FATE, CHOICE AND CIRCLE OF SABOTAGE

 The idea that we are born with a specific destiny is comforting for many. This belief in fate allows people to forgive themselves for their mistakes, failures, and bad situations. They can live without constantly blaming themselves or others, viewing their struggles as part of a larger, unavoidable plan.

However, not everyone accepts this passive role. There are individuals who see any assigned destiny, whether from God or another power, as something they must actively work to improve. These people believe in change; they choose effort and resilience, determined to turn a bad situation into a better one. This contrast—between accepting what happens and acting to change it—is a basic human tension.

This tension creates a destructive problem. We see a group of people who have failed and, instead of trying to improve, become obsessed with proving that destiny cannot be changed. They need others to fail as well to validate their own miserable situation. They think that if their destiny is failure, then everyone else's success is a lie, and making others fail is simply "God’s justice."

This poisonous need leads them to an abusive cycle: blocking, isolating, harassing, and creating hostile environments to make sure others are stuck or give up on their own goals.

This raises two crucial questions: Does tearing others down actually improve the abuser's life? Absolutely not. Sabotage is a time sink. The energy spent creating abuse, jealousy, and obstruction is energy that could have been used for personal growth and fixing their own problems. They remain stuck, defined only by their malicious actions.

Where does this cycle of harassment stop, and who stops it? The abuse stops when the victims refuse to internalize the aggressor’s narrative. It stops when institutions, workplaces, and communities step in and refuse to tolerate malicious behavior. The ultimate responsibility lies with people who choose agency and fairness. They are the ones who must actively define justice as building progress, not demanding shared failure. The fight against this toxic cycle is simply the decision to believe that you have the power to change your life, regardless of anyone else's envy or despair.