, somehow expect to be welcomed back with open arms.

Individuals who operate this way do not just deserve to live without the loved ones they drove away; they require professional help to diagnose the delusions and deception driving their behavior.

Relationships are private decisions made between two people. It is beyond interference—it is heretical—to observe outsiders jumping into the middle of a separation to perform for one side or sabotage the other. These people often convince themselves they are "doing a favor" or helping you return to your "previous life," when in reality, they are simply extending the cycle of abuse.

They operate on the arrogant assumption that you are desperate to return to a past you consciously chose to leave. This reaches a level of absurdity where every positive step you take for yourself—moving, self-care, buying something new, or dressing up—is misinterpreted as a signal that you are "dying" to see your ex again.

I have personally faced this harassment for nearly 15 years. Even after all this time, every move I make is met with the assumption that I am desperate for my ex or "couldn't find anyone like him." To those harboring these thoughts, I have four things to say:

1. Mind Your Business: It is not your place to involve yourself in the private dynamics of a relationship that ended over a decade ago.

2. The Timeline of Truth: If there were any desire to reunite, it would have happened years ago. It does not take 15 years to realize a mistake.

3. The Double Standard: If I were to interfere in your personal life the way you do mine, you would scream and play the victim. Yet, you feel entitled to follow me and interfere with my life 15 years later.

4. The Truth About New Relationships: You wonder why I haven't entered a new relationship? It is because every person I met seemed to be on a "mission" to make me regret my separation. They played games—acting like "bad boys" or behaving like children—to manipulate my emotions.

It became clear that this interference extended into every corner of my life, from stores to medical services. No one should have to navigate a relationship that is being puppet-mastered by men trying to prove their exes "regret" leaving them.

The most unsettling part is that while my ex may not have approached me directly, there has been a persistent effort behind the scenes to prove a narrative: that the woman is the one begging to return. It is hard to believe that 15 years later, my life is still being disrupted by men playing the "nice guy" role while trying to prove their spouses were at fault.

Final Thought: To those obsessed with this narrative: see a professional. Explore the root of your obsession and the need to prove you were "the best" while painting your former partner as the villain. True healing comes from moving on, not from 15 years of trying to force a regret that doesn't exist.

 

 

THE FRONT-ROW JUNGLE: THE ILLUSION AND EROSION OF IDENTITY

 ​Navigating a social environment where you can only see the "front row of trees"—with everything behind them hidden—is a form of profound psychological harassment. In this method, strangers or bad actors step into the roles of your family members, acting as if they are your children, siblings, or spouse.

• ​Privacy Invasion: By mimicking your loved ones, they bridge the gap into your most personal spaces, making your private life feel unsafe.
• ​Character Assassination: They target your loved ones by exaggerating their weaknesses, mocking their habits, or harshly criticizing their behavior through performance.
• ​Identity Displacement: The goal is often to "take you down" by distorting your perception of those you trust most.

​The motivations behind this behavior are often murky. Those who employ these tactics may be suffering from:

• ​Severe Psychological Disorders: Underlying conditions that distort their perception of reality.
• ​Unresolved Childhood Trauma: Using "roleplay" to process or project their own past pain.

• ​Social Anxiety: An extreme disconnect from their own identity, leading them to try and "become" someone else.

• Compensatory Posturing. Artificially downplaying the difficulty of work or obscuring sources (the 'man behind the curtain' effect) to shield the ego from past failures and justify their value.

​Regardless of the cause, this behavior is a sign of deep distress that requires professional intervention and treatment.

​This trend doesn't just hurt individuals; it erodes the fabric of society, business, and culture. When this method is accepted—particularly by younger generations—people begin to lose their real identities. It creates a world where every person you approach is "acting," causing a total loss of authenticity.

It is better that before we accept to be part of this harassment, we think how it will impact ourselves in both the short and long term.

WHOSE VOICE IS IT?

 Telecommunications and media are the most vital tools in modern society. They exist to connect the public through professional, accurate reporting. In times of crisis, this responsibility becomes a matter of life and death. History shows us that when external resources cover internal news, they have the power to change minds and influence major decisions. This is exactly why even the smallest piece of misinformation can lead to a massive disaster.

Currently, we are seeing a flood of news, videos, and images from Iran. Despite the internet being blocked and phone lines being cut, we continue to observe reports of violence and destruction. However, there is a troubling trend in how this is being covered. International media is heavily highlighting the previous Iranian flag—the symbol of those seeking a return to the monarchy.

As a Canadian-Iranian writer who believes in freedom and respect for national symbols, I am deeply concerned. It appears that instead of staying neutral, many journalists are taking sides. By exaggerating the presence of the "kingdom" supporters, they are distracting the world from the real, hidden issues behind the Iranian people's anger.

I do not wish to belittle the suffering of those who were forced into exile after the revolution. Their pain is real. However, I do not believe that in 2026, the majority of people wish to live in a country where a leader is chosen simply because of their father’s legacy.

• In the modern world, even presidents are limited to two terms for a logical reason.

• Political groups must look back at their own history, evaluate their successes and failures, and understand that the world has moved forward.

The current propaganda regarding a return to the monarchy and the insults directed at the official Iranian flag are far from the standards of accountability in journalism.

• When the media supports or ignores the burning and tearing of a national flag, it invites a cycle of hatred that will eventually return to those same countries.

• A flag is a sign of a country’s worth; when its value is lowered, the security of all national symbols is put at risk.

We must ask ourselves: Would you allow citizens of other countries to vote in your domestic elections? The answer is no. For that same reason, only the citizens living within a land have the right to decide who runs it. While it is natural for the diaspora to be concerned, we must be honest: with the communication systems shut down, we do not have the full story.

My Plea to Journalists: Please be careful. These coverages are extremely sensitive. They can lead to further killing, attacks, and even war. At best, they create a grudge against countries that tried to take advantage of a crisis to support specific opposition groups.

I ask you to stand with free speech, show respect to the flag, and remain silent if you are not fully aware of the real story.