BALANCING !

There are two groups of people with extreme behaviors:

One group indulges excessively in spending, eating and luxurious living.

The other group takes extreme measures with frugality, exercising, dieting, and minimalist living.

While both groups make their own choices and isn't criticed, the problem arises when their pretended supporters:

- Expect others to balance their extremes.

- Transfer their problems to a middle person and expect balancing. 

- Control and criticize middle person's every move, regardless of what step she takes and call it justice. 

My question is: Where does the law intervene to stop this pretended teamplayers and supporters harassment controlling for other decisions?