NOT YOUR BUSINESS

 It is staggering how some individuals persist in spying on you, desperate to find a shred of regret following a separation or divorce. They employ a toolkit of deception: tricking you, spying, delaying your milestones, and sabotaging your relationships with family and friends. They insert themselves into your business and, after years of mental and emotional abuse, somehow expect to be welcomed back with open arms.

Individuals who operate this way do not just deserve to live without the loved ones they drove away; they require professional help to diagnose the delusions and deception driving their behavior.

Relationships are private decisions made between two people. It is beyond interference—it is heretical—to observe outsiders jumping into the middle of a separation to perform for one side or sabotage the other. These people often convince themselves they are "doing a favor" or helping you return to your "previous life," when in reality, they are simply extending the cycle of abuse.

They operate on the arrogant assumption that you are desperate to return to a past you consciously chose to leave. This reaches a level of absurdity where every positive step you take for yourself—moving, self-care, buying something new, or dressing up—is misinterpreted as a signal that you are "dying" to see your ex again.

I have personally faced this harassment for nearly 15 years. Even after all this time, every move I make is met with the assumption that I am desperate for my ex or "couldn't find anyone like him." To those harboring these thoughts, I have four things to say:

1. Mind Your Business: It is not your place to involve yourself in the private dynamics of a relationship that ended over a decade ago.

2. The Timeline of Truth: If there were any desire to reunite, it would have happened years ago. It does not take 15 years to realize a mistake.

3. The Double Standard: If I were to interfere in your personal life the way you do mine, you would scream and play the victim. Yet, you feel entitled to follow me and interfere with my life 15 years later.

4. The Truth About New Relationships: You wonder why I haven't entered a new relationship? It is because every person I met seemed to be on a "mission" to make me regret my separation. They played games—acting like "bad boys" or behaving like children—to manipulate my emotions.

It became clear that this interference extended into every corner of my life, from stores to medical services. No one should have to navigate a relationship that is being puppet-mastered by men trying to prove their exes "regret" leaving them.

The most unsettling part is that while my ex may not have approached me directly, there has been a persistent effort behind the scenes to prove a narrative: that the woman is the one begging to return. It is hard to believe that 15 years later, my life is still being disrupted by men playing the "nice guy" role while trying to prove their spouses were at fault.

Final Thought: To those obsessed with this narrative: see a professional. Explore the root of your obsession and the need to prove you were "the best" while painting your former partner as the villain. True healing comes from moving on, not from 15 years of trying to force a regret that doesn't exist.

 

 

THE FRONT-ROW JUNGLE: THE ILLUSION AND EROSION OF IDENTITY

 ​Navigating a social environment where you can only see the "front row of trees"—with everything behind them hidden—is a form of profound psychological harassment. In this method, strangers or bad actors step into the roles of your family members, acting as if they are your children, siblings, or spouse.

• ​Privacy Invasion: By mimicking your loved ones, they bridge the gap into your most personal spaces, making your private life feel unsafe.
• ​Character Assassination: They target your loved ones by exaggerating their weaknesses, mocking their habits, or harshly criticizing their behavior through performance.
• ​Identity Displacement: The goal is often to "take you down" by distorting your perception of those you trust most.

​The motivations behind this behavior are often murky. Those who employ these tactics may be suffering from:

• ​Severe Psychological Disorders: Underlying conditions that distort their perception of reality.
• ​Unresolved Childhood Trauma: Using "roleplay" to process or project their own past pain.

• ​Social Anxiety: An extreme disconnect from their own identity, leading them to try and "become" someone else.

• Compensatory Posturing. Artificially downplaying the difficulty of work or obscuring sources (the 'man behind the curtain' effect) to shield the ego from past failures and justify their value.

​Regardless of the cause, this behavior is a sign of deep distress that requires professional intervention and treatment.

​This trend doesn't just hurt individuals; it erodes the fabric of society, business, and culture. When this method is accepted—particularly by younger generations—people begin to lose their real identities. It creates a world where every person you approach is "acting," causing a total loss of authenticity.

It is better that before we accept to be part of this harassment, we think how it will impact ourselves in both the short and long term.

WHOSE VOICE IS IT?

 Telecommunications and media are the most vital tools in modern society. They exist to connect the public through professional, accurate reporting. In times of crisis, this responsibility becomes a matter of life and death. History shows us that when external resources cover internal news, they have the power to change minds and influence major decisions. This is exactly why even the smallest piece of misinformation can lead to a massive disaster.

Currently, we are seeing a flood of news, videos, and images from Iran. Despite the internet being blocked and phone lines being cut, we continue to observe reports of violence and destruction. However, there is a troubling trend in how this is being covered. International media is heavily highlighting the previous Iranian flag—the symbol of those seeking a return to the monarchy.

As a Canadian-Iranian writer who believes in freedom and respect for national symbols, I am deeply concerned. It appears that instead of staying neutral, many journalists are taking sides. By exaggerating the presence of the "kingdom" supporters, they are distracting the world from the real, hidden issues behind the Iranian people's anger.

I do not wish to belittle the suffering of those who were forced into exile after the revolution. Their pain is real. However, I do not believe that in 2026, the majority of people wish to live in a country where a leader is chosen simply because of their father’s legacy.

• In the modern world, even presidents are limited to two terms for a logical reason.

• Political groups must look back at their own history, evaluate their successes and failures, and understand that the world has moved forward.

The current propaganda regarding a return to the monarchy and the insults directed at the official Iranian flag are far from the standards of accountability in journalism.

• When the media supports or ignores the burning and tearing of a national flag, it invites a cycle of hatred that will eventually return to those same countries.

• A flag is a sign of a country’s worth; when its value is lowered, the security of all national symbols is put at risk.

We must ask ourselves: Would you allow citizens of other countries to vote in your domestic elections? The answer is no. For that same reason, only the citizens living within a land have the right to decide who runs it. While it is natural for the diaspora to be concerned, we must be honest: with the communication systems shut down, we do not have the full story.

My Plea to Journalists: Please be careful. These coverages are extremely sensitive. They can lead to further killing, attacks, and even war. At best, they create a grudge against countries that tried to take advantage of a crisis to support specific opposition groups.

I ask you to stand with free speech, show respect to the flag, and remain silent if you are not fully aware of the real story.

WHY A WOMAN MUST BE DESPERATE TO BE A MOTHER OR WIFE

For too long, society has operated under a distorted definition of what it means to be a parent in the later stages of life. While we claim to value parents, a toxic cultural script has emerged: one that suggests a mother or father must be desperate to be worthy of their title.

​Let us be clear: there is absolutely nothing wrong with a mother needing her children. There is dignity and love in the bond where a parent relies on their children for day-to-day living, or where a child steps in during times of sickness and frailty. That vulnerability is a natural part of the human experience.

​However, being a mother is not limited to that definition. A woman does not lose her status as a mother simply because she is independent, and self-sufficient.

​In many circles across North America today, an independent mother—especially a businesswoman —is often met with a strange form of loyalty testing. If she isn't in a hospital bed or demanding her children’s constant intervention, society starts to cast stones.

​Accusations often arise that she isn't a real mother because she doesn't need her kids. There is sabotage in labeling her autonomy as coldness or suggesting she is crossing the line by maintaining her own life. Some go as far as to isolate her, attempting to shame her into a state of helplessness just so she fits the traditional image of an elderly parent.

​It is 2026. We should be celebrating the fact that many parents are entering their later years with the tools to remain active in business and society. Yet, the public imagination still prioritizes the image of the suffering parent.

​Why must we wait for pain to show value? When did being a mother turn into a requirement to be demanding, sick, or desperate? I have personally observed that this demand for desperation usually extends beyond motherhood; it bleeds into the role of a wife. There is an unspoken rule that to be considered a good wife, you must be seen relying entirely on your husband. If you are a woman who stands on her own feet, you are often viewed with suspicion or judged for not performing the good wife .

​We need a public education shift that honors the full spectrum of aging. We must honor the vulnerable by supporting those who rely on their families for daily survival, but we must also respect the independent by celebrating the mother and wife who runs a business, travels, and manages her own affairs.

​A Call for Change

​Isn’t it time we stop observing parents only through the lens of their needs and start seeing them for their contributions? Whether a mother is lying in a hospital bed or sitting in a boardroom, her value remains the same. Her motherhood is not a status that is activated only when she becomes a burden; it is a lifelong identity that should be honored in both her strength and her struggle.

​The Bottom Line: We must stop equating motherhood and womanhood with misery. True respect means supporting a person’s right to be cared for when they are weak, but also their right to be powerful and independent when they are able.

BULLIES IN HEAVEN, THE MASK OF GOD

 The concept of the afterlife remains one of the most polarizing topics in human history. Most of us are taught from a young age that there is a heaven and a hell waiting for us after death, serving as a warning to refrain from bad deeds. 

However, there are many others who believe there is no other world beyond this one and that everything simply ends when our time of life is over. Between these views exists another group who believes that heaven and hell are found right here in this world; they argue that if you do good or bad, it returns to you while you are still alive.

Unfortunately, within these belief systems, there are individuals who pretend to be religious while playing the role of God or justice. They cross sacred boundaries by digging into your private life, even going so far as listening to your private calls or watching you in your home.

These individuals pretend to be gods who know everything you do just so they can judge whether your actions are good or bad. They may even make assumptions about you based on your childhood or younger age, following you everywhere to judge if what you say, do, watch, listen to, or communicate is right or wrong.

These groups frequently cross the line and then take it upon themselves to punish you for their own personal judgments. For example, if you write a book they do not like, or if you watch a movie or listen to music that goes against their specific taste, they seek retribution. 

They may even target you for being angry or swearing in the privacy of your own home, or for filing a complaint in response to bullies. In a disturbing display of power, they may use dentists, doctors, and hospitals or even court to make you suffer, or they simply choose to ignore your sickness. In some cases, they even make you to pay bullies against your reaction to their abuse. Their primary excuse for this behavior is the claim that they believe in God and obey Him while you do not.

In this atmosphere of mess and harassment, it is often unclear who is truly responsible. It is hard to tell if judges who are called gods are involved, if religious extremists are trying to force you to ignore abuse by leaving it in God's hands, or if bullies are simply playing these roles for their own gain. 

In either case, it is the absolute responsibility of the justice system to clear itself from corruption. The system must stop these bullies and punish the professionals who are involved in this malpractice to ensure that no one is allowed to use faith as a mask for systematic abuse.

BEFORE AND AFTER GAME

 Life is often punctuated by profound incidents—car accidents, natural disasters like earthquakes or volcanoes, the death of a loved one, or the pain of divorce—that fundamentally alter our existence. These events are shaped by a complex interplay of our environment, the judgment of others, and our brain's primal psychological drive to survive.

While society and support organizations typically aim to help survivors cope, there is a darker, more destructive response that occasionally emerges: the "Before and After" game.

In many cases, instead of offering empathy, people create a judgmental environment by constantly comparing the victim’s current state to who they were before the incident. This behavior is deeply damaging because:

 * Erasure of Identity: By insisting the "before" life no longer belongs to the victim, observers isolate the survivor from their own history.

 * Victim Blaming: Judgmental people often begin to question why the disaster happened to that specific person, eventually suggesting there was something "wrong" with the victim to have "attracted" such misfortune.

 * Impossible Expectations: There is often a cruel expectation for the victim to "get back to who they were," ignoring the reality that deep trauma fundamentally changes a person’s chemistry and outlook.

The Consequences of Social Pressure

When a survivor is denied moral and emotional support and is instead met with constant scrutiny, the results can be catastrophic:

 * Mental Health Collapse: The pressure can lead to extreme isolation or, in tragic cases, thoughts of self-harm.

 * A Breakdown in Justice: If the legal or social justice systems join in this "comparison game" rather than addressing the harm, the victim may lose faith in society and feel forced to take matters into their own hands.

 * The Birth of Resentment: By trying to force a victim back into their past self through isolation and shame, the "players" of this game don’t realize they are actually fostering a permanent sense of hatred and a desire for revenge.

The journey of a survivor is already paved with unpredictability and pain. To add the weight of social judgment—blaming someone for an illness, a natural disaster, or a loss they could not control—is a form of secondary abuse. True support requires acknowledging that a person cannot simply "return" to the past; they must be allowed to heal into their new reality without being haunted by the ghost of who they used to be.

To wrap up, we must confront a harsh reality: the secondary victimization that occurs after a tragedy is often as damaging as the initial act.

​Whether it stems from judgmental commentary by strangers who never knew the victim, the systemic ignorance of a rigid justice system, or the manipulative "games" played by friends and family—the impact is the same. Comparing traumas or shifting blame onto the person who suffered is not just a social failing; it is a form of psychological abuse.

​It is time for our legal frameworks to stop being passive observers or unwitting participants in this cycle. The law should serve as a shield against this "after-game," criminalizing the harassment and character assassination that so often follows a victim. Instead of joining the fray, the system must evolve to dismantle this unpleasant process, ensuring that the pursuit of justice does not become a second site of trauma.

NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR

 It is necessary for me to address a persistent and disruptive misinterpretation of my work. For some time now, my posts, books, blogs, and magazine contributions have been subjected to baseless scrutiny by individuals and investigators who claim my writing is targeted toward a specific, "mysterious" person.

I want to be unequivocally clear: I am a professional writer. My work focuses on social and political themes, intended for public discourse and professional engagement.

While any reader is free to interpret literature or articles through their own lens, the current assumptions being circulated are no longer just matters of opinion—they are interfering with my personal and professional life.

 * No Hidden Agendas: My writing is not a tool for "searching" for someone, nor is it a cry to be "found."

 * No Mystery: The people who need to know my location already do. Similarly, the people I communicate with in my personal life are not "mysterious" figures; they are known to me through normal, transparent channels.

 * Professional Integrity: Assuming that my writing contains 'coded' or hidden messages for a specific person is a form of sabotage. It is a deliberate attempt to distract readers and prevent them from engaging with the actual political and social messages I intend to deliver.

 Final Note: I am asking for an end to these abusive assumptions. My purpose as a writer is to engage with the world on a professional level, not to participate in a fictional narrative created by others.