STEALING A PERSONA TO COVER AN EMPTY IDENTITY

As a writer, you expect audiences to read your work, reflect on it, and perhaps find a piece of themselves within the pages. What you do not expect is for individuals to steal your fictional worlds, slip into them like costumes, and attempt to drag you into a chaotic, manufactured reality. For years, I have witnessed a bizarre and exhausting phenomenon: people taking my fiction—specifically my book *"Waiting Eyes on the Road"* and * Without *—attempting to play out its characters in real life, weaponizing my own creativity against me.

They constantly switch back and forth between two entirely different identities: one moment acting as a struggling, marginalized immigrant or a poor individual, and the next moment pretending to be an original, established Canadian or rich person. This fluid, chaotic shape-shifting—using my book's themes as a playground—is the ultimate sign of having no real identity. They don't know who they are, so they look to my text to tell them who to be today.

This behavior raises critical questions about copyright, human psychology, and the desperate lengths to which some will go to escape their own reality.

The first, most practical question is logistical: how do individuals who have never legally purchased my books become so intimately aware of their contents? In the digital age, copyright infringement and unauthorized sharing run rampant. Whether through public previews, digital scraping, or illicit private sharing, these groups bypass legal boundaries to access my work without authorization.

But the deeper question is not how they read it—it is why they are so utterly obsessed with it. Why are my fiction books so important to them that they are willing to completely abandon their own lives to play-act inside mine?

The answer lies in a profound crisis of identity.

As the old adage goes, a person who truly knows who they are has no desire to pretend to be someone else. Someone secure in their own skin never tries to force themselves into the role of a book hero, nor do they desperately pretend to be a "suffering character" to garner unearned sympathy.

When people lack a genuine sense of self, they "rent" identities from fiction. They desperately want to be fiction because being real is too painful. They have built a reality full of mistakes, deception, or a lack of personal achievement. They believe that if they play a character convincingly enough, the world will forget who they actually are. They use a stolen script because real life requires accountability, and a fictional script allows them to control the narrative. By casting themselves as the victim or the protagonist, they try to force the author into the role of the villain—be it an abusive mother-in-law, an ex-husband, or a bitter ex-lover.

This desperate need for control doesn't stop at the plotlines of a book; it spills over into an obsession with my real-world finances. For years, I have noticed these same groups hyper-focusing on and criticizing my financial status. They alternate rapidly between two extremes: either insisting that I am poor, or claiming that I am incredibly wealthy, and then shifting their behavior to fight against whichever imaginary version of me they’ve created.

They walk around me constantly demanding that I shouldn't have done this or that, projecting their own financial anxieties onto my life. They claim my actions are "signs of being rich," while simultaneously demanding jobs and money from me. In an attempt to suppress my reality, they threaten me, saying, *"Don't say you have money," "Don't say you can afford this,"* or *"Don't say you can do this or that,"* simply because they cannot do it themselves.

Another group assumes that anything I say or do is directly related to my book characters. Regardless of the fact that these are works of fiction, they use these stolen characters as reality, questioning my every step as if I somehow became a criminal just by writing those books. They invent wild theories about my life—imagining that maybe I am an addict, a politician, or extremely wealthy, or that I escaped from my family or be this or that.

One fact that amuses me most is that even businesses are involved in this play-act. Their communication completely changes, shifting as if they have known me from the past, have some mysterious connection to higher powers, or are even spies from other countries. This wild fiction-playing has been spinning completely out of hand for years.

It is utterly ridiculous to witness. They are terrified of my writing, terrified of my independence, and terrified of the truth. Because they cannot elevate themselves, they try to pull me down, using my own words as weapons to police my budget, my lifestyle, and my success. Some individuals crossing the line control my finances by interference in my daily life preventing I close my deals or travel or even step out of my proprty constantly looking for my books characters in my life .

The tragedy of their behavior is that it is a trap of their own design. You cannot build a stable life on stolen text, borrowed identities, and financial envy. They think covering the truth with lies and playing a character can make others feel sorry for them or force me into submission.

But reality cannot be erased by theatrical roles. The harder they try to manipulate the narrative through lies, intellectual property theft, cheating, and fighting against the author, the deeper they drown in the false dirt they have created for themselves.

As a writer, my identity is secure, and the worlds I create belong to me. They can try to play dress-up in my characters' clothes , but at the end of the day, they are still the ones wandering around in the dark, desperately looking for a costume to wear.

BEYOND THE WALL: THE BLAME GAME OF INTEGRATION

 We have all read in history books about the momentous day the Berlin Wall fell, and how East and West Germany merged into a unified nation. Initially, there was euphoria; people had fought desperately for this moment. Yet, as history later revealed, the initial wave of happiness eventually gave way to complex regrets.

When two worlds merge—even those sharing the same land and heritage—they are suddenly forced to confront deep economic, political, and cultural divides. At first, the excitement of change masks these fractures. But once the novelty wears off, a competitive game of "show me yours, and I'll show you mine" begins. Both sides face off, trying to prove they were the "better half," while insisting that every new problem is entirely the other side’s fault.

I don’t mean to dwell purely on the history of Berlin. Rather, I want to highlight a frustrating phenomenon that I, as an immigrant, have faced for decades.I noticed anywhere I work, go, or do, if I point out an issue, those who caused the problem immediately try to turn the tables and blame immigrants, and even announce it in my face: "they are yours, or it is you." Yet, anything professional, ethical, appropriate, and efficient happening, they immediately take credit for it as a "they are ours, it is me" scenario.

It is  clear many who originally championed "breaking the wall" now secretly regret the realities of integration. They want to fiercely protect their old cultural bubbles and maintain their previous financial status, all while exploiting their new political rights to control the narrative. They want the benefits of a borderless world, but refuse the shared accountability that comes with it.

Looking back, perhaps the wall should never have been broken in that manner. It might have been better to leave the boundaries intact, giving everyone a clear, permanent choice: stay on your side, or stay on mine. Because when you tear down a wall without opening your mind, you simply build a new, invisible barrier made of scapegoating and resentment.

THE DICTATORSHIP OF TWISTED RESPECT

 We have all heard the timeless advice: "Treat people the way you want to be treated." It is a noble principle meant to encourage professionalism, ethics in business, and committed, unconditional love in relationships. It is supposed to build mutual respect.

Unfortunately, this standard is increasingly being twisted by some individuals into a tool for control, abuse, and harassment.

Instead of inspiring kindness, the statement is being misused to justify toxic behaviors and retaliation:

• In Professional Environments: If you choose to quit a job for your own growth, it is used to justify blacklisting or having other companies abruptly "quit" on you.

• In Family Dynamics: If you train your children behave , it is twisted so that they treat you like a child—expecting you to obey them rather than showing you parental respect or your partner mirroring you .

• In Personal Choices: If you exercise your freedom of choice—whether it is disliking a store, a movie, a song, a neighborhood, or a property—they actively retaliate against your tastes. They force unrelated consequences into completely irrelevant events just because you didn't conform.

This behavior has absolutely nothing to do with love or respect. Instead, it creates an abusive, dictatorial environment designed to force you into living exactly how they want you to live, liking only what they approve of. The moment you exercise your own free will or use your personal options, you suddenly find yourself under attack and facing harassment everywhere you turn.

It raises a deeply troubling question about our society: Are we living in a world where the very best advice is being weaponized against our personal choices?

STOP USING AN IMAGINARY HERO TO MASK YOUR BULLYING

 Love is not something you can buy or sell. When people place conditions on loving you—saying things like, *"If you are who you truly are, we can't love you,"* or *"If you want our love, you must do whatever we want"*—that is not love. That is control and a desire for power.

The worst approach is when people constantly compare you to someone else 24/7, trying to force you into a competition, or threatening to replace you. The answer to this behavior is simple: **They do not love you; they love having a person under their control.** They want a puppet to achieve what they couldn't achieve themselves, or to act out the things they couldn't do.

For a long time, I have noticed an "advertisement" around me trying to make me believe there is a powerful force watching and controlling me, expecting me to behave exactly as it likes. Deep down, I know there is no one there. They are desperately trying to prove this force exists, and even though I do not care what they want me to believe, these distressing thoughts are nonstop.

Through bullying, verbal abuse, harassment, and defamation, they have created a powerful, rich "statue" based on my own book characters. They insist this abusive, imaginary person is everywhere—following me, controlling me, and disapproving of what I say and do.

It seems they are trying to set up a role model for their children without putting in the actual effort. Instead, they bully and scare someone else to teach their kids.

This reminds me of a video I saw on a social media reel:

A mother was trying to feed her child, but the child refused to eat. The mother then tried to feed her husband. When he pretended to refuse, the mother slapped him, and he quickly ate his food. The child, watching this and fearing he would be hit next, quickly ate his food too.

Bullies who claim to be parents—specifically mothers—have been using these exact tactics for years to control their children, spouses, and teenagers. They have tried to control me by pretending these harassments come either from my ex-husband or from their imaginary hero. For a long time, they even tried to pull my daughters into this abuse, pretending that my daughters were the ones who didn't want me doing this or that.

The Reality Behind the Harassment

While these bullies attempt to create harassment through verbal abuse, financial pressure, false advertising, defamation, and control, the reality is different. They are a bunch of puppets being used for political and economic purposes.

It is entirely unclear why they think bullying me will help them achieve their political goals. It seems they use parents and these puppets simply to make me shut up, hoping I will not talk about what they have done and what they continue to do.

SYSTEMIC CORRUPTION, MEDICAL MALPRACTICE, AND UNETHICAL EXPERIMENTATION

 Medical science was created to help patients and improve all aspects of life, including health. However, it can be incredibly dangerous and abusive if used the wrong way. A clear example of this is the story of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde—where a normal doctor experimenting with a drug changes him.

​I personally am a victim of these types of experimental tests and drugs without my permission. One erased my memories, and for years they tried to replace them with lies and inaccurate memories. Another made me suffer from pain and left me practically disabled for ten years until I stopped taking them. They used me like an animal to test their experiments and drugs, and my complaints and objections only came back with more harassment, abuse, and pain.

​When human rights let a telecommunication system do 24/7 wrong advertising, trying to make a lie version of me to the public—even using hospitals, doctors, police, and the legal system—who can defend my violated rights for 20 years?

PROUD TO BE PART OF THE TEAM

 

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY

 * **To the Sole Providers:** To the mothers who raised their children alone, carrying the weight of two worlds on their shoulders without complaint.

 * **To the Forsaken:** To the mothers living in nursing homes, feeling the sting of betrayal from the very children they nurtured, yet still holding love in their hearts.

 * **To the Misunderstood:** To those who faced disrespect in exchange for their unconditional love, and to those who were left behind or passed away in loneliness.

 * **To the Sacrificed:** To the women who gave up their dreams and lives for their loved ones, only to be met with ingratitude.

 * **To the Judged:** To the moms who endure the cold stares of strangers and the accusations of a public that doesn't know their story or their struggle.

**To the Warriors of Spirit**

"A mother’s strength isn’t just in what she does, but in what she survives with her grace intact."

 * **To the Advocates:** To the strong mothers who stand tall for their rights and refuse to be silenced.

 * **To the Unfazed:** To those who ignore the labels society tries to pin on them and choose to live their lives with freedom and authenticity.

 * **To the Patient Observers:** To the moms who let the "gossip mouths" talk their nonsense, knowing that their truth is theirs alone, and quietly wait for gossips' turn.

**Happy Mother’s Day.** Your strength is seen, your sacrifices are noted, and your worth is immeasurable. Today, we celebrate the unbreakable spirit of every mother who has endured, survived, and continued to love.

MY HOME & MY CREATIONS ARE NOT YOUR HARASSMENT TOOLS

I want to make one thing very clear: do not bring family disputes or personal grievances into my home. I am not responsible for the dynamics between mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws, nor am I a party to any conflicts involving your sons.

It has come to my attention that a group is using one of the characters from my books—a mother-in-law who is suspicious of her daughter-in-law’s past—to fuel their own theories and behaviors. It is deeply concerning that individuals who have not even purchased my work seem to know every word and are now misusing these characters for their own ends.

There is a clear pattern here. Whenever I post and tag the relevant authorities, the immediate reaction from these groups confirms their involvement in these ongoing issues. This interference in both my business and my personal life, characterized by nonstop harassment and the creation of baseless theories, must end.

My creative work is not a script for your personal performances or harassment. I am calling for an end to the theft of my characters and the persistent intrusion into my life.

WHOSE SIDE ARE YOU ON? A QUESTION FOR HOUSING DECISION-MAKERS

 In major metropolitan areas, housing remains a persistent and high-stakes challenge. There are thousands of young people who cannot afford to enter the market, and thousands of elderly citizens who struggle to keep up with rising rents. It is encouraging that the government is examining this issue, but recent interventions in cities like Toronto and Vancouver suggest a shift in the burden rather than a total solution.

While decreasing property values and lower rents are celebrated by one half of the population, we must ask: Has the government considered the decades of labor invested by the other half?

Current policies seem to have moved the financial strain from tenants to owners, rather than resolving the root causes. We are not discussing the top 5% of billionaires or lottery winners; we are talking about the **95% of homeowners** who fall into two categories:

The Long-term Savers: Those who have spent their lives paying off a mortgage, viewing their home as their primary investment and safety net for retirement.

 The Small Investors: Those who worked to afford a modest secondary property specifically to live off the rental income in their later years.

When housing "solutions" result in a constant reduction of property value, they effectively devalue the life's work of the middle class. Resolving the housing crisis should not be a matter of switching pressure from one side to the other.

The Critical Question:

When these decisions were being made, was the focus on the whole population, or just one-half?

A true resolution should not involve making one demographic suffer to benefit another. If the strategy is simply to win the votes of tenants while sacrificing the security of owners, it isn't a long-term fix—it is a redistribution of hardship. Real leadership requires a balanced approach that protects the investments of hardworking homeowners while still creating paths for new buyers and renters.

WEAPONIZING CARE

 Decades ago, many men preferred having a "weak" woman by their side to ensure their own manhood was highlighted by comparison. Over the years, this mentality has shifted as women have consistently demonstrated their immense capability and strength. History proves that women are more than capable of raising children alone and working shoulder-to-shoulder with men in every field.

​Despite this, a lingering bias remains. Some men still prefer that the women in their lives remain dependent on them, clinging to the outdated belief that a woman cannot truly survive without a man.

​It is important to distinguish between capability and preference:

• ​Natural Desire for Care: Many women appreciate a level of dependency as a part of a healthy relationship. Having a partner who wants to provide and care for you can be a beautiful dynamic.

• ​The Fallacy of Incapability: The problem arises when society assumes that if a woman achieves something, it was only possible because a man was behind her. This belief minimizes female intelligence and agency.

​The reality is that while many women can live without a man, they choose to have a caring partner in their lives. However, the moment "care" transforms into a claim of gender superiority, it becomes toxic. When a man uses a woman's willingness to be cared for as a way to point out her "weakness," he is no longer a provider—he is weaponizing her trust.

​The Bottom Line: Being cared for is a choice we make, not a favor we owe. When support is used as a tool for suppression, it is no longer care; it is control.

 

 

THE BARRIER CREATORS: WHY YOU WANT ME TO FAIL

 For both immigrants and refugees, relocation is a massive milestone that often requires "starting from zero." This involves the grueling process of requalification, volunteering just to get a foot in the door, and accepting entry-level labor regardless of one's previous professional standing. For refugees, this transition is even more profound, often marked by an "unexplained situation" where trauma meets the cold reality of bureaucracy.

In observing this journey, we can categorize the outcomes into four distinct groups:

1. Those who were successful in their home countries and successfully translated that drive into the host country.

2. High-achievers in their origin countries who, due to systemic barriers or personal circumstances, could not reclaim their status in the host country.

3. Those who struggled in their origin countries but found the right environment, resources, or "fresh start" needed to thrive in the host country.

4. Those who, regardless of the environment, find it difficult to achieve stability or success.

While these outcomes are influenced by external factors—family support, finances, education, and environment—the psychological battle is often the most difficult to navigate.

A significant challenge immigrants face is the pressure from various groups trying to use the immigrant’s life as "proof" for their own ideologies.

People back home may try to prove that immigration is a mistake, creating mental or social barriers to ensure you fail and validating their choice to stay. Conversely, some insist that success is guaranteed for everyone, ignoring the systemic hurdles and personal sacrifices required. Others in the host country, fearing job competition, spread narratives that immigrants can never truly belong, hoping to discourage them. Finally, some believe in a fixed destiny, viewing success as mere luck to justify their own lack of progress.

Regardless of which category a person falls into, one truth remains: creating barriers, defamation, or harassment to block another person's success is unacceptable. Using someone else’s struggle to prove a personal point or to avoid taking responsibility for one's own situation is a selfish act. Success should be celebrated, and the path to it should be supported, not sabotaged by the insecurities of others.

THE ARCHITECTURE OF ENVY

 There is a specific segment of society composed of individuals who, burdened by their own professional failures or personal stagnations, choose to weaponize their resentment. Driven by an inability to achieve their goals—whether it is securing employment or attaining a certain lifestyle—they redirect their internal anger toward others.

Since finding success as a writer and blogger, and particularly after receiving several awards for my books, I have become a target for this displaced aggression. I have faced persistent discrimination and threats aimed at silencing my achievements. These individuals attempt to dictate my life, telling me not to mention my awards, my blog, or my plans to move. They seek to control my narrative, often by fabricating past relationships with me or imagining ties that simply do not exist.

In reality, while they occupy themselves with these fantasies, they are actively attempting to tear down the lives of others. They seem to believe that through harassment and systemic control, they can find a release for their own bitterness. Furthermore, their desperation for control extends to the intellectual realm; some even try to pretend that every original idea or thought you produce actually belongs to someone else. In an extreme attempt to undermine my autonomy, some have even gone as far as creating an imaginary persona, trying to convince the public that this fictional individual is the "main brain" and primary supporter behind my work.Even as they exert control over various aspects of your life, they remain unsatisfied, unable to tolerate the fact that you possess a unique approach or a fresh perspective. 

I consistently recommend that such individuals seek professional psychiatric help to uncover the root of this discriminatory and often racist behavior. Most often, this conduct stems from childhood neglect or deep-seated ignorance—a failure that follows them into adulthood, leading them to believe that hurting others is a cure for their own pain. It is not.

I have personally suffered within this toxic environment for years. It is important to note the following:

These mentally disturbed individuals even believe that through abuse and pressure, they can force me to maintain past relationships that I have willingly and decisively ended. It is unclear why they insist on my involvement with people from whom I have cut ties for logical and personal reasons. Clearly, they suffer from a profound lack of love and a sense of unhealthy dependency, mistakenly believing they can find fulfillment by interfering in my life.

The path to healing is through self-reflection and professional help, not through the harassment of those who have worked hard to build their own success.

STOP THE MISUSE OF PERSONAL HISTORY AND FAMILY PRIVACY FOR ENTERTAINMENT

I am writing to formally address and protest a persistent and deeply concerning pattern of behavior regarding the broadcast content and "theories" being circulated by radio stations. For a significant period, I have observed radio platforms fostering rumors and creating a poisoned environment surrounding my private life. This must stop immediately.

My personal life and financial status are mine alone. The continuous guessing, creation of theories, and the calculated "waiting for a reaction" from me is not entertainment—it is **mental and emotional harassment**. I am not a celebrity or a politician from whom you could derive public benefit; I am an ordinary author who writes about political issues. Using your platform to speculate on my private matters is a violation of basic boundaries and professional ethics.

I have noticed constant, derogatory critiques of my professional background. You have repeatedly weaponized my history as a *manager and engineer* to mock my current writing work. Comparing my previous income to my current earnings is a private financial matter; using it to manufacture a "That was you, and this is you" scenario has incited the public to follow me and point me out in my daily life. This narrative is a malicious attempt to devalue my career transitions.

The 24/7 comparison between my life and my daughters' lives is *abusive*. We are in no competition, and we live our lives without the need for such comparisons. Furthermore, involving my *ex-husband, my family, my daughters, and even members of my country of origin* in your advertising to fuel your show is a gross violation of my rights. Any assumption that my family interferes with my decisions is factually wrong; they have never interfered with my life or my choices.

As an author, I have noted constant threats and pressure regarding my right to post political opinions or share relevant articles. This attempt to silence me through intimidation and "fake news" is a blatant lack of accountability and an act of *censorship*. I have the right to express my views without being used as a tool for your station’s "wrong advertising."

I am requesting that you immediately:

 * Stop spreading fake news and using the public to prove your theories.

 * Cease using my professional history, my family members, and my origin as props for your entertainment.

 * Refrain from creating a poisoned environment that encourages the public to harass me.

While I am flattered to see that radio stations are interested in my journey, I suggest that if you want to know anything about my life, you stop the guessing and the theories. We can instead arrange an interview where I can answer your questions directly and accurately.

I ask that you respect these boundaries and return to a standard of broadcasting that does not rely on the defamation or emotional distress of private individuals.

TO REZA PAHLAVI: A CALL FOR DEMOCRATIC TOLERANCE

 Mr. Reza Pahlavi,

I am writing to you today as an independent Iranian-Canadian writer to address a persistent and distressing issue that has significantly impacted my personal and private life for several years.

As someone who sheds light on political and social issues, I operate with complete independence and remain free of any conflicts of interest. Since the onset of recent unrest, my primary objective has been to urge journalists and media outlets to report authentic news regarding Iran—prioritizing truth over partisan benefits or biased narratives.

We share a profound love for our country of origin. While I was only a child during your father’s reign, I carry a complex mix of memories from that era. I also recognize the historical pain your family has endured and the way international "allies" shifted their loyalties when the political tides turned.

However, I must be candid regarding my stance on governance in 2026. My belief in democratic principles remains firm: I do not believe that leadership should be a matter of inheritance rather than qualification, nor do I believe in the concentration of power within a single individual for decades. In a modern world, the right of the people to self-determine and change their leadership—a presidential approach—is essential. I have noted your own public statements suggesting you do not seek a crown, which indicates an awareness of this evolving global landscape.

The core reason for this correspondence is not to debate political ideology, but to address the actions of those who claim to be your supporters. For some time, individuals acting in your name have been attacking my work, interfering with my daily routine, and intruding upon my personal life under the guise of loyalty to your cause.

History shows us how quickly political tides can turn—we need only look at the shifting allegiances during the era of Dr. Mossadegh to see how easily "supporters" can transform. True democracy requires the existence of diverse options and the freedom to express dissenting opinions without fear of personal reprisal.

I am asking you to please direct your supporters to cease their interference in my personal life. While they are entirely free to hold and express their political views—which I am always willing to read and listen to as part of a democratic exchange—attacking an individual for their personal choices and opinions is a hallmark of the very dictatorship I believe you wish to oppose.

I invite you to engage with my blog and books should your schedule allow, as they offer a perspective rooted in the experiences of an ordinary writer navigating these turbulent times.

Thank you for your time and for listening to the voice of an independent writer.

THE HIDDEN COST OF THE IMMIGRANT JOURNEY: FACING THE DOUBLE JEOPARDY OF BELONGING

 Every year, hundreds of thousands of immigrants land in Canada. The immigration system is a meticulously researched and strategically designed framework intended to attract global talent. By Every year, hundreds of thousands of immigrants land in Canada. The immigration system is strategically designed to attract talent from around the world to boost the economy, advance education and technology, and integrate global experiences into the Canadian fabric. These systems are not random; they are the result of extensive research and planning. Yet, while the system is designed for national growth, a significant portion of the pressure falls on the immigrants themselves, while many of the structural benefits favor those born in Canada.

As an immigrant who has faced discrimination, racism, ignorance, and injustice, I have seen firsthand the "hidden cost" that newcomers pay to live here. Even after navigating the system and becoming a citizen, many immigrants find that their status is still questioned. Through various forms of harassment, stereotyping, and emotional abuse, some individuals use terms like "dual" or "two" to create a hierarchy, suggesting that those with only one citizenship are superior or more entitled to Canadian jobs and opportunities.

For a long time, I heard phrases like "you are two" or "we are one," and was told that certain jobs "belong to us, not you." My international financial history and professional background were criticized or dismissed. Initially, I misunderstood these comments—thinking they referred to relationship status—but the reality of 24/7 harassment and the constant assumptions about my personal life made the truth clear: this is about systemic discrimination against immigrants.

It is a tactic used to silence those who speak up about the serious problems within the Canadian system. Having paid a high personal and financial price for my independence and freedom, I am now bringing these issues of injustice, harassment, and financial discrimination to the attention of the authorities.

This emotional harassment is not confined to the host country or the belief that only those born in Canada truly "own" the land. It extends painfully back to the country of origin as well. Many who remain in the home country reject those who chose to live abroad, claiming a primary ownership of the culture and the nation.

Consequently, immigrants are trapped in a state of double jeopardy. They are pushed out of opportunities and social circles in their new home because they are seen as outsiders, yet they are simultaneously alienated from their homeland for having left. It creates a cycle where, regardless of where they stand, they are told they do not belong.

THE MANY LIVES I LIVED BEFORE BECOMING A WRITER

 I’ve noticed many of you are curious about what my life looked like before I became a writer. I believe in being open about the path I’ve walked, so I’d like to share the timeline of my career with you.

My professional journey has been anything but a straight line. I began my first chapter working as a receptionist and accounting assistant, eventually moving into roles as a private tutor and junior engineer. Over time, I climbed the ladder to become a Project Controls (PC) Head, Senior Engineer, and ultimately an Executive Manager.

Then, life directed me to start from zero.

I pivoted into volunteer work, served as a financial adviser, and returned to the field as a co-op student. I began building again, moving from an engineer working in a warehouse to a senior engineer working on job sites, and eventually becoming a Senior PC Lead.

Then, one more time, life dictated that I start from zero.

I tried working on job sites over and over. I worked at Home Depot as a warehouse associate, doing what was necessary to keep moving forward.

Today, I am a writer, blogger, and journalist, currently working part-time as I build this new chapter.

I’m sharing this to encourage anyone who feels they need to start over in some part of their life. Life doesn’t always follow the script we write for it; it has inevitable ups and downs. I’ve learned that the best way to reach your milestones is through persistent hard work and, above all, never giving up.

THE ULTIMATE BETRAYAL: WHEN A HUSBAND PLAYS DEAD TO HIDE THE CHEAT

Once, a wealthy merchant kept a beautiful parrot in a gilded cage. Though the bird was provided with the finest seeds and sweet water, it spent its days staring through the bars, longing for the lush forests of its native India.

Before the merchant set off on a business trip to India, he asked each of his servants what gifts they desired. Finally, he turned to the parrot. "And what shall I bring for you from your homeland?"

The parrot replied, "I ask for no silks or jewels. Only this: when you see the free parrots of India, tell them that one of their own is trapped in a cage in a far-off land. Tell them I am dying of longing for them, and ask if they have any advice for me."

The merchant promised to deliver the message. Upon reaching India, he found a grove filled with wild parrots. He stood beneath the trees and shouted the message. To his horror, the moment he finished speaking, one of the wild parrots began to tremble violently. It fell from its branch and landed on the forest floor, seemingly dead.

The merchant was shaken with guilt. "I have caused the death of a kinsman," he lamented.

When he returned home, he distributed his gifts but avoided the parrot’s cage. Eventually, the bird asked, "What news from my brothers in India?"

The merchant sighed. "It is a heavy tale. When I spoke your words, one of the free parrots fell dead on the spot from grief."

As soon as the merchant uttered these words, the caged parrot began to tremble. It fell to the floor of its cage, its feathers still and its eyes closed. Heartbroken, the merchant wept for his companion. "To think my words killed you, too!"

Believing the bird to be dead, the merchant opened the cage door and placed the limp body on the windowsill to prepare it for burial. In an instant, the parrot's wings snapped open. It took flight, soaring to the highest branch of a nearby tree.

"What is this?" the merchant cried. "You deceived me!"

The parrot looked down and chirped, "The parrot in India was not a victim of grief; he was a messenger of truth. He showed me that it was my 'sweet song' and my 'beauty'—the very things you loved—that kept me a prisoner. He taught me that to be free, I had to die to the role you created for me."

With a final beat of its wings, the parrot flew toward the horizon, leaving the merchant alone with his empty golden cage.

Manupluation the story by husband - Playing Dead to Move On

In a modern, twisted adaptation of Rumi’s The Parrot and the Merchant, the "Golden Cage" is no longer a physical prison, but a marriage built on a wife’s loyalty. In this version, the parrot is a husband who has already wandered in his heart, seeking the thrill of infidelity while maintaining the comfort of his home.

​To escape the "cage" of his vows without being labeled a villain, he performs the ultimate act of manipulation: the performative collapse.

​The husband, already involved in an affair, begins to act out a spiritual and emotional death. He doesn't confess his cheating; instead, he plays the victim of his own life. He stops "singing," becoming a ghost in his own home. He tells his wife he is "suffering," "suffocating," and "losing his very soul" within the confines of their family.

​By acting "dead" to the world, he forces his wife into the role of the merchant. She watches him wither and feels an agonizing guilt, believing her love and their shared life are the bars that are killing him.

​The climax occurs when the husband "collapses" entirely. He reaches a point where he claims he can no longer function, effectively playing dead to the marriage. Heartbroken and desperate to save him, the wife does exactly what the merchant did: she opens the cage. She lets him go, believing that by releasing him, she is performing a final act of mercy for a man who is "dying" under the weight of domesticity.

​The moment the cage door swings open, the "dead" husband miraculously recovers. He takes flight, soaring straight to the "highest branch"—the life he had secretly built with his mistress.

​From this new height, he continues the deception:

• ​The Victim Narrative: He tells anyone who will listen that he was a "prisoner" and that his wife was responsible for his misery.
• ​The "Full Potential": He claims he has finally reached his true potential, framing his betrayal as a "spiritual awakening" rather than a calculated exit.
• ​The Guilt-Free Exit: By playing the victim, he avoids the guilt of his infidelity, leaving his wife to mourn a man who never truly existed, while he enjoys the freedom he stole through a lie.

THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE: DEFENDING THE THEMES OF "WAITING EYES ON THE ROAD"

I have written several books exploring the various angles of hidden societal issues. While I have always welcomed constructive criticism as a tool to improve my ideas and my craft, the response I have received regarding my book, **Waiting Eyes on the Road**, has often crossed the line from professional critique into personal harassment.

When individuals look at a book cover and immediately launch accusations of "discrimination" or claim the work is "against the middle or lower class," they are no longer engaging with the literature. This is not professional criticism; it is a form of sabotaging—a tactic more common in politics than in the arts. It is time to make a clear clarification to put an end to this nonsense.

**Waiting Eyes on the Road** is fundamentally a story about:

 * **Choice:** The power we have to steer our own lives.

 * **Freedom:** The right to exist without the weight of others' expectations.

 * **Politics and Journeys:** How the decisions we make fundamentally alter the path we walk.

For those playing the "discrimination game," I could easily turn the same questions back on you. Why did you choose your specific career? Why did you marry who you did? Why did you choose your specific lifestyle? Why did you choose to become a biological parent instead of adopting?

Since my book was published, I have been dodging a million questions like these. The answer is simple, yet it seems many critics have forgotten it: **Freedom.**

People are entitled to live exactly as they like, provided they do not interfere with others or negatively impact someone else's life through their choices. Ironically, those who question my choices are the ones interfering with my life. It is the height of hypocrisy to celebrate freedom while demanding that everyone else eat, shop, dress, travel, and live exactly as you do.

No one is obligated to pick what you pick, live where you live, or value what you value. An individual’s life is their business. The moment you believe you have the right to question someone else’s lifestyle, remember that they have the same right to question yours.

I hope this serves as a final word on this matter. I am here to discuss ideas and writing, but I will no longer tolerate sabotaging, harassment, or the interference with my fundamental freedom to live and write as I choose.

THE UNEDITABLE PAST

 Life is a tapestry of events, filled with unexpected ups and downs. While we can manage some challenges and must simply face others as part of the human journey, there is one boundary that should never be crossed: the attempt by others to rewrite your past.

Our identity is built upon our history. It is unacceptable for someone to attempt to distort the reality of your background or manipulate your surroundings to make you believe your life was something other than what you lived. This often extends to personal relationships, where an external force tries to dictate a narrative that contradicts your actual experience, forcing you and others to believe a person or a connection was something it was not.

When people dedicate their entire existence and resources to maintaining such a deception, they create a surreal and hollow environment. What begins as an effort to "rebrand" or change who you are inevitably descends into a cycle of:

 * **Abuse and Harassment:** Constant pressure to conform to a lie.

 * **Psychological Torture:** Systematically gaslighting you until you question your own memory and sense of self.

 * **Total Loss of Self:** They lose their own lives to the pursuit of this unreasonable change, while you are forced to spend your life defending yourself against their accusations, baseless assumptions, and fabrications.

Your background is not a project for someone else to edit. What makes you who you are is rooted in truth, and any attempt to replace that truth with imagination is not just a deception—it is an act of profound harm.

THE WEIGHT OF THE UNSEEN: WHY I SPEAK OUT

 To my readers and my critics, it is time to address the reality of why these stories reach the public eye. Being a writer who tackles ignored issues is rarely a path of least resistance; it is often paved with defamation, relentless criticism, and even threats.

Critics frequently fixate on the final word—the published article—without acknowledging the exhaustive history behind it. They see the "what" but choose to ignore the "how" and the "why."

Before a single word is ever shared with the public, I follow a rigorous, step-by-step process of seeking justice within the system:

 1. **Direct Resolution:** I first attempt to resolve the issue directly with the individuals involved, offering a chance for accountability at the source.

 2. **Internal Escalation:** If that fails, I bring the matter to higher management, trusting that leadership will rectify the situation.

 3. **Formal Complaints:** When ignored by leadership, I file official complaints with the relevant authorities, moving up the chain of command.

The problem arises when the system stops being a solution and starts being a shield. I have witnessed authorities choose to ignore the issue, or worse, attempt to "remove" the problem entirely—not by fixing it, but by erasing evidence and attacking my character to prove there was "never an issue in the first place."

When the base is destroyed to cover the cracks, silence is no longer an option.

I take these issues to the public not out of spite, but out of necessity:

 * **Solidarity:** There are individuals currently suffering through the exact same problems who need to know they are not alone.

 * **Awareness:** A community cannot fix what it does not know is broken.

 * **Oversight:** Public disclosure may reach organizations or advocates I might have missed during the formal process.

 * **The Journalist’s Mandate:** My fundamental responsibility is to share the truth. The public are the ones who live within these systems, the ones who vote, and the only ones with the collective power to stop corruption and ignorance.

As a writer, I am merely the mirror. If the image reflected is "ugly," it is not the fault of the glass, but of the reality it captures. We must look at it together if we ever hope to change it.