BEYOND THE PAGES OF DAYLON: A CALL FOR INTEGRITY IN THE FACE OF PERSONAL ATTACKS

 The world is fraught with hundreds of hidden and obvious socio-political challenges. For authors, journalists, and filmmakers, one of the highest callings is to highlight these issues to capture the attention of those in power. While many works are celebrated with awards for shedding light on these dark corners, there is always a duality of response: appreciation from the public and pushback from those who feel exposed.

Both healthy appreciation and constructive criticism motivate creators to refine their craft. However, a more sinister element exists—individuals and organizations that profit from tobacco, alcohol, drugs, and guns—who work tirelessly to obscure the trauma linked to their industries.

I want to be clear: I am not calling for a blanket ban on these things. Social drinking, smoking, the medicinal use of drugs, and the protective use of firearms all have their place in specific contexts. My concern lies with the systemic abuse of these elements and the fallout it creates.

Since the publication of my book, Daylon, I have faced a coordinated effort to silence my voice. Rather than engaging with the book’s themes, certain entities have resorted to:

• Defamation: Linking the issues of addiction and violence to my personal life, my family, and my country of origin.

• False Assumptions: Claiming that writing about these tragedies must mean I have a personal history with them.

• Sabotage: Using insults and personal attacks to distract from the "cliché" or superficial subjects they produce.

While there is a market for "cliché" entertainment—and I enjoy it myself for relaxation—it should never come at the cost of slandering those who choose to write about deeper, more uncomfortable truths. No organization should be allowed to use defamation as a shield for their profits.

I am calling upon:

• Movie producers and scriptwriters

• Magazines and book reviewers

• Publishers and literary critics

I ask you to stand against this corrupt approach. Do not allow the sabotage of literature for the sake of corporate profit. We must protect the integrity of our creative community and ensure that those who dare to highlight the world’s flaws are not punished for their bravery.

TRADING ONE LOSS FOR ANOTHER

 There is a fine line between teaching children the value of their circumstances and using those circumstances to trap them. While we often limit resources to help the next generation understand the worth of freedom, this approach is frequently pushed to a toxic extreme. When being grateful is used to justify injustice, it ceases to be a virtue and becomes a tool of oppression.

We often encounter individuals who claim we have more than we should, using our past successes as an excuse to diminish our current suffering. Even worse is the group that actively strips away your opportunities or your hard-earned efforts, only to tell you that you have no right to be angry or sad about what was taken.

This logic is as hollow as it is cruel. It is like a justice system that, upon hearing a parent’s plea for their murdered child, responds by taking their remaining child away—demanding they feel thankful for what is left rather than seeking justice for what was lost.

I have faced this manipulation for years. When I resigned from a harassing work environment to protect my well-being, I was met with a blacklist and told I should have been grateful for the job I had. This is a ridiculous double standard: you are told to accept abuse as the price for your position, and if you demand dignity, they attempt to ruin your future to prove you should have stayed silent.

This constant comparison is a tactic to force the adoption of, and submission to, harassment and bullying. It is an attempt to make the victim believe they deserve the abuse because of what they once possessed.

What these individuals fail to realize is that they are building a culture of silence. By protecting bullies and punishing those who stand up for themselves, they are eroding the foundations of justice for everyone. They believe they are safe behind their comparisons, but a culture that fosters injustice eventually turns on everyone—including those who helped build it.

True gratitude cannot exist where there is no justice.

NOT YOUR BUSINESS

 It is staggering how some individuals persist in spying on you, desperate to find a shred of regret following a separation or divorce. They employ a toolkit of deception: tricking you, spying, delaying your milestones, and sabotaging your relationships with family and friends. They insert themselves into your business and, after years of mental and emotional abuse, somehow expect to be welcomed back with open arms.

Individuals who operate this way do not just deserve to live without the loved ones they drove away; they require professional help to diagnose the delusions and deception driving their behavior.

Relationships are private decisions made between two people. It is beyond interference—it is heretical—to observe outsiders jumping into the middle of a separation to perform for one side or sabotage the other. These people often convince themselves they are "doing a favor" or helping you return to your "previous life," when in reality, they are simply extending the cycle of abuse.

They operate on the arrogant assumption that you are desperate to return to a past you consciously chose to leave. This reaches a level of absurdity where every positive step you take for yourself—moving, self-care, buying something new, or dressing up—is misinterpreted as a signal that you are "dying" to see your ex again.

I have personally faced this harassment for nearly 15 years. Even after all this time, every move I make is met with the assumption that I am desperate for my ex or "couldn't find anyone like him." To those harboring these thoughts, I have four things to say:

1. Mind Your Business: It is not your place to involve yourself in the private dynamics of a relationship that ended over a decade ago.

2. The Timeline of Truth: If there were any desire to reunite, it would have happened years ago. It does not take 15 years to realize a mistake.

3. The Double Standard: If I were to interfere in your personal life the way you do mine, you would scream and play the victim. Yet, you feel entitled to follow me and interfere with my life 15 years later.

4. The Truth About New Relationships: You wonder why I haven't entered a new relationship? It is because every person I met seemed to be on a "mission" to make me regret my separation. They played games—acting like "bad boys" or behaving like children—to manipulate my emotions.

It became clear that this interference extended into every corner of my life, from stores to medical services. No one should have to navigate a relationship that is being puppet-mastered by men trying to prove their exes "regret" leaving them.

The most unsettling part is that while my ex may not have approached me directly, there has been a persistent effort behind the scenes to prove a narrative: that the woman is the one begging to return. It is hard to believe that 15 years later, my life is still being disrupted by men playing the "nice guy" role while trying to prove their spouses were at fault.

Final Thought: To those obsessed with this narrative: see a professional. Explore the root of your obsession and the need to prove you were "the best" while painting your former partner as the villain. True healing comes from moving on, not from 15 years of trying to force a regret that doesn't exist.

 

 

THE FRONT-ROW JUNGLE: THE ILLUSION AND EROSION OF IDENTITY

 ​Navigating a social environment where you can only see the "front row of trees"—with everything behind them hidden—is a form of profound psychological harassment. In this method, strangers or bad actors step into the roles of your family members, acting as if they are your children, siblings, or spouse.

• ​Privacy Invasion: By mimicking your loved ones, they bridge the gap into your most personal spaces, making your private life feel unsafe.
• ​Character Assassination: They target your loved ones by exaggerating their weaknesses, mocking their habits, or harshly criticizing their behavior through performance.
• ​Identity Displacement: The goal is often to "take you down" by distorting your perception of those you trust most.

​The motivations behind this behavior are often murky. Those who employ these tactics may be suffering from:

• ​Severe Psychological Disorders: Underlying conditions that distort their perception of reality.
• ​Unresolved Childhood Trauma: Using "roleplay" to process or project their own past pain.

• ​Social Anxiety: An extreme disconnect from their own identity, leading them to try and "become" someone else.

• Compensatory Posturing. Artificially downplaying the difficulty of work or obscuring sources (the 'man behind the curtain' effect) to shield the ego from past failures and justify their value.

​Regardless of the cause, this behavior is a sign of deep distress that requires professional intervention and treatment.

​This trend doesn't just hurt individuals; it erodes the fabric of society, business, and culture. When this method is accepted—particularly by younger generations—people begin to lose their real identities. It creates a world where every person you approach is "acting," causing a total loss of authenticity.

It is better that before we accept to be part of this harassment, we think how it will impact ourselves in both the short and long term.

WHOSE VOICE IS IT?

 Telecommunications and media are the most vital tools in modern society. They exist to connect the public through professional, accurate reporting. In times of crisis, this responsibility becomes a matter of life and death. History shows us that when external resources cover internal news, they have the power to change minds and influence major decisions. This is exactly why even the smallest piece of misinformation can lead to a massive disaster.

Currently, we are seeing a flood of news, videos, and images from Iran. Despite the internet being blocked and phone lines being cut, we continue to observe reports of violence and destruction. However, there is a troubling trend in how this is being covered. International media is heavily highlighting the previous Iranian flag—the symbol of those seeking a return to the monarchy.

As a Canadian-Iranian writer who believes in freedom and respect for national symbols, I am deeply concerned. It appears that instead of staying neutral, many journalists are taking sides. By exaggerating the presence of the "kingdom" supporters, they are distracting the world from the real, hidden issues behind the Iranian people's anger.

I do not wish to belittle the suffering of those who were forced into exile after the revolution. Their pain is real. However, I do not believe that in 2026, the majority of people wish to live in a country where a leader is chosen simply because of their father’s legacy.

• In the modern world, even presidents are limited to two terms for a logical reason.

• Political groups must look back at their own history, evaluate their successes and failures, and understand that the world has moved forward.

The current propaganda regarding a return to the monarchy and the insults directed at the official Iranian flag are far from the standards of accountability in journalism.

• When the media supports or ignores the burning and tearing of a national flag, it invites a cycle of hatred that will eventually return to those same countries.

• A flag is a sign of a country’s worth; when its value is lowered, the security of all national symbols is put at risk.

We must ask ourselves: Would you allow citizens of other countries to vote in your domestic elections? The answer is no. For that same reason, only the citizens living within a land have the right to decide who runs it. While it is natural for the diaspora to be concerned, we must be honest: with the communication systems shut down, we do not have the full story.

My Plea to Journalists: Please be careful. These coverages are extremely sensitive. They can lead to further killing, attacks, and even war. At best, they create a grudge against countries that tried to take advantage of a crisis to support specific opposition groups.

I ask you to stand with free speech, show respect to the flag, and remain silent if you are not fully aware of the real story.

WHY A WOMAN MUST BE DESPERATE TO BE A MOTHER OR WIFE

For too long, society has operated under a distorted definition of what it means to be a parent in the later stages of life. While we claim to value parents, a toxic cultural script has emerged: one that suggests a mother or father must be desperate to be worthy of their title.

​Let us be clear: there is absolutely nothing wrong with a mother needing her children. There is dignity and love in the bond where a parent relies on their children for day-to-day living, or where a child steps in during times of sickness and frailty. That vulnerability is a natural part of the human experience.

​However, being a mother is not limited to that definition. A woman does not lose her status as a mother simply because she is independent, and self-sufficient.

​In many circles across North America today, an independent mother—especially a businesswoman —is often met with a strange form of loyalty testing. If she isn't in a hospital bed or demanding her children’s constant intervention, society starts to cast stones.

​Accusations often arise that she isn't a real mother because she doesn't need her kids. There is sabotage in labeling her autonomy as coldness or suggesting she is crossing the line by maintaining her own life. Some go as far as to isolate her, attempting to shame her into a state of helplessness just so she fits the traditional image of an elderly parent.

​It is 2026. We should be celebrating the fact that many parents are entering their later years with the tools to remain active in business and society. Yet, the public imagination still prioritizes the image of the suffering parent.

​Why must we wait for pain to show value? When did being a mother turn into a requirement to be demanding, sick, or desperate? I have personally observed that this demand for desperation usually extends beyond motherhood; it bleeds into the role of a wife. There is an unspoken rule that to be considered a good wife, you must be seen relying entirely on your husband. If you are a woman who stands on her own feet, you are often viewed with suspicion or judged for not performing the good wife .

​We need a public education shift that honors the full spectrum of aging. We must honor the vulnerable by supporting those who rely on their families for daily survival, but we must also respect the independent by celebrating the mother and wife who runs a business, travels, and manages her own affairs.

​A Call for Change

​Isn’t it time we stop observing parents only through the lens of their needs and start seeing them for their contributions? Whether a mother is lying in a hospital bed or sitting in a boardroom, her value remains the same. Her motherhood is not a status that is activated only when she becomes a burden; it is a lifelong identity that should be honored in both her strength and her struggle.

​The Bottom Line: We must stop equating motherhood and womanhood with misery. True respect means supporting a person’s right to be cared for when they are weak, but also their right to be powerful and independent when they are able.

BULLIES IN HEAVEN, THE MASK OF GOD

 The concept of the afterlife remains one of the most polarizing topics in human history. Most of us are taught from a young age that there is a heaven and a hell waiting for us after death, serving as a warning to refrain from bad deeds. 

However, there are many others who believe there is no other world beyond this one and that everything simply ends when our time of life is over. Between these views exists another group who believes that heaven and hell are found right here in this world; they argue that if you do good or bad, it returns to you while you are still alive.

Unfortunately, within these belief systems, there are individuals who pretend to be religious while playing the role of God or justice. They cross sacred boundaries by digging into your private life, even going so far as listening to your private calls or watching you in your home.

These individuals pretend to be gods who know everything you do just so they can judge whether your actions are good or bad. They may even make assumptions about you based on your childhood or younger age, following you everywhere to judge if what you say, do, watch, listen to, or communicate is right or wrong.

These groups frequently cross the line and then take it upon themselves to punish you for their own personal judgments. For example, if you write a book they do not like, or if you watch a movie or listen to music that goes against their specific taste, they seek retribution. 

They may even target you for being angry or swearing in the privacy of your own home, or for filing a complaint in response to bullies. In a disturbing display of power, they may use dentists, doctors, and hospitals or even court to make you suffer, or they simply choose to ignore your sickness. In some cases, they even make you to pay bullies against your reaction to their abuse. Their primary excuse for this behavior is the claim that they believe in God and obey Him while you do not.

In this atmosphere of mess and harassment, it is often unclear who is truly responsible. It is hard to tell if judges who are called gods are involved, if religious extremists are trying to force you to ignore abuse by leaving it in God's hands, or if bullies are simply playing these roles for their own gain. 

In either case, it is the absolute responsibility of the justice system to clear itself from corruption. The system must stop these bullies and punish the professionals who are involved in this malpractice to ensure that no one is allowed to use faith as a mask for systematic abuse.

BEFORE AND AFTER GAME

 Life is often punctuated by profound incidents—car accidents, natural disasters like earthquakes or volcanoes, the death of a loved one, or the pain of divorce—that fundamentally alter our existence. These events are shaped by a complex interplay of our environment, the judgment of others, and our brain's primal psychological drive to survive.

While society and support organizations typically aim to help survivors cope, there is a darker, more destructive response that occasionally emerges: the "Before and After" game.

In many cases, instead of offering empathy, people create a judgmental environment by constantly comparing the victim’s current state to who they were before the incident. This behavior is deeply damaging because:

 * Erasure of Identity: By insisting the "before" life no longer belongs to the victim, observers isolate the survivor from their own history.

 * Victim Blaming: Judgmental people often begin to question why the disaster happened to that specific person, eventually suggesting there was something "wrong" with the victim to have "attracted" such misfortune.

 * Impossible Expectations: There is often a cruel expectation for the victim to "get back to who they were," ignoring the reality that deep trauma fundamentally changes a person’s chemistry and outlook.

The Consequences of Social Pressure

When a survivor is denied moral and emotional support and is instead met with constant scrutiny, the results can be catastrophic:

 * Mental Health Collapse: The pressure can lead to extreme isolation or, in tragic cases, thoughts of self-harm.

 * A Breakdown in Justice: If the legal or social justice systems join in this "comparison game" rather than addressing the harm, the victim may lose faith in society and feel forced to take matters into their own hands.

 * The Birth of Resentment: By trying to force a victim back into their past self through isolation and shame, the "players" of this game don’t realize they are actually fostering a permanent sense of hatred and a desire for revenge.

The journey of a survivor is already paved with unpredictability and pain. To add the weight of social judgment—blaming someone for an illness, a natural disaster, or a loss they could not control—is a form of secondary abuse. True support requires acknowledging that a person cannot simply "return" to the past; they must be allowed to heal into their new reality without being haunted by the ghost of who they used to be.

To wrap up, we must confront a harsh reality: the secondary victimization that occurs after a tragedy is often as damaging as the initial act.

​Whether it stems from judgmental commentary by strangers who never knew the victim, the systemic ignorance of a rigid justice system, or the manipulative "games" played by friends and family—the impact is the same. Comparing traumas or shifting blame onto the person who suffered is not just a social failing; it is a form of psychological abuse.

​It is time for our legal frameworks to stop being passive observers or unwitting participants in this cycle. The law should serve as a shield against this "after-game," criminalizing the harassment and character assassination that so often follows a victim. Instead of joining the fray, the system must evolve to dismantle this unpleasant process, ensuring that the pursuit of justice does not become a second site of trauma.

NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR

 It is necessary for me to address a persistent and disruptive misinterpretation of my work. For some time now, my posts, books, blogs, and magazine contributions have been subjected to baseless scrutiny by individuals and investigators who claim my writing is targeted toward a specific, "mysterious" person.

I want to be unequivocally clear: I am a professional writer. My work focuses on social and political themes, intended for public discourse and professional engagement.

While any reader is free to interpret literature or articles through their own lens, the current assumptions being circulated are no longer just matters of opinion—they are interfering with my personal and professional life.

 * No Hidden Agendas: My writing is not a tool for "searching" for someone, nor is it a cry to be "found."

 * No Mystery: The people who need to know my location already do. Similarly, the people I communicate with in my personal life are not "mysterious" figures; they are known to me through normal, transparent channels.

 * Professional Integrity: Assuming that my writing contains 'coded' or hidden messages for a specific person is a form of sabotage. It is a deliberate attempt to distract readers and prevent them from engaging with the actual political and social messages I intend to deliver.

 Final Note: I am asking for an end to these abusive assumptions. My purpose as a writer is to engage with the world on a professional level, not to participate in a fictional narrative created by others.

END THE CHILDISH GAMES

 It is an undeniable and bitter truth that war—regardless of its scale—inevitably leads to injury, death, and profound loss. This is precisely why international organizations exist: to mediate and prevent conflict before it begins.

​If we narrow the scope from global warfare down to a country, a society, or even a single family, the principle remains the same. Prevention is always superior to recovery. It is far better to stop a fight before it starts than to suffer the consequences and spend years trying to heal or find a solution.

​Unfortunately, there is a specific type of person or group that thrives on instability. Rather than resolving issues through civil dialogue, they intentionally create friction to force a situation into the hands of police, lawyers, or the courts.

​This behavior is problematic for several reasons:

• ​Weaponizing the System: They use legal and law enforcement resources as a personal tool for harassment rather than a path to justice.
• ​Toxic Environments: By purposefully creating an abusive atmosphere, they force others into a "fight" or "flight" response.
• ​The "Cowboy and Cop" Mentality: This behavior is fundamentally childish. It mimics a game of "cops and robbers," where those who profit from the chaos cast themselves in whatever role suits their narrative at the moment.

​Perhaps the most damaging aspect of this "game" is how it affects actual law enforcement and the justice system. While these bullies are busy playing out their manufactured dramas, they often actively question the integrity of real investigators.

​They use this noise as a smokescreen. By casting doubt on serious investigations, they hope to ensure that their own hidden mistakes, harassment, and toxic behavior remain undisclosed. It is a calculated effort to stay protected by the very systems they are manipulating.

INTERNAL WAR VS. EXTERNAL DEFENSE

 Although I live outside of Iran and cannot witness the day-to-day reality behind the international headlines, I believe that every political or social movement begins with a long-ignored issue. These problems often fester quietly within the system, unnoticed by high-level authorities. However, when an issue remains active but hidden for too long, it eventually erupts—spreading rapidly like an epidemic.

​This phenomenon is not limited to the Middle East or any specific region; it is a human reality that could happen anywhere, perhaps closer than we think.

​Unfortunately, when too much time passes and the severity of an issue is left unaddressed, it can spiral out of control. This leads to:

• ​Both authorities and the public face injury and hardship.

• ​The country suffers the deep scars of an internal "war" or domestic conflict.

• ​ Internal instability often weakens borders, inviting outside nations to intervene—some to offer genuine help, others to exploit the situation for their own benefit.

​In many ways, an internal fight is more dangerous than an external war. It creates a fundamental separation among citizens, causing them to turn their anger and power against one another instead of uniting against outside threats. Such movements have a profound impact on:

• ​The Economy: Infrastructure and markets are often the first to suffer.

• ​Societal Safety: The daily security of the people is compromised.

• ​Border Security: A divided nation is a vulnerable nation.

​Because I live abroad, I cannot sit in judgment of the Iranian movement. However, it is my hope that those involved consider every aspect of the long-term effects these movements will have on their lives and the future of their country.

DAY, NIGHT, AND THE MASK OF REALITY

 ​The cycle of day and night is one of life’s few constants. We understand that the sun allows us to see clearly, while the darkness of night requires us to find our own light. Both are essential, yet we have a deep-seated, instinctual fear of the dark simply because we cannot see what is happening around us. This natural fear is often exploited.

​In society, certain individuals and groups use the concepts of "dark" and "light" to target others. They manipulate these terms to label people as scary, evil, or "bright" and "good." Those who misuse these natural cycles are the same people who would metaphorically blindfold others to keep them in the dark.

​It is to their benefit that the public remains blind to the reality behind their masks.

​This manipulation often goes beyond simple metaphors and enters the territory of dangerous social labeling:

• ​Geopolitics: Using "day" and "night" to align people with specific countries or political ideologies. ​
• False Dichotomies: Using White to represent peace and Black to represent war, which misleads the public into believing a person's intent based on a label rather than their actions.
• ​Racism and Prejudice: These labels feed the fire of racism, convincing people that one race is superior or that another is a threat to be feared. It can even lead to the public supporting a guilty person or condemning an innocent one based solely on skin color, age, or "labels."

​Labels do not change facts. Calling a war-monger "peaceful" doesn't change the reality of their demands, just as labeling someone "dark" doesn't make them evil.

​We see this misuse everywhere: in the separation of men and women, in the "switching" of words to hide theft, and in the religious or moral labeling of "angels" versus "evils." These are often just tools used to insert wrong ideas into the public consciousness.

It is time to stop those who use these words as weapons. We must look past the labels of night and day, white and black, or young and old. To find the truth, we must remove the blindfolds and judge individuals by their reality, not the "colors" others use to describe them.

OFFICIAL DECLARATION OF INDEPENDENT AUTHORSHIP

 Since the publication of my first book, I have observed a persistent and troubling pattern. Every idea I share—whether in my books, on my blog, or in public comments—is met with the baseless assumption that I am acting on behalf of a specific group, person, or political ideology.

Critics and detractors often attempt to "trace" my thoughts back to imaginary influencers or even to the fictional characters within my own books. I have consistently and publicly stated that I work entirely independently. I am not under any social, political, or financial influence.

It has become clear that linking my work to outside parties is a tactic used to avoid addressing the actual issues I highlight. Instead of resolving the problems of negligence and ignorance I bring to light, it is easier for some to mislead the public by falsely associating my writing with "oppositions," "rioters," or "political agendas."

This sabotage has crossed a line, infiltrating my professional and personal life. Whether I am attending a business meeting or a social gathering—online or in person—there are immediate, false attempts to link my presence or my words to others, specifically my ex-husband.

I am clarifying once again: Nothing I write, file, or post originates from anyone but me. * Identity: I am Sam Smith—author, writer, and blogger.

• Source: My work is the direct result of the harassment, ignorance, and negligence I have faced for the last 20 years—and continue to face at this very moment.

• Independence: I am not, and will never be, under the influence of any external party.

I am calling upon the authorities to put an end to this abusive environment. This harassment has extended into my neighborhood, medical institutions, social gatherings, and beyond.

I understand that the truth can be bitter, but it is the responsibility of every writer to speak it. I demand the right to exist and work as an independent creator without being subjected to these constant, defamatory links to outside parties.

THE PRICE OF INTEGRITY

 ​It is a privilege to contribute to a company using your hard-earned knowledge and skills. However, as an engineer who faced years of discrimination and bullying—and who was forced to resign repeatedly to preserve my integrity—I stand firmly for justice and against toxic work environments.

​There are many who, perhaps due to a lack of awareness regarding work ethics and professional standards, judge those of us who choose to walk away. I often hear the "what if" scenario: “If you hadn't resigned, you would be much wealthier today.”

​While it is true that I received a high salary and held a position of responsibility that I truly loved, that wealth would have come at a soul-crushing price. I was expected to:

• ​Become part of a corrupt system.
• ​Endure mental and emotional stress in an abusive environment.
• ​Remain silent in the face of discrepancies, isolation, and stereotyping.
• ​Accept systemic discrimination and racism.

​Those who follow my articles, blog, and books know that I am not the type of person to remain silent under such circumstances.

​The most telling part of this journey is that even 15 years after leaving those environments, there are still attempts to cover up system failures, corruption, and negligence. They continue to spread misinformation, suggesting to the public and authorities that my objections were not legitimate or that the fault was mine.

​The answer is clear and loud: NO. I was a professional, ethical employee who refused to be complicit in a poisoned work environment. I refused to stay silent about racism and discrimination. Today, I am still standing for my principles and my beliefs, and I do so with my head held high. 

To truly understand the depth of the unnecessary pressure and systemic abuse I endured within these poisoned workplaces, I suggest you read my book, "Can We Talk?". It is the true story of my life and a testament to why I chose my principles over a corrupt system.

 

THE DEATH OF RECONCILIATION

It is a powerful political metaphor ,"There was a group of people who find a politician and lift him high upon their shoulders. With loud voices and no logic, they swear a solemn oath: "If this man is not elected, we shall all die by noon today!" They don’t know his policies or his heart; they only know the fervor of the moment. But as the sun climbs and it becomes clear he will not win, their "loyalty" turns to venom. The very hands that held him high now reach up to pull him down. The same voices that swore to die for him now shout that he is the one who must die". Because they have no real knowledge—only a shallow, shifting passion—they change their minds as easily as the wind moves.

This same dangerous ignorance plays out in the separation or divorce. Individuals who were never part of the marriage suddenly act as judge, jury, and law-maker. Without knowing the truth of what happened behind closed doors, they blindly take the one spouse`s side. They fill the air with gossip, bad-mouthing  fueling a fire they didn't start.

Then, the "London time" shifts. When they realize the wife or husband were at fault, or the story wasn't what they imagined or assumed , they don't apologize. Instead, they turn their gossip on the other side. They jump from one side of the boat to the other, uncaring of who they sink in the process.

In this "gang show," everyone loses:

• The unsupported side is hurt by the verbal abuse, the false judgments, and the unfair control of the crowd.

• The supported side is ruined by those who pretend to be her "supporters" but are actually blocking any path to reconciliation.

A marriage is a delicate thing. Even when it is broken, there might remain a tiny potential for a return, or at least a peaceful path where a partner in fault is considered with grace. But the intervention of these outsiders kills that potential. They rush into a situation that has nothing to do with them, intervening so loudly and so blindly that they turn a private struggle into a public hell.

By the time these "judges" are done, they haven't saved anyone—they have only ensured that the relationship can never, ever come back.

HOW BULLIES MANIPULATE THEIR VICTIM'S REALITY

 This psychological phenomenon, when used for positive growth, is known as Mental Priming or Implementation Intentions. It suggests that when the human brain vividly plans a sequence of events, the neurological pathways for those actions are strengthened, making the transition from thought to reality much more likely.

​However, when this power is harnessed by bullies and systemic abusers, it becomes a form of Coercive Engineering. In this dark application, an abuser manipulates your environment to force your mind into a "planning trap," where you are coerced into making decisions that benefit the abuser while destroying your own well-being.

​In a healthy state, you plan for your dreams. In an abusive environment, bullies use environmental stressors to force you to plan for their plans and benefits.

• ​Inserted Ideology: By using "wrong advertising" (smear campaigns) or public shaming, bullies plant seeds of doubt and fear in public mind.
• ​The Reactionary Plan: Victom begins to obsessively plan how to escape, how to defend himrself, or how to react. The bully has successfully hijackes victim cognitive resources, forcing him to spend his mental energy on their agenda.

​Abusers often use "proxies"—people or systems that should be neutral—to tighten the trap.

• Using doctors to gaslight victim or deny care. Then the system protects itself by claiming a "shortage of doctors," leaving victim without a family physician for years as a "punishment" for his reaction.
• ​Using verbal abuse or coordinated neighborhood hostility to make victim living situation impossible, forcing he finds a place to plan a move they can benefit from his efforts. 

​The most dangerous part of this cycle is the use of the legal system as a secondary weapon. Bullies rely on the principle of law Ignorance .

​The result is an environment where the victim is mentally and emotionally exhausted.

In the end, the bully gets what they wanted while the victim is left suffering in a hostile environment, often blamed by the very systems they turned to for help.

LOSE LOSE- THE ABUSIVE ROLE ASSIGNMENT

 Sometimes, individuals initiate a "game" without considering the long-term consequences, dragging others into an unpleasant and deceptive reality. As time passes and the creators of this game find themselves trapped or stuck within the walls they built, they do not take responsibility. Instead, they turn their frustration toward the innocent participants who were pulled in against their will—expecting them to provide a way out or blaming them for the game's failure.

​A particularly abusive example of this occurs when a group of men present themselves as women, pulling actual women into an environment where those women are assigned the role of "man" or "husband" without their knowledge or consent.

​In this surreal dynamic:

• ​False Advocacy: The players pretend to be defenders of women’s rights or claim a feminine identity.
• ​Unfair Expectations: They expect the real women—who are blind to the "script" being played—to apologize for the trouble the instigators are in.
• ​The Burden of Responsibility: They demand that the person assigned the "husband" role be responsible for every grievance, even if that person is a woman who has no idea she is being viewed as a man or what is happening in this twisted reality.

​This game is fundamentally a lose-lose scenario:

1. ​The Instigators Lose: Their success is impossible because no two relationships or individuals are the same. They eventually become prisoners of their own deception, unable to find genuine connection.
2. ​The Victims Lose: They are forced into an abusive environment without consent, subjected to unrealistic demands and a constant pressure to "re-embrace" or "fix" something they didn't break.

​The question remains: Why do people start something that creates so much trouble for themselves and others? The answer is rooted in deep-seated psychological reasons. Whether driven by a need for control, a flight from their own identity, or a complete lack of empathy for the autonomy of others, these "gamers" prioritize their fantasy over human reality. Ultimately, they would rather blame a "blind" participant for the failure of the game than admit they were the ones who wrote the script.

THE HOLLOW LADDER -REPLACING CHEATERS WITH ACHIVERS

 Most of us were raised with the understanding that cheating is a violation of social norms, ethics, and, in many cases, the law. However, when children who cheat in school are not corrected, they learn a dangerous lesson: they can climb the social and professional ladder by exploiting the efforts of others. This creates a "culture of the shortcut" that eventually permeates entire organizations and societies, leaving honest individuals unable to trust the person sitting next to them.

For too long, I have personally witnessed and been a victim of bullies and cheaters who use sophisticated methods to steal what they haven't earned. This goes beyond simple dishonesty; it involves:

• Identity Theft and Substitution: Using "twin tricks," roommates, or siblings to displace someone's identity.

• Systemic Bias: Weaponizing ageism, racism, and gender bias to replace a legitimate worker or contributor with a "preferred" substitute who then lives off the original person’s investments and assets.

• Asset Misappropriation: Like a bank robber living free while the depositors are blamed and humiliated, these individuals enjoy the fruits of someone else’s labor while the victim is targeted and marginalized.

There was once a well-known UNICEF charity program called "Trick-or-Treat," designed to help those in need. Today, it feels as though a younger generation has inverted that concept. They use "tricks" not for charity, but as a form of harassment and entitlement—pretending to be in need to justify stepping on others' shoulders to climb higher.

Unfortunately, because the law often fails to keep pace with these evolving forms of emotional abuse and intellectual theft, this movement continues unchecked. It is a painful reality to watch others claim your books, your work, and your assets while the systems meant to protect you remain silent.

ATTCKING ARTS AND CULTURE

 As many of you know, during the Crusades—specifically the devastating Sack of Constantinople—the world witnessed a systematic erasure of human achievement. Libraries were burned to the ground, ancient sculptures were melted down for coin, and the sacred art within churches was dismantled by religious factions. History records this as a clash of faiths, where art and literature were often viewed as being "against the beliefs" of the invaders.

It took centuries for cities to recover from such staggering losses. Meanwhile, others took advantage of the chaos; by transferring stolen masterpieces back to their own capitals, they fueled a new "art revolution" elsewhere at the expense of the original culture.

What we did not expect—and what we failed to predict—is a new attack on literature and art in the 21st century, nearly ten centuries after the Crusades.

Unfortunately, it seems a different kind of war started years ago. It is a war of corrosion affecting our radio, television, and film industries. Most shockingly, it has now infiltrated our literature. I have personally warned against this tide of misinformation, misleading narratives, and the forced insertion of ideologies into the public consciousness for some time. Yet, we continue to face these assaults in every aspect of the arts, including the very books we write and read.

Having studied the data and the historical impacts of the 12th and 13th-century Crusades on human expression, I see the parallels clearly. As a writer and author, I am issuing a call to action.

I am asking all authors, writers, and everyone involved in our communication systems: put an end to this wave. We must protect the integrity of our craft from modern revisionism.

FYI : 

What Happened During the Collapse?

The "collapse" was both physical and cultural. For three days, the city—then the wealthiest in the world—was subjected to a brutal sack:

1. Looting: Soldiers stole priceless gold, silver, and religious relics. Many of these items, like the famous Bronze Horses, were taken back to Venice and still sit in St. Mark's Basilica today.

2. Destruction: Libraries were burned, and ancient Greek and Roman statues were melted down for coin. The Hagia Sophia was desecrated and stripped of its treasures.

3. The Latin Empire: The Crusaders abolished the Byzantine Empire and established the "Latin Empire of Constantinople," which lasted until 1261

THE AUTHOR IS NOT YOUR CATCHER - DEFENDING PRIVACY IN LITERARY WORLD

 We live in a world saturated with hundreds of news stories and ideas. Naturally, we filter these based on our personal interests, opinions, and relevance to our lives. In the film industry, creators pitch ideas to directors and producers who then select the best concepts to bring to the public, guided by their expertise and budget.

However, I have witnessed a troubling distortion of this process. For years, I have seen individuals treat their personal problems like a game of baseball, trying to "pitch" their life struggles to writers and authors. They expect us to transform their burdens into books or to act as their spokespeople before authorities.

Since publishing my book, Can We Talk and Listen to Shoes, I have faced an increasingly unrealistic demand from the public. What started as requests has escalated into harassment. These individuals operate under the delusion that I am a "catcher" who is obligated to catch whatever they throw.

In this imaginary game, they cross serious lines:

False Narratives: Pretending I am a world leader or a president.

Projected Conflict: Claiming they are "at war" with me.

Unreasonable Expectations: Demanding I solve systemic or personal issues beyond my control.

While I believe that anyone can achieve their dreams through hard work and persistence, this "unpleasant game" is a direct interference with my privacy and personal life. Forcing an author to listen by creating an abusive and hostile environment is not a creative exchange—it is outrageous and unacceptable.